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Something I constantly see being said that actually makes me wanna bash my head into a wall is the sentiment that women hate women more than men hate women. It’s actually the most low grade cop out that I see being said by either the most passionate misogynists who want to blame women for everything even their own oppression and hatred, and anti feminist women who love men coping with the fact that their precious males hate them by making women out to be their biggest threats and enemies.
It’s actually such a disregard to who is actively harming women globally. Who is barring their rights and who have been doing so since the beginning of time. It’s actually anti logic. It’s objectively untrue and yet it’s such a popular idea. That actually women hate women more than men do even though they show as much everyday when they make content and accounts everyday with hundreds of thousands of followers talking about how much they hate women and how our only value lies between our legs. How we’re not even human and how much they fantasize about hurting us. When so many of them do. Countless women everyday are being abused, raped, and murdered by males because they are women.
But you don’t get it! Women being competitive and bitchy towards other women as they’ve been conditioned to do so (mostly for male approval) is worse and more prominent than that. Women’s internalized misogyny and bias towards men in a patriarchal society completely blows men’s collective male supremacy and violence towards women out of the water! We’re each other’s biggest enemies. Not the gender most likely to murder us.
I also think this rhetoric is a divide and conquer tactic. Female solidarity is a threat to the patriarchy and misogynistic interest. Women having each other’s values at heart is a threat. So telling women that other women hate them more than men ever will. That women are out to get them, tells them they will only ever truly be able to trust and confide in men. Seek solace in men. That they’re women’s savior.
It was not witches who burned. It was women. Women who were seen as; Too beautiful, Too outspoken, Had too much water in the well (yes, seriously), Who had a birthmark, Women who were too skilled with herbal medicine, Too loud, Too quiet, Too much red in their hair, Women who had a strong nature connection, Women who danced, Women who sang, or anything else, really. Any woman was at risk of burning in the 1600’s. Sisters testified and turned on each other when their babies were held under ice. Children were tortured to confess their experiences with “witches” by being fake executed in ovens. Women were held under water and if they could float, they were guilty and executed. If they sank and drowned they were innocent. Women were thrown off cliffs. Women were put in deep holes in the ground. Why do I write this? Because knowing our history is important when we are building a new world. When we are doing the healing work of our lineages and as women. To give the women who were slaughtered a voice, to give them redress and a chance of peace. It was not witches who burned. It was women.
Fia Forsström (Excerpt) Art print: The Witches by Kyri Koniotis
I don't think it's quite right to say that "nature is intrinsically patriarchal", nor that physical strength equates to dominance. Bonobos are one of the apes most genetically related to humans, and they're known for being matriarchal, or at the very least gender-equal in lower ranks, and their males are larger and stronger than the females, too.
The reason we would return to the violence of the past if we were to strip away modern protections is because patriarchy is already ingrained in our lives and we haven't experienced anything else. If humans were wiped out and they evolved again, they might initially evolve to be female-centered again, as they did the first time. Or they might not, it's impossible to say unless the exact same factors that led to the evolution of humans in the first place were recreated.
I don't think there's anything about society that "simply arises from nature", everything is a product of multiple factors. I don't see why we should accept misogyny as "a natural inclination" when it could simply be considered a consequence of the fact that, when the population growth which resulted from the successful social organisation started endangering the species who suddenly needed more food, men's physical strength was a more useful skill when humans started fighting for resources. Perhaps if there were more resources, or less people, there would have been no need for the aggression brought about by the need for survival and societies would have evolved more peacefully, without the constant wars men are so fond of, and then gender equality would have been just as natural.
Or perhaps the end result would have still been the same because men would have still started wars the moment they found out another settlement had something they didn't and refused to trade. Or perhaps not, because if women were still in charge at that point, they would have been more likely to initiate peaceful trading with other groups and less likely to start conflicts if faced with rejection, and eventually, without the need for survival interfering, human consciousness would have evolved to a point where they didn't feel comfortable attacking other humans for resources they didn't necessarily need. Regardless, I don't think patriarchy (or any kind of oppression, for that matter) is our natural state as animals.
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This one of hers is very interesting… hmm, I have a lot of conflicting thoughts …
Radical feminism acknowledges the existence of the 2 sexes, and how the differences between male and female humans created patriarchy.
Men were able to use their physical strength and the advantages of not having to endure/ survive child birth to create systems of oppression.
