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When English isn't your first language 😂

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I have a genuine question. I just read your racism comic reblog thingy. I’m white, and I’m super scared to be racist. Not because I say things that are wrong or have certain believes, but because I genuinely don’t know what’s considered racist and what isn’t. Ie: I understand that when the black woman had to “tone down” her hair (whatever that is…), that that’s racist. However, I’ve been in a similar situation as the one talking about Latina women being paid the least. My classmates and I had to do a research paper on how certain teaching methods work, and for which students they might work. There was this girl who said that it wouldn’t work for most black students, and that we should include that. She didn’t explain why, and the students’ skin colours really weren’t relevant to the paper, since everyone’s brain works a certain way regardless. No one said anything, and we didn’t end up including it. The comic reminded me of this, and now I’m wondering, would it have been racist if I had said anything?

This is a really long way of asking “how do I know I’m not being racist”, and I’m really sorry for it. I feel like I can’t really explain my struggle with it… I hope you understand what I mean?

In your situation with the research project, the girl was right by pointing out that the teaching method wouldn’t work for black students because race does play a part in how people learn and retain information.

As for knowing if you’re racist or not, the way that you described it sounds to me as though you’re not racist, you’re just not knowledgeable about what does or does not count as racism. Now, for you being a white person, that’s understandable because you’re white but if you want to educate yourself, you’re gonna have to do the work.

That can come through reading books about race, listening to podcasts or watching videos, and even through google searches. If you’d like, I can try to compile a small list for you so that you’d have a starting point ☺️

I have a mute character in the story I’m writing and one of my beta readers suggested I use italics when they sign so that I don’t have to keep peppering “they signed” or “their hands flashed” throughout the piece.

But like…I always read italics in a different tone like they’re thoughts. It seems quieter than using normal quotations which makes what they say look less significant on the page than other character’s dialogue.

I really don’t think my audience needs me to use completely different punctuation around a mute character. There’s no need to act like they’re speaking a different language since their muteness isn’t a focal point in the story.

So really this reader’s comment has done the complete opposite of what they intended. Now I’m actively taking out as many of my “hands flashed” notations as possible and just writing in normal body language because, clearly, the other characters understand them and my audience doesn’t need to be coddled.

I started rewatching Naruto the other day and love this series once again!! Especially one certain purple face paint guy…lmao

pretty shitty how baseline human activities like singing, dancing and making art got turned into skills  instead of being seen as behaviors

so now it’s like ‘the point of doing them is to get good at them’ and not ‘this is a thing humans do, the way birds sing and bees make hives’.

repeat after me:

even if i don’t like my body today i will take care of it

even if i don’t like myself today i will still be patient and kind with myself

even if i do not love myself i will still take care of and be kind to myself, despite not wanting to

Why hasn’t this been done before?

how does being punched in the face feel like

January 24 2021

Talked to my HS friend last night and we both shared the stories of our recent breakups. We were just laughing the entire night because we both dated the exact same person but in different fonts.

At some point, I was like: “How can they possibly make themselves look like the better person with this story? There’s no way.” To which she replied, “you’d be surprised.” So we both problemstically described ourselves and it was so fun even though we both knew that our exes weren’t the type. But then again, we thought a lot of things about those people but it really isn’t our business anymore isn’t it? They have nothing to prove to either of us just like we have nothing to prove to them. God bless nalang.

One of the major takeaways I had from that conversation is that it is so so important to hold the people you love accountable. We both were so apprehensive about talking about these people in a “bad” way because we knew why they hurt us. However, refusing to do so is such an injustice to the pain we both had to endure. We understood where they came from but that doesn’t make what they did to us right. That’s why it is so important to be whole before we enter a relationship. Otherwise, you’d be taking out your stress on your partner or abusing the kindness of your understanding and patient girlfriends lol. Get a hobby or a coloring book or something. It’s so important that we all establish ourselves before we get into relationships as love really isn’t enough.

Unlike my other friends, she didn’t really (endearingly) mock me because she WAS me. We both had rose colored lenses clouding our vision and we both have to forgive ourselves for doing that. It felt great to laugh over everything with her because talking about our experiences out loud makes them 10x sillier since damn...we really endured that? Settled for a man that was insecure about having a girlfriend that’s smarter than them? Settled for a woman that admitted they were hardheaded and didn’t know how to change since they knew I’d forgive them anyway? Now we know better.

