I Struggle To Articulate The Vicarious Embarrassment And Annoyance I Feel Whenever Women Coddle Men In

I struggle to articulate the vicarious embarrassment and annoyance I feel whenever women coddle men in an effort to overcorrect for the notion that men are not allowed to be emotionally vulnerable.

I came across this video of a man filming his teary expression after his ex-girlfriend found him working at a drive-through and laughed at him. His account has an unusually high number of videos where he's filming himself crying; it's clearly disingenuous. And yet the women in the comments are offering him uncritical and disproportionately cloying comfort.

The root of my annoyance is the knowledge that, if a woman were to film herself crying over something so inconsequential, men would never offer her this kind of consolation. Instead they’d ridicule her, call her hysterical. They’d say she's an attention seeker by mere virtue of uploading a video of herself crying.

The notion that men are not allowed to be emotionally vulnerable has been so thoroughly weaponized against women, that women have overcompensated for this to the point that men’s emotional vulnerability is now elevated to a noble and deeply profound status. Ironically, this disproves the premise they are overcompensating for: men’s emotional vulnerability is not trivialized, it is taken way too seriously as a matter of fact.

Hindu girls: remember that our ancestors didn't do purdah. our goddesses don't do purdah. Does Saraswati cover her hair? Does Lakshmi cover every inch of her body? No. So why should you? Seeing the female body as something sexual to be covered up is the mindset of our colonizers, and they've sadly colonized a lot of our minds. Decolonize!

Is karma real?

I desperately need to know this

And can you see the karma of people who fumbled you like baddd

Yeh happy family ka naatak karna zaroori hai kya?

My comfort fic fr....

What do you even know?

Pairings: Boo Seungkwan x fem! Reader

Warnings: fainting. Slight cursing (?)

Word count: 2k (approx.)

Genre: fluff!! (angst)

My note: i wrote this for one of my friends and uh decided to post here as well??? enjoy???

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Summary: Okay so cue enemies to lovers speedrun, student au, married life, sickfic? Seungkwan is whipped. Reader is whipped. Pure fluff and teeny tiny bit of angst.

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The sound of the alarm going off makes you want to rip your ears out. You sigh, knowing that if you don't get up now, you won't be able to revise at all before your exam. Muttering a few curses, you leave the warmth of your bed to drown yourself in coffee, and hopefully wake up your brain enough to cram some more information into it. Half asleep, you walk into the kitchen and almost crash into someone. Rubbing your eyes, you glare at the culprit.

"Watch where you're going," you mumble, still sleepy enough to not care.

"What was that, treasure?"

You glare at him again and he just smirks knowing how much you hate that nickname. He had started using it randomly one day after an argument the two of you had had in front of your friends about some stupid topic (as usual) and he had said "yeah, because you're the treasure people would die to find aren't you?" And in a fit of impulsiveness, you had replied, "Yeah, I am. Sad that no one can say the same for you". Since then he had made your life a living hell by referring to you by that nickname whenever he could and the worst thing was you couldn't even say anything because you were the one who had started this whole thing.

"Why are you awake at 4 am?" Seungkwan asks, stealing a glance at the clock.

"Why do you care?" You reply, shuffling towards the cupboard. Just as you're about to take out the coffee, Seungkwan says, "your coffee is in the fridge." You turn to look at him. "I made extra, if you don't want it then leave it" he shrugs, plugging in his headphones before grabbing the keys to the apartment you both share. "Bye." You watch him leave, his hoodie pulled up to hide his face as he goes on his daily run. "He's insane," you mutter before opening the fridge to get the coffee.

~

"y/n? y/n?? y/n." You turn your head towards the voice, frowning because hey, you were trying to study. You see Seungkwan standing in the doorway taking off his shoes. "Have you not moved at all for the past five hours?"

"For the past- what?"

"y/n, it's nine a.m."

"It's what?!", you turnbto look at your phone. Dammit. He's right.

"You need to hurry if-"

"I'M GOING TO BE LATE!" You run to the bathroom, leaving your books behind. Seungkwan just shakes his head. That girl. He's smiling to himself when he notices that the coffee is untouched, the ice completely melted already. He frowns. Did she not drink her coffee?When he thinks of it now, he doesn't remember you having dinner last night either. He opens his mouth to ask you and then closes it again when you appear, dressed. "If you don't get the car out right now, i will personally hire hitmen to hunt you down"

Rolling his eyes, SeungKwan grabs the keys.

~

After the exam, you're hanging out with your friends. Your head has been aching since this morning but you are absolutely determined to stick it out. Your best friend, Jake, clearly notices something wrong with you. "Did you sleep at all in the last week?"

"Sure i did"

"Uh huh and you realise blinking doesn't count as sleeping right?"

"Yes, mom." You roll your eyes, "I'm not dumb, you know."

"No, i dont" you punch him, rolling your eyes.

"Hey, do you know what Soonyoung did?" Chan, another one of your friends asks. "Oh god." His girlfriend sighs, rubbing her forehead. "What did he do now?" You and Jake exchange grins. You would be more worried if Soonyoung doesn't do something insane. "Instead of going to go sit for the psychology exam, he managed to sit for the forensic criminology exam." You and Jake burst out laughing while soonie's girlfriend looked like she was used to his shenanigans. "Didn't he realise that's not his subject?" She asks, completely done with her boyfriend. Chan sighs, playing with his coffee, "he says he didn't even notice that the questions weren't about psychology". "Where is the idiot anyway?" You ask, still grinning. "I'm right here", a voice says behind you and you turn to see Seungkwan behind you. "As surprising as it is, I'm not talking about you this time," Seungkwan scoffs, before sitting down next to Jake.