But at the same time, there were quite a few pre-agricultural revolution societies that were matriarchal, with men hunting large game making them vulnerable and easily lost to the tribes… so hmm.
Nature definitely plays a huge role in patriarchy and how it’s the oldest oppression, and how every culture around the world currently oppresses women: but is it our natural state as animals? I don’t think so… I need read more on the subject tho, it’s very fascinating!
this is still the RAWEST line
Contrary to popular belief, feminists have always had a sharp sense of humor.
Sexual strangulation has become so popular that more than half of Australian young people have used it for pleasure, though it can cause lasting brain damage in seconds and death within minutes.
Known as sexual “choking”, the practice has taken off because it is mainstreamed in contemporary pornography, researchers say, but new national data shows it is so widespread that 57 per cent of those aged 18 to 35 have been strangled during sex at least once.
More than half (51 per cent) had strangled a partner during sex, found a study of 4702 young people around Australia by the University of Melbourne Law School and the University of Queensland.
Close to one-third of those who had been strangled by a sexual partner were aged between 19 and 21 when it first happened. Respondents who had been strangled had it done an average of five times, by three partners, found the research, published on Tuesday in Archives of Sexual Behavior.
Police, physicians and the researchers, led by Professor Heather Douglas, say there is no safe way to use strangulation or choking during sex. They say understanding of the dangers is so lacking that even those who consent to it are not aware of the grave risks to their brain health and life.
Douglas said brain injury from repeated strangulation could build up, like the impact of concussion among sportspeople. Symptoms, including stroke, could occur up to many months later.
Strangulation in sex is the second most common cause of stroke in women under 40, UK research suggests.
“It [sexual strangulation] is happening incredibly frequently, people are doing it regularly … and half the people are doing it at least several times,” said Douglas, who has been researching non-lethal strangulation for several years.
“Brain injury accumulates — the more times you are strangled, the greater the impact on the brain. I suspect there are probably a lot of young people with impacts on their brain as a result of this behaviour and that’s incredibly concerning,” she said.
Blood clots, “thyroid storm” – increased heart rate, blood pressure, and body temperature that could be fatal – and miscarriage might happen in the weeks or months after strangulation, Douglas said.
Pressure on young women not to be vanilla in their sexual practice was contributing to the uptick in the popularity of choking, the experts said, though many young women in the new research were comfortable giving consent.
Women’s safety experts have long warned that strangulation is an indicator of potential future homicide. Consent advocate Chanel Contos has been warning since 2022 that choking, though never safe, has been normalised from kink to “not out of the ordinary” in her age group.
Forensic physician Dr Jo Parkin said sexual strangulation was exceptionally dangerous, and sexual choking memes were being promoted in social media hashtags.
“In terms of what [young people are] seeing, it’s not just the hands around the neck; it can be a ligature, clothing, it can be rope or just a forearm across the neck,” said Parkin.
“It can be legs used in what is being promoted as a playful hold, but it isn’t. There is no safe level of neck compression in a community setting.”
She said it was not possible to give informed consent because people did not understand the risks “which are in seconds a loss of consciousness and minutes to death”.
“They don’t understand the anatomy of the neck and the risk of compression of the vital structures,” Parkin said. “Within seconds, once you’ve lost consciousness, you can have seizures, and ongoing compression leads to death.”
There have been documented cases where serious impacts to the brain from sexual strangulation have not appeared until one year after the incident. But in 40 to 50 per cent of cases that Parkin and her colleagues examine at the Victorian Institute of Forensic Medicine, there are no external symptoms or signs of it at the time.
Jackie McMillan, senior project officer at Women’s Health NSW, said it was important for those using choking to understand you could acquire a brain injury without losing consciousness, and other symptoms were an indication urgent medical help should be sought.
“More serious choking involves loss of consciousness and sometimes urination and sometimes defecation; so if you engage in sexual choking and one of these things happens, you definitely need to seek medical advice,” she said.
Violence-prevention educator Maree Crabbe said as well as pornography influencers, mainstream TV was showing sexual strangulation as “a relatively normal part of the sexual script”.
Young people she had interviewed for a forthcoming campaign around sexual strangulation, Breathless, said they believed it could be done safely.
“People from different places, cultural backgrounds and socioeconomic groups all talked about strangulation being normal; our team was shocked,” she said.
“What was really concerning was the way it was framed as about being adventurous … and if they express lack of enthusiasm, or resistance, to engaging in strangulation or other rough sex, they are seen as vanilla and that’s shameful.”
