R3d-d34th - Wow Those Purse-owners Sure Are Cool

The show Crazy Ex Girlfriend covers this really well. It gives the titular female lead an equally obsessed male counterpart in order to draw attention to the double standard in romance media. He’s creepy and weird and does the EXACT SAME THINGS the female lead does to her object of affliction. The show even straight up calls out the “she’s just a girl in love“ mentality.

Basically, if you’re fed up with these tropes I highly recommend the show. It’s finished, it’s a musical, and it’s really funny if you can stand second hand embarrassment.

One of the things I hate most about fandoms is the hypocrisy of their fans. And this is about ships again, yes (it's about characters too ngl).

Every anti-Bakudeku/Catradora fan says things like "How can you ship couples like these? It's so abusive! It's disgusting! Catra/Bakugo were so mean towards Adora/Izuku! Catradora/Bakudeku is so toxic and you shouldn't like it!" and then, when talking about Hiccstrid people always love them together. Even if Astrid was also a bully to Hiccup. Even if her development was null (don't say she had development, her "redemption" arc was shit and she needed more time in screen and more scenes between her and Hiccup to change from "I hate all the dragons" to "I was wrong about them". And one scene with an OST called "Romantic Flight" is not enough to make her redemption believable). Talking about development, do I really have to say that you hate Catradora/Bakudeku, but at least Catra and Bakugo apologized to Adora and Izuku? Astrid didn't say sorry to Hiccup for bullying him/hurting him. And you should be aware of that.

Bakugo and Catra didn't redeem in one day, they didn't get up one day and decided to be nicer. No, they had to work in their redemption and they also had to work in their relationship with the people they hurt (Izuku and Adora). Astrid didn't do that. All she needed to change was flying in a dragon with the person she used to hate.

Having all of that in mind, tell me, which relationship would be more healthy, logical and believable? The ones where the bully had to work hard to make amends for their mistakes, to heal their scars to make it better for the MC? The ones where the bully apologized to their victim, to the people they hurt? Or the one where all it took to change from "I hate you so much" to "I like you" was one scene, and they didn't even apologize for being a bully/being a bad person? Think about that.

And think about another thing too. A girl hurting a boy is bad. "But she-" No. "But she's not being cruel and she-" Enough. Don't fucking justify female-on-male violence. Violence is violence. If you hate Bakugo/Catra so much for hurting Izuku/Adora, then treat Astrid the same way, because she was not an angel before changing. She's not innocent. She was a bully too. And if you despise Bakugo/Catra's past actions, despise Astrid's past actions too.

Where I also saw Double Standard in media is in shows where there's a female character stalking a male character. Two examples that come to my mind right now are Hinata Hyuga from Naruto and Marinette Dupain-Cheng from Miraculous Ladybug.

The thing about them is that a lot of people love them. A lot of people love a female character stalking a male character. Dear God, Marinette learned the daily schedule of Adrien, and she even traveled to another country for him. Because she couldn't bear thinking he was in another country where she couldn't see what was he doing. That's not freaking normal, you guys. "She was a girl" "She didn't know what was she doing" "She's just in love". Excuse me- What. the. hell. Okay. So you're saying you're okay with a girl being so jealous that everytime her "crush" talks to a girl she needs to be around. You're okay with a girl entering her crush's house without permission (Do you know that's a crime, right?). You're okay with a girl having her bedroom full of photos of her crush (and I'm not talking about a fictional character from a show she likes. I'm talking about a real person. Because in Miraculous Ladybug's world, Adrien is Marinette's classmate, not a character from a show). I'm sorry, but if you think that's okay, there's something wrong with you. People can like someone and have a crush, sure, but what she has is an obsession. What she's doing is not normal. (And she can do that in the show, after all she's a character, but don't act like she's a nice person and an innocent person because she isn't. And definitely don't see her actions as a normal thing).

People, please, don't think what she's doing is "iconic" or something like that. If you're watching this show, please, don't do the same as her with your crush because is awful and disgusting. She's not "cute" for doing this. She has a problem, I'm being serious.

If she had a better love story with Adrien, like she did in the movie, I would understand the Adrinette ship because in the new movie it's just beautiful and wholesome and it's actually healthy. But when it comes to the show, the Adrinette ship can't be nothing more than toxic. So stop acting like Marinette's actions towards Adrien are okay (Yes, Adrien's actions towards Ladybug weren't okay neither, but this post is about female characters).

What Hinata Hyuga did -in comparison with Marinette- is not that bad, but even then, following her crush (Naruto Uzumaki) everytime he's with his friends/classmates is not nice. It's not cute. It's not something people should do. And the Naruhina ship honestly makes no sense. Okay, I get it. It's the type of romance we all want to have. We all want our crush to fall in love with us. We all want to have a relationship with the person we used to have a crush on. But if you want to include that trope if your story, if you want them to end up together in a show/book/movie, give them development. The ship has to feel natural.

