You Cannot Love A Person Who Hates Himself. And On This Unfortunate Earth, Almost Everybody Hates Himself,

“You cannot love a person who hates himself. And on this unfortunate earth, almost everybody hates himself, everybody condemns himself. How can you love a person who is condemnatory toward himself? He will not believe you. He cannot love himself—how can you dare? He cannot love himself—how can you love him? He will suspect some game, some trick, some trip. He will suspect that you are trying to deceive him in the name of love. He will be very cautious, alert, and his suspicion will poison your being. If you love a person who hates himself, you are trying to destroy his concept about himself. And nobody easily drops his concept about himself; that is his identity. He will fight with you, he will prove to you that he is right and you are wrong.”

— Osho, Intimacy: Trusting Oneself and the Other

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““if you are free, you need to free somebody else. If you have some power, then your job is to empower somebody else.” ― Toni Morrison”

— (via yourpersonalcheerleader)

Boring.

Abusive narcissists love to hurt us. The more emotion we show, the happier they are.  If you can’t or aren’t ready to go No Contact with your abusive narcissist, the key is to be as utterly boring as possible.  Be Boring.  Ignore the jibes, the jokes at your expense, the put downs, the comparisons to others. Do not react at all. As hard as this is, remember that they cannot enjoy hurting you if you do not react.  Be Boring.  Do not tell them any of your personal information. If there is something you are happy about, don’t give them a chance to ruin it. If there is something you are sad about, don’t give them the chance to enjoy your pain.  Be Boring.  Keep conversations light, talk about the weather or the scenery or turn the conversation to something about them.. They will be happy to tell you all about their latest holiday for the 17th time and will forget to be rude to you.  Be Boring.  Because, abusive narcissists need and want to hurt you in order to fell better about themselves… Why should abusive narcissists get to feel better bout themselves? Be Boring.  Yes, they may escalate their behaviour, they may up their slander campaigns  but, you are getting good at this now. They have nothing to show from their bad behaviour. You didn’t react. It will only serve in the end to make them look bad to others.  Be Boring, save everything interesting and beautiful about you for those who deserve it.  <3