Crabbe said the fact porn was promoting consent of very dangerous practices “raises questions about having multibillion-dollar industries shaping our sexual experience in ways that put other people’s lives at risk”.
More support for young people was required to help define who they want to be in their sexual roles.
A Victoria Police spokeswoman said if someone consented to sex, it did not mean they consented to other acts, and that non-consensual strangulation during sex was assault.
“There needs to be clear and affirmed consent before and during the act. We want to make it clear that there is no safe way to strangle someone.”
Do you think there is any meaningful difference in how self-improvement is sold towards men and women?
Self-improvement for women typically means being available to men and practicing artificial femininity.
When a girl lets go of her "tomboy" personality, it's considered self-improvement. In movies, the nerdy or tomboyish girl always transforms into a generic feminine and "well-mannered" (passive) girl who surprises everyone at prom and finally gets the attention of the boys who don't even recognize her. Cinderella. It's sold as self-improvement and maturity. Any of us former "tomboy" girls can attest that these stories are not entirely fictional.
When a lone woman marries and has a child, it's considered self-improvement too. A doctor recently told me, "Don't you want to make something of your life, to have a husband and make a child?" To her, as long as I have not done those two things (give myself up to the patriarchy, essentially), I have not done anything of value. Needless to say, I was incredibly offended. My point is, if I came back to her, pregnant from a boyfriend, she would consider this self-improvement.
When a woman stops crying about her trauma, when she gets up from the dirt and smiles through the pain, it's considered self-improvement. Martyrdom is sold as self-improvement to women.
Self-care is taking a bubble bath, getting your nails done, putting on a new dress, applying some lotion, and journaling. If you're not engaging in artificial femininity, you're an unfeminine slob who doesn't care about herself.
Self-love and self-confidence are expressed through our willingness to wear revealing clothes, post bikini pictures on social medias and engage in one night stands. Otherwise, you're clearly lacking in self-esteem, or you're a prude.
When I was 19, I got really sick and spent the night vomiting. I had an appointment with a social worker the next day. Obviously, I looked like crap. She said I looked like I had given up on life and had no motivation. When I saw her again, I was deep in the pit of suicidal depression and had no self-esteem, which is why I put on a lot of make-up and spent time on my hair, etc. This time, she very cheerfully said, "I can tell that you're doing better and have regained your motivation. Well done, keep it up!"
A woman's self-improvement is in showing that she cares about others more than herself. Self-care and self-love are about pleasing others. The irony.
Still when I was 19, I participated in a workshop for unemployed women, proposed by the local job centre. The first day, they taught us about fashion and which colour suited our skin best, making us stand in front of a mirror one by one. They said that, at the end of the week, we'd get a free haircut, which let us know that the entire week was going to be some relooking experiment. Now I'm gonna take a wild guess and say that the workshop for unemployed men wasn't about posing in front of a mirror and discussing fashion advice. It was supposed to last a week, but I never went back. Self-improvement was, once again, artificial femininity.
I don't know what's promoted as self-improvement to men, but I know it's not artificial femininity, martyrdom and impregnation. So yes, I can guess it's pretty different.
Feixiao! 🔥 commission for HSR
I want women to challenge the messages we internalise about how it’s so virtuous for us to put ourselves last, to sacrifice our own needs for the good of others. I want to see an end to the ideal of the self-sacrificing mother, who exists to serve her husband and children. Women deserve to put our own needs first and live full and happy lives on our own terms.
One major misconception libfems and trans activists hold about radical feminism and gender criticism is they believe our opposition to their ideology stems from our inability to accept trans identities, nonbinary identities, any gender identity that isn’t “cis”.
In their view, we are the cis-privileged cissexist overlords who want to exterminate trans people and/or forcibly convert everyone into being “cis”, like we are, because we can’t tolerate difference and diversity. They think we only care about our “cisters” and want to force everyone into traditional gender roles. They think we believe what we believe and say what we say because we’re close-minded bigots who mindlessly hate people of other gender identities, just like racists mindlessly hate people of other races. They think blind hatred is the reason why we aren’t “inclusive” like good feminists should be.