We have to feel/see the chemitry. And I saw (and still see) no chemistry between Naruto and Hinata. Sasunaru, on the other hand, has a lot of emotional moments together and moments when they bond (their chemistry is right there). And it's not for my own preference, but they would have made a better couple. Mostly because they shared more screen time with each other. Even though Shikanaru and Gaanaru are also good options for a canon ship. Because they also had chemistry. But Naruto's love for Hinata in my opinion didn't feel natural. It was forced.

After all of this, let me say something more. You probably don't care about a girl stalking a boy in fiction. You're probably like "She's not doing anything wrong" "She's a teenager" "Stop being judgmental, she's a good character" "She's a nice person". If what they do it's okay for you, let me ask you a question. What if their gender was reversed? Yeah. Imagine if Marinette and Hinata weren't girls. Imagine if they were boys. Imagine if a boy went to another country to control the actions of another girl. Imagine if a boy entered his crush's house without permission. Imagine if a boy stalked the girl she likes to see if she's talking to another boys. Imagine if a boy had pictures of the girl she likes in his bedroom. What would you think then? Oh- You would think it's disgusting? It would be disgusting for you, right? Why? Because it's a boy?

People, have this in mind:

👏👏👏 If a boy does something bad and a girl does the same thing they both need to be treated the same way 👏👏👏

A girl hitting a boy isn't funny. It shouldn't be played for fun. As well as a boy hitting a girl. Neither of them is funny. And neither of them can be justified.

A girl stalking a boy isn't funny. As well as a boy stalking a girl. Neither of them is funny. And neither of them can be justified.

That's why I ask you to stop being two-faced. If you despise someone's actions, you despise someone's actions, whether it is a boy or a girl. You want equality? Then fucking stop with the double standard.

A bad action is a bad action, no matter who makes it. Period.

I hate how my parents and I recommend books and shows to each other- not for a serious reason, but because there will be things like Persona 5 and The Great Ace attorney that I KNOW they'd love if only they weren't video games. Like, I know you will love this story. I know you will love these characters. But It is impossible to get anyone over 40 with a salary to play a video game. And the p5 anime sucks ass.

I wish there was an anime adaptation (A GOOD ONE) for the Great Ace Attorney Chronicles. Please. My mom will love the mystery and My dad will love Herlock sholmes, he's basically the 11th doctor. PLEASE I'M BEGGING YOU.

Coming on here to see what the lethal company scene is like and all y’all REALLY want to fuck the brakken. Tbh I don’t know what I expected.

I want to know why the goddesses considered a mortal's opinion the end-all-be-all anyway. Especially PARIS's opinion. Man has a negative amount of braincells.

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It’s mentioned off hand by Mina when she’s looking for Lucy in the house and notices the front door is open. ‘The people of the house are good about locking up when they leave’ or something to that effect. ‘People of the house’ is a term that pops up in this era to describe servants a lot. So there are servants in witby, but they’re at home asleep when Lucy sleepwalks.

I don’t even think there’s any out of sight out of mind thing with mina feeling isolated and lonely but the servants are right there. I don’t think she knows these people AT ALL. They don’t stay at the house so the probably live in Witby and aren’t directly employed by Mrs. Westenra.

Can you imagine how awkward it would be if some random lady renting out the house you work at just started venting about how her fiancé was supposed to be back from a business trip almost a month ago but instead has gone completely radio silent and that both the people she’s staying at the house with have different health problems that they’re keeping secret from eachother and she’s caught in the middle of the two of them trying to pretend that everything’s fine while you’re just trying to dust a fireplace mantle or something like the Victorian equivalent of that guy in the drive through just trying to give someone their food

Genuine question - does anyone have any theories about where the servants are in Whitby?

I mean, is this just an "I'm so alone" (servant in the room tending the fire goes unmentioned) type ignoring the lower class and treating them as if they're invisible? That doesn't seem to fully jive with the events of today's entry, where Mina searched the house and would surely have asked a maid or someone if they were there (then again, it was 3am). They also are mentioned in other places in the novel so it's not like they are always invisible. I also feel like they might have gotten caught sneaking home at dawn if there were servants getting ready for the day, but it isn't mentioned. And maybe there's something with Mina being put in sole charge of keeping Lucy in at night as well...

But I can't believe Mrs. Westenra and Lucy are staying here for so long with no servants at all. So maybe only a few who don't live in the main apartment (?) or something and thus missed tonight's events?