Seungkwan notices how you look really pale and the beads of sweat running down your forehead. He also sees how you politely decline whenever someone offers you food, choosing to have a simple cup of coffee instead. He opens his mouth to speak but is interrupted when you spot Soonyoung and get up to go meet him. He focuses back on his water bottle but when he hears a loud thump, he quickly looks up. There's a few cries of astonishment, as everyone looks up to see you crumpled on the floor. What the- In a split second he's next to you, helping you up as you slowly regain your consciousness.

"What hap-"

"You passed out." He says, trying to keep his voice calm. "And you have a fever. I'm taking you home."

"But-"

"No buts. Jake will deal with your professor." He says, nodding to the boy before carrying you; bridal style, out of the cafeteria.

"Seungkwan, I can walk you kn-"

"One more word and I'm telling your professor you're taking the next two weeks off"

You close your mouth at the threat because you're not actually sure that he wouldn't do something like this.

~

Seungkwan looks over to see you sleeping in the passenger seat and he begs his heart to slow down. For a split second, he had thought you were dead. You may be his wife but you didn't really know how much he loved you. You thought that you two had only gotten married because your parents decided it would be better for you. They didn't want their young daughter living alone as they had to move due to your dad's work. You had no objections, so you had agreed. But the truth was that Seungkwan had been in love with you ever since he first met you and you had put him in his place. (In his defence, it was a pretty bad day for him.) It was the first time someone had ever spoken to him like that and he couldn't help but fall for this girl, who was so straightforward and unafraid. He didn't know exactly when the two of you developed the habit of snapping at each other but today, when he saw his wife, unconscious, because she had overworked herself he realised that this was never going to work. He was going to take care of you now, whether you liked it or not.

~

You felt like shit. When you opened you eyes it was dark and... cold?? You felt something on your forehead. You tried to get it off you, but a hand stopped you. "Shhh. That's for you, honey. Don't touch it"

Honey?

"What-"

"Rest,babe. Your fever is still high, have this medicine. We'll talk when you get better."

Babe-? what-

Did he just kiss my head?

You closed your eyes again, sure that you were dreaming because there was no way Boo Seungkwan had just called you, babe.

~

When your fever finally broke it was around five am. You opened your eyes and saw that Seungkwan had fallen asleep while holding a folded towel in a bowl of ice water. You smiled and made to get up. As soon as you moved, though, he woke up. His eyes locked onto yours and you rolled your eyes.

"If you're going to sleep, at least do it on a bed"

He just shook his head and moved closer to you, brushing a few sweaty strands of hair away from your forehead.

"You scared the shit out of me, you know?", he says, so softly, you almost don't hear it.

"I looked up and instead of seeing you smack Soonyoung for being a dumbass, you were on the floor", his voice is shaky now.

"You were unconscious." You can't help it, your heart breaks at how absolutely broken he sounds.

"Yeah well, I'm alive", you whisper, brushing a tear away from his face, desperate to get him to go back to being a jerk, because this side of him is making you feel things.

"Just barely." He says, tears falling fast now. "Your temperature was 100, do you know that? You've been sleeping for nearly two days, only waking up for small amounts of time, I just barely managed to get you to drink some water and medicine." Your breath stops in your throat when you realise he hasn't slept for the past two days.

"Seungkwan," you whisper to the boy, who's now trying his best to stop sobbing. You stroke his hair, comforting him. "You haven't slept in two days?" He looks up now, and your heart breaks all over again. His eyes are red and he's staring at you like you're the most fragile thing in the universe. "You think I could sleep? ", his voice sends shivers down your spine. "I was way too busy making sure you were alive! Sleep was the last thing on my mind! And then your mom called me and I didn't know how to tell her that her daughter hasn't woken up in two days for longer than 3 minutes!" Your heart cracks clean open. Poor, poor angel. But then he sits back down and grips his head.

She's scared, is all that is going through his mind right now, and god dammit, he lost it. He lost it and scared you, and now you're never going to want to even see him anymore. You hug him now, holding him close, and he can hear your heart thundering.

"You don't scare me, dumbass." You say amused that he could even manage to reach this conclusion.

"Then why is your heart beating so fast", he asks, guilt overwhelming him now.

" 'Cause you're kinda really hot."

What.

Seungkwan looks up and he notices how red your ears are.

"I-", he starts but is interrupted by you gently pressing your lips to his. You smirk when you see how flustered he is.

"Yeah, so that-" you gestures vaguely, "whole thing, was like so hot."

Seungkwan feels like his face is on fire,

"Me?? Y-You find me hot?"

"Uh yeah?"

"But i thought you weren't into-"

"Into who?"

"Into..me."

You scoff, "What do you even know?"

"So you have, what? Like a rage kink?"

"BOO SEUNGKWAN!"

He laughs as you throw a pillow at his face.

"You son of a-", he cuts you off with a little kiss, and says, "You need medicine, I'm going to the store."

"I'm going too."

"You. Are. Sick."

~

A few minutes later, you're standing in the middle of the convenience store, laughing at your husband's grumpy face, while he looks for your medicine.

"Buy me a snack", you says, still laughing.

"I'm not buying you shit," he grumbles. You laugh going to stand by the door so you can stare at the night sky. You grin when you see Seungkwan walking over, a packet of your favourite gummies and ramen in his hands.

"Oh, shut up," he says, noticing your smile. "Make me," you reply, running out of the store, grinning. You laugh as he quite obviously catches up with you very quickly and swings you around to face him. You smile. So does he.

"Hi."

"Hi."

And then he kisses you, softly, in the cold, early, december morning, while you stand alone, in front of the convenience store, enjoying peace, before the sun rises, before the rest of the world wakens.

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