Not To Make Anyone Worry, But Saying You're A System Can Make You A Target For Abusers And Bullying.

Not to make anyone worry, but saying you're a system can make you a target for abusers and bullying.

By stating you're a system

You're disclosing that you went through debilitating trauma at a young age

You're disclosing that you may act like a young child in certain situations, and that child may not know, or understand certain acts

You disassociate to a level where we do not know what was done by/to the collective body

You're telling people that you may have patches of amnesia, disorientation, and where you may split under pressure

Many systems have issues with self harm, suicidal thoughts, substance use disorders and unfortunately, many abusers will take advantage of this

Systems, due to their amnesiac nature, are very easy to gaslight, often by saying that a different part/alter did or didn't do something

But Kyle! What can I do about it?!?

Choose, very carefully, who you tell that you have a system. We try not to tell new people in our life until we're fully trusting that they won't take advantage of the knowledge of the system. Even then, we can count on one hand how many of our in person friends and family are aware of our system.

Avoid linking social media, this includes discord, where you are 'out' about your system to other social media, especially around workplaces. Some workplaces, schools, universities and other places still hold stigma around DID (thank you, Split /s).

Be careful what you tell people about your system: keeping alter counts private, not giving out certain alter's names, using pseudonyms/symbols for alters are some of the ways we've done this. If someone we don't want to know about the system asks about an alter name, the majority of the time, we'll say that they're an OC.

Most people don't know what DID and OSDD are unless they have been in certain circles or happen to have an interest in it, so you are usually safe… but I always air on the side of caution.

Do what you wish with this list, I wanted to put these thoughts out there. Stay safe, feel free to reblog with more ways you keep your system safe.

Drink water, have something to eat, have your meds if you need them, use your mobility aids if you need them, and do something nice for yourself today.

With love,

System Dad (Kyle / 💜)

IS ONE OF OUR FAVES, WE EVEN HAVE A MISS PEREGRINE HERE OMFG

I NEED TO READ THE BOOKS

System Blinkies PT 3!!!!

As a traumagenic system I'm so tired of all the CDD tags just constantly being filled with anti-endo and other syscourse posts. Like I follow those tags to see jokes and other people's experiences, not to see constant fighting.

Also people will reblog our posts "endos dni" or "endos fuck off" when it has absolutely nothing to do with the post.

We came here to feel included in a community, not to harass and bully others. Syscourse is stupid and honestly harms everyone. We've seen so many traumagenic systems get harassed for not being anti endo enough or just not having the exact right symptoms. Syscourse is formed on a basis of fakeclaiming, and once we realize fakeclaiming hurts actually disabled people we will be better off as a community.

like we have syscourse tags for a reason, can we please keep it in those tags? block people you disagree with and move on

Should we like re-do our sideblogs masterlist??

Like doing it in one big masterlist without any kind of images, stay the descriptions but not pic of how the blog looks like and the masterlist being more of all our sideblogs (or most of them)

Probably would do though... First I need to finish those other four pending sideblogs and probably do the new masterlist

Silly sandwich go spin :0 /silly

Ket is hiding in regular sandwich mode rn >:0 so silly

BRO IT'S KET, IT' REALLY IS CHUP!!

Silly sanwich spins just like ket should

Chup doesn't want to be discovered omg >:0