I love that my friend and I are both in the same stage wherein we are satisfied with ourselves and are working towards strengthening that relationship with ourselves. We capped off the night watching a video of two couples being cute and I didn’t feel the usual feeling of like jealousy or yearning like I used to. I just see two happy people and I feel...happy for them. It’s a wonderful feeling to feel this calm and to know that come what may, I have all the love that I could possibly need within me.

But ofc if an androg wlw with tattoos would want to sweep me off my feet I mean who am I to,,,

“we all know why” just say it’s because they’re white. say it out loud with your whole entire chest. trump supporters aren’t being stopped from storming government buildings because THEY! ARE! ALL! WHITE! that’s it. just say it.

stop making shows about americans in europe… try europeans in america instead. the outrage of not knowing exactly what something costs at a store,, no public transport,, everyone smiling in your face and waiters scaring you by constantly popping up at your table… ice in your water for some reason,, the kind of culture clash i want to see!!

Art forgery is the best crime tbh. It requires absolutely incredible artistic talent, technical skill, and attention to detail to make convincing fakes. Does anyone get hurt from it? No! The only people who suffer for it are the extremely wealthy who want the prestige of having original paintings in their own homes. It’s full of international intrigue and mystery. Perfect.

times are rough but please take care of urself

find some time right now and stretch!! 🌟

you don’t have to be more attractive. you don’t have to be attractive at all. you don’t have to attract anyone or anything. you are not a magnet, damn it. you should be you for you and only you. and yes I am talking about you and you and you.  

What Cis People Say To Trans People Vs. What We Hear

By Meredith Talusan and Rory Midhani

TRANSlator 3000: Amazing technology translates cissexist BS!

“Oh you’re trans but you look so good!” “Trans people are ugly.”

“I’ve never met a trans person before.” “I assume I can identify any trans person.”

“I would date a trans person.” “Trans people are usually undateable so I deserve a prize.” 

“You look just like a real woman.” “Trans women aren’t really women.”

“I’m glad you’re being honest with me about being trans.” “Trans people who don’t tell me they’re trans are deceivers and liars.”

“I loooooove trans people!” “I fetishize trans people.”

“It’s so hard to switch pronouns.” “Trans people are an inconvenience to me.”

“I don’t have a problem with trans people.” “I have a problem with trans people.” 

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Just had my nth conversation with someone about mask-wearing today - yet another well-intentioned moron who was like 

‘But the virus is gone now’ (it isn’t) 

‘But the mask is uncomfortable’ (ventilators are worse)

‘But you’re young, you won’t die’ (having this thing could impact my health for decades to come + it’s my responsability to protect those who’re more vulnerable than I am because that’s how society works)

‘But are you going to live in fear for the rest of your life’ (taking concrete safety measures actually helps me feel more in control and less worried)

‘But are you going to give up everything and stay inside like a rat’ (no, but I’m definitely going to decide what’s worth risking my health for, and shopping for bread rolls is not very high on my list of literally-to-die-for activities)

‘But what if they never find a vaccine’ (then we’ll get used to the situation just like we got used to a thousand other things like seat belts, bike helmets, and increasingly weird true crime podcasts). 

I know it’s tiring to have people call you paranoid all the time - but you’re right and they’re wrong. Check the news, keep a safe distance from others whenever possible and keep wearing your mask!

(Btw that thread is full of interesting stuff.)

This is glorious and even thought it doesn’t fit in the range of all the paranormal, I MUST share

It works like this: You tell Kitestring that you’re in a dangerous place or situation, and give it a time frame of when to check in on you. If you don’t reply back when it checks your status, it’ll alert your emergency contacts with a custom message you set up.

It doesn’t require you to touch anything (like bSafe) or shake your phone (like Nirbhaya) to send the distress signal. Kitestring is smarter, because it doesn’t need an action to alert people, it needs inaction.

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PASS THIS ON.

The first transgender suicide hotline is now up and running in the U.S. You can reach Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860.

Also: don’t stigmatize HIV+ individuals because they all have different circumstances and might’ve  gotten the virus from a variety of sources (sex, occupational, birth, blood transfusions in other countries). 

HIV-related stigma remains a huge barrier to preventing HIV, and is linked to a low level of people testing for HIV. 

The bad news is that Trump is cutting America’s spending on HIV year after year.  He has taken steps to weaken the Affordable Care Act since coming to power.

I'd very much like to punch a feminist.

I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist. It’d bring me great joy.