From where they’re standing, this is a perfectly reasonable conclusion. Look at those terfs all standing over there being comfortable with their assigned gender! Look at those terfs using female pronouns and never getting misgendered and having womanhood handed to them without having to work for it! Look at those terfs posting vulva art and fetishizing vaginas, look at them loving their bodies and not feeling deep hatred toward their secondary sex characteristics! Look at those terfs with their cis privilege having no idea what it’s like to feel like you don’t belong in your body, or to feel deep inside like you’re just NOT the gender everyone says you are! Look at those terfs being evil gatekeepers and enforcing the idea that penis=man and vagina=woman because they think everyone should be cis like them!
In trans activist world, using trans activist logic, this conception of radfems is valid and internally consistent.
The problem is the basis of trans activist logic is fucked up and wrong.
You know those elementary logic puzzles that go “If some smeerps are blorgnorts and all blorgnorts are priptaps, all smeerps are priptaps. True or false?” - just because something is internally consistent within its own rules doesn’t mean it has any value or any connection to reality at all.
The reality is not that we’re all happy “cis” women enjoying our “cis” privilege and hating trans people just because they’re not like us. The reality is we REJECT the entire artificial narrative that leads to classifications like “cis” and “trans” in the first place. We call ourselves “she” not because we feel like women deep inside our souls, but because of the biological FACT of our bodies. Some of us suffer from severe dysphoria, some of us identified as trans and thought we were men for years, and NONE of us are comfortable being forced into the female gender. But we understand that how we feel about “she” doesn’t change the fact that that’s what we are. None of us chose our pronouns. Our pronouns just…are.
And when we tell them we don’t hate trans people, we hate gender, they take it as an attack on their personal identities and their very sense of self. When we tell them sex and gender are different things, they say biological sex doesn’t exist. When we ask them not to call us “cis”, they’re baffled because in their minds there’s cis, there’s trans, and there are the various flavors of nonbinary, and that encompasses the totality of the spectrum of gender identity, and everyone HAS to have a gender identity because it’s Just! So! Important!! in their world. How could anyone not define and treasure their individual gender identity? It’s what makes you who you are! And they just can’t wrap their heads around the idea that we reject gender altogether. A genderist’s thought process goes: those AFAB terfs say they’re women, they aren’t trans because they don’t use “he/him” and they’re not nonbinary because they don’t use “they/them/ze/hir”, so what could they POSSIBLY be besides cis? Why are they asking me not to call them what they are? Oh, I get it, it must be a trick to deny their cis privilege so they can keep enforcing cis supremacy and oppressing trans people!
It’s a very simplistic and primitive worldview. You won’t follow the rules and respect the demarcations of my inclusive and diverse gender spectrum? It must be because you’re cissexist and bigoted and hate trans people. There can’t be any other reason. You’re just jealous because transwomen are prettier than you!
The trans cult is SO invested in the gender story and the immense importance of gender and identity politics that to them it’s just not possible for anyone to think any differently. The very premise of their ideology is false, but that’s the framework from which they interpret everything, including the beliefs and motivations of the evil gatekeeper terfs. They box themselves in with their beautiful unique identities and they literally CANNOT conceive of anything outside their own false axioms. Because to them, gender is a universal truth. The idea of not believing in gender isn’t heresy or blasphemy, it just…doesn’t…make…sense. Might as well not believe in bananas or bears or gravity.
It’s like religious people who insist atheists and agnostics (or even people from other religions) must hate god because they’ve been corrupted by the devil, and the only reason someone wouldn’t follow YOUR dogma and worship YOUR god…is because they’re under the influence of YOUR devil, YOUR dogma’s particular conception of evil.
Their little brains can’t handle the idea that god isn’t real and neither is the devil. And neither, for that matter, is gender.
when are people gonna wake up and realize that misogyny isn’t some mystical hypothetical concept, and that it’s actually the deadliest form of oppression that exists? misogyny is the reason women are murdered by their male partners millions of times everyday in femicide, misogyny is the reason female infants are murdered the second they come out of the womb, misogyny is the reason little girls are denied education simply on the basis of being female, misogyny is the reason the female body is able to be commodified by males for sex (as well as for birth, in surrogacy), misogyny is the reason young girls are taught to run a sharp razor against their skin and participate in feminine practices the second they start puberty, misogyny is the reason women are denied autonomy and are brutalized under islamic regime, misogyny is the reason males are responsible for nearly 100% of all sex crimes (rape and sexual assault) committed (as-well as the reasoning for sex crimes being one of if not the most common type of crime done to women & girls, especially when at a young age), misogyny is the reason male health issues have so much more documented research then female health issues, misogyny is the reason young women and girls have their genitalia mutilated for “cultural/religious” purposes, misogyny is the reason males systematically rape and sexually abuse women and girls during conflicts and war, misogyny is the reason menstrual products are costly material items that many homeless women out there don’t have access to & also why women/girls are ostracized in many cultures for starting their periods, misogyny is the reason women are taken less seriously compared to men in literally every profession, misogyny is the reason gender non-conforming lesbians are being chemically castrated and having their breasts cut off by doctors in the name of trans ideology (on the largest scale we’ve ever seen), misogyny is the reason incestuous abuse is one of the most common types of sexual abuse and is nearly always committed by fathers/uncles/grandpas, misogyny is the reason catcalling women and young girls has somehow managed to become a socially acceptable form of sexual harassment, and misogyny is the reason women and girls are blamed by men for half of the issues on this list occurring.
