I Love This, I Wish Id Engaged With This Instead Of Drowning In A Sea Of Misconceptions And Miscommunications

I love this, I wish I’d engaged with this instead of drowning in a sea of misconceptions and miscommunications

Sometimes tricky conversations are easier if you feel like you’re explaining yourself to a third party instead of each other. This is why new things often surface at couple’s therapy.

So here’s a fun assignment if you’d like one:

Pretend you have a podcast and are taking questions from callers. Answer these questions together as if answering the callers’ requests. Listen to each other with great curiosity.

1. How would you define your role in the dynamic to someone who is new to the lifestyle?

2. How would you define your partner’s role in the dynamic?

3. What would you change about the way you entered into D/s or BDSM?

4. What the very best thing about your dynamic?

5. What’s the number one thing you would change about your dynamic if you could be totally selfish and snap your fingers to make it so?

6. How important is the D/s or BDSM to your overall relationship?

7. Most people in the lifestyle have dreams at night that maybe push the envelope a bit. If you get these dreams, share a few.

8. How important is discipline/punishment within your dynamic? Do you wish it was more/less important to your partner?

9. Are rules a necessity to keeping your dynamic at the forefront?

10. How often do you need to feel your partner’s dominance/submission?

11. If your partner HAD to either dial their dominance/submission waaay up or waaay down (no middle ground) which would you choose?

12. What is one thing you’ve never tried that you’d like to try this month?

13. Does degradation have a place in your dynamic? Discuss.

14. If spanking is part of your dynamic, and just for this question you didn’t have to take your partner’s desires into consideration at all, would YOU like the spankings to be more/less painful? More/less frequent?

15. What’s your favorite D/s activity? What is your least favorite D/s activity out of the activities you actually partake in?

16. What do you wish your partner had a better understanding of as far as what goes on inside your head regarding D/s? Here’s your chance to really expound. Help them understand you, even if it’s uncomfortable. Take all the time you need.

17. Tell in detail about one of your times together that you really like to replay in your mind.

18. Tell your partner what would make your dynamic even more meaningful to you.

19. Are you holding back because you fear judgement?

20. Why is your partner a great fit for you? What are they great at?

What questions would you like to add?

Both were lost and alone, both were hurting and suffering in silence, both needed understanding, love, a friend.

One waited blindly, foolishly hoping, the other gave up and found another comfort.

Closeness isn’t a unit of measurement.

Talk about it loud, tell the world.

Let them understand what they did themself first, for others may never see them in their true light ever again. Don’t paint a monster because because the portrait got torn.

Normalize never forcing people to choose you. If someone thinks they can get better elsewhere – let them. Respectfully.

I'm horny but not horny enough to fuck people who don't love me

Relationship tip: don't be doing shit you wouldn't want your significant other doing