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please can we do inbox trick-or-treating this year. can we make that a thing on tumblr. please please please please please

My theory of adhd management is that in order to focus there are 4 things that need to be sufficiently occupied:

Eyes

Ears

Hands (or body)

Brain

And if you aren’t occupying them enough or there’s too many things demanding the use of one, it’ll start to wreck havoc on your ability to do things.

So for example, listening to a podcast. This occupies your ears and brain as you focus on both listening and processing what you hear, but it leaves your hands and eyes completely without anything to do. If you tried to sit down and just listen to a podcast by itself you’d probably get unbearably bored and stop doing it.

But if you pair that activity with something that uses your hands and eyes, like a craft, household chore, or commute, suddenly you’re fully plugged in and can in fact focus better on both tasks than you could if you tried doing them separately.

It’s also why you can’t listen to a podcast while doing homework; you’re trying to use your brain for two different tasks. To occupy your ears while doing homework (which is already using eyes, brain, and hands) you need something for your ears that doesn’t require your brain: music. Specifically music that doesn’t use too much brain power, which is why some people prefer instrumentals or songs in other languages.

Hyperfixation and sensory overload change this by moving the threshold for how much sensory input you need to be able to function. If I’m extremely focused on a craft project (eyes, hands, brain) I might not even need something for my ears; my interest in the project makes up for it. If i’ve had a very overwhelming day, trying to listen to an audiobook while I do some stretches could be too much to process. My brain needs a break.

Video games, which pretty much universally occupy all 4 areas, are basically instant, easy focus wrapped up in a neat little bow. No wonder adhd-havers tend to love them.

If you’re struggling with a task, try looking at which areas it occupies and which are left unattended. Then try to find something enjoyable to fill those gaps, and see if that helps.

@ethaneldritch Yo that first one is giving me Monty vibes

Mermay by AUTUMN BIRD

Could we see the pigeon earrings? If you're willing to share

I have nothing in life to look forward to anymore. All those posts about "it's never too late you have time 💕💕💕" can shut the fuck up because it's not true. Every year that passes that's less chance I can get married and have children. And I'm never going to be able to afford my own home, so I'll be an old maid rotting in a single room surrounded by stuffed animals and books and things I probably should have grown out of by now with nothing to talk about except my stupid craft projects and book plots. While my siblings and long-term friends are talking about important things, like how it feels to be pregnant and a mother and a wife. And I just sit there because it's just more things I'm not a part of and when people ask me "what's new with you" talking about "well, I made pigeon earrings and I read a book and my job is the same" suddenly feels quite trivial and pathetic.

an online friend group may include:

guy who is nocturnal.

guy who goes to bed at nine pm.

guy who is inexplicably literally always online.

guy who lives on the other side of the planet.

no fucking way