all of these issues are caused by misogyny, and perpetuated by males.
i know it’s a difficult reality for most people to come to terms with, but these are the realities for hundreds of MILLIONS of women and girls around the world.
misogyny can’t being trivialized, it’s evil, and deadly.
some of you have ‘identities’ that deserve to be invalidated. some of them are unhealthy, actively hurt disenfranchised groups, or have no basis in material reality. the overbearing identity politics that exists on the internet, this whole postmodernist idea of ‘I say it so I am!’ is completely irrelevant when we’re considering actual oppressions within societies/cultures. it is meaningless.
I saw a post once on here saying ‘some of you deserve to feel less valid’ and I have never seen anything truer. some of you need to get your self-indulgent heads out of your asses too and consider that the entire world doesn’t need to alter itself due to ~your feelings~ and if you think it does, maybe your feelings/identity/whatever are the problem here.
my xilonen design!! this is what she looks like in my heart… 🫶
I love when people try to throw infertile women, women with PCOS or endo, intersex women under the buss to "own the terves"
If your response to "woman = adult human female" is to list out women with DSDs, chronic illnesses, or hysterectomies as an attempted gotcha, you're just providing that you know exactly who is female and who is male. Embarrassing behaviour
I never understood why when people say they identify with a different culture because they like the stereotypical things associated with that culture (for example, koreaboos), everyone sees it for the fetishization it is and makes fun of them, but when people say they identify with the other gender because they like the stereotypical things associated with that gender, that suddenly makes perfect sense and they should be encouraged to 'live as their most authentic selves' even if it means making others uncomfortable and even putting women's safety at risk.
I got receipts receipts
"OP is a terf" is a thought-terminating cliche meant to keep you from questioning the status quo and keep you afraid of being labeled a heretic should you come to your own conclusions about anything.
“what oppression do women face? what rights don’t they already have?” let me explain something very simple to you. having laws that permit women to have jobs, divorce men, abort, or kill in self-defense is literally 25% of the battle. why? because of infrastructure and societal bias.
for example, it is technically illegal to rape (legislation) yet few rapists are ever convicted and even if they are, their sentences never match the crime. why? for one, it’s hard for girls and women of challenging socioeconomic backgrounds to access services or resources like rape kits or information on how to seek legal assistance; and in the course of this, the police men are likely to sexually abuse them as well, resulting in more trauma and reducing their chances at seeking justice (infrastructure). even if a woman were to get a job (and the law doesn’t allow discrimination), if the social bias is that she can’t perform well, she is still less likely to be hired. if she is hired, she is more likely to be underpaid (read up on the velvet or pink ghetto).
government (legislation and judiciary) are reflective of social consciousness. they may agree with the rights of women (sometimes) on paper, but whether or not they are meaningfully enforced is completely up to those with the most socioeconomic power, which, for now, is largely still men (in that men maintain most of the wealth, property, and high opinion in a populace, they also control most popular metanarratives via religion, education, pornography and entertainment which means they largely control public perception). because men in patriarchal society keep their resources to themselves and seek to elevate only themselves. racism can be illegal, and still rampant, in a country. so it is with misogyny and homophobia.
if men hate women in a system that has long been organized to benefit them, a few legislative changes won’t automatically change that system. it has to be altered structurally and socially as well.
and that takes a whole lot more fighting
My father is shorter than my mom, he weighted less at the time too. Still, he completely overpowered her physically with relative ease, and she did try to fight back. How sheltered you must be to believe sex differences are mere social constructs.
that alternative ending where the tb stayed on the space station and became a researcher. how much angst do you think it can contain
