Reblog If You Think Mediocre Men In Their Thirties Should Stay Away From Anyone In Their Early Twenties

Reblog if you think mediocre men in their thirties should stay away from anyone in their early twenties or younger. So tired of seeing these 18 to 22 year old women "in love" for a few months and then completely broken when they realize they were grossly taken advantage of later on. If you want to give me that 'age is just a number' crap, at least wait until both parties have a fully developed brain, which occurs approximately between ages 24 and 27.

before taking a cisgender person's advice on what transness is/how to be trans/how to transition/etc., i think you need to ask yourself: how would they accurately know what it's like to be transgender if they are not, themselves? especially if they are being hostile or gatekeeping you- this does not make them correct, no matter how stubborn, loud, or sure of themselves they are- these are not the people who know what the experience is like. they are forming an outsider's opinion, or at best, passing along a trans person's words. go straight to trans people. go straight to the source.

@she-is-ovarit I think you made my whole week with this link.

Me Too!

This has always been fascinating to me, because even in female dominated industries like nurse practitioners, men make more than women! And it's always chalked up to the whole 'women are taught to take what they can get so they don't ask for more' thing. I also wonder if it makes a difference who is doing the hiring: a man or a woman, or both if more than one person is involved.

Are men better at negotiating for a higher salary, or are sexists better at granting a man a higher salary following any quality of negotiation?

I’d love to see a study where a man and a woman approached salary negotiation word-for-word identical, and see who got afforded more.

Here’s a Noam Chomsky quote on porn. This is it for me for today I’m done arguing.

i’m sure teenage girls know that eating disorders are unhealthy, but i feel like they don’t really know why. it’s not their fault: they don’t know because they haven’t been taught. they haven’t been taught because we just found out, and we just found out because, honestly, research into women’s health has been extremely lacking, historically.. women are just small, weak men with breasts and uteruses, right? WRONG.

every system, every organ, every cell in a woman’s body moves to a complex symphony of hormonal signaling that is circadian (cycling once a day), mensual (once a month), and seasonal (once a year). this beautiful dance is directed by the endocrine system, which consists of glands. the high chieftesses of these glands are the incredibly sensitive gonads, the ovaries. 

these almond-sized glands are so delicate that they will go dormant at the first sign that the outside world may be a less than optimal environment in which to birth and raise a baby. and only now, in the last decade or so, are we finally starting to understand the devastation that is wrought on a developing girl’s health when this happens.

back in the 80’s, when endurance sports were starting to go mainstream, the saying among elite female endurance athletes was “if your period stops, you’re training enough.” those women are now at the tip of the spear of our emerging knowledge of the long term effects of the “female athlete triad”.

the female athlete triad consists of 1) not eating enough, 2) no menstrual cycle, and 3) low bone density. grouping them together like this is rather misleading, because it makes it sound like these symptoms can occur in any combination. the actual relationship is one of definitive and terrifying cause-and-effect.

when a teenage girl stops eating enough to fill her calorie needs, or deliberately exercises beyond her caloric intake, her ovaries receive signals that there’s a famine afoot, that the outside environment is a hostile place, and they shut down. they fucking shut down! can you imagine a male marathon runner saying “fellas, if your testicles still work, you’re not running enough”?

the ovaries are responsible for releasing estrogen, which most teenage girls probably know is responsible for menstruation, breast development and female fat distribution in puberty. what they probably don’t know, because nobody tells them, is that estrogen is also an incredibly powerful steroid that is the primary hormone, in both sexes, that is responsible for mineralizing growing bones. bones are rapidly expanding in volume during puberty, and if a girl’s estrogen is depleted because her ovaries are on strike, she won’t even be able to maintain the bone density she enjoyed in childhood (and her bones are supposed to be getting significantly denser as she grows!).

if she is ignorant of this, a talented and driven teenage female athlete will write off an estrogen crash with “well i didn’t really want periods, tits and hips anyway, they’d just slow me down”, not realizing that she is inducing permanent osteopenia in herself... because she can’t just remineralize her bones after she’s done growing. once she attains her full adult height and her growth plates fuse, that’s it! 

the same women who, in the 80s/90s/00s, were saying “if your period stops, you’re training enough” now suffer from brittle bones. they get multiple compound fractures, shattered bones, just from tripping and falling on a hike. i know many such women. and this is irreversible.

we didn’t, and still don’t, know everything that the ovaries do. how irresponsible we were, to think we could just kneecap our most important glands, with no consequences.

i know some teenage girls follow me, and i want to say this: research nutritional requirements for girls your age, be vigilant about eating enough, and eating a variety of things. take responsibility for your health now: you will thank yourself in 10 years, when you can still stand up straight, when you can fall on a wet floor at work and just laugh it off and move on. you are the only one who has to live with yourself 24 hours a day, and you’ve got to keep yourself safe. you’ve got to.