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I'm so fascinated by languages with different levels of formality built in because it immediately introduces such complex social dynamics. The social distance between people is palpable when it's built right into the language, in a way it's not really palpable in English.
So for example. I speak Spanish, and i was taught to address everyone formally unless specifically invited otherwise. People explained to me that "usted" was formal, for use with strangers, bosses, and other people you respect or are distant from, while "tú" is used most often between family and good friends.
That's pretty straightforward, but it gets interesting when you see people using "tú" as a form of address for flirting with strangers, or for picking a fight or intimidating someone. In other languages I've sometimes heard people switch to formal address with partners, friends or family to show when they are upset. That's just so interesting! You're indicating social and emotional space and hierarchy just in the words you choose to address the other person as "you"!!
Not to mention the "what form of address should I use for you...?" conversation which, idk how other people feel about it, but to me it always felt awkward as heck, like a DTR but with someone you're only just becoming comfortable with. "You can use tú with me" always felt... Weirdly intimate? Like, i am comfortable around you, i consider you a friend. Like what a vulnerable thing to say to a person. (That's probably also just a function of how i was strictly told to use formal address when i was learning. Maybe others don't feel so weird about it?)
And if you aren't going to have a conversation about it and you're just going to switch, how do you know when? If you switch too soon it might feel overly familiar and pushy but if you don't switch soon enough you might seem cold??? It's so interesting.
Anyway. As an English-speaking American (even if i can speak a bit of Spanish), i feel like i just don't have a sense for social distance and hierarchy, really, simply because there isn't really language for it in my mother tongue. The fact that others can be keenly aware of that all the time just because they have words to describe it blows my mind!
Smith College Girls for i-D magazine 2004
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase "self care" doesn't resonate with you, try calling it "system maintenance" and see if that clicks.
Elvira, Mistress of the Dark and Beer Wolf - Coors Light (1986)
tumblr when ur at home: heres some nature pics. heres this cat.
tumblr when you open it in public: H3RES MY LONG AWAITED CLIT REVEAL!! . HERES THIS GUYS ASS.
Majora's Masc 4 Masc
12 y/o me thought i was a feminist for posting sex and the city quotes on facebook
haven’t seen this on tumblr yet, and tis the season
Dear Undecided and Both Sides are Evil voters.
saw someone say "an 11-year-old isn't even supposed to know what sex is and if you do something horrible must be happening to you and you need to get out of there" like can we be for real for a moment. have some people honest to god never heard 11-year-olds making sex jokes in their life
only the real ones know
Hello, I am in a much better situation now than I have been the past few months, however, I still have a lot going on this month. After having Covid last month, I'm tired all of the time, even if I do the bare minimum on a day to day basis. I'm thinking about getting checked out for long Covid but in the meantime it has just overall made my life more difficult, especially financially, because it's harder for me to do basic things.
At the moment, I have an appointment that will likely cost me between $100-145 for my hormone management. I've been dealing with a hormonal imbalance for a while because treatments aren't working well enough and I also have a lot of meds to pick up, around $250 worth in total but pressingly at the moment around $60 worth.
Along with groceries, I anticipate needing about $800 in financial assistance this month. Thank you all so much for the support, I am very grateful for the help in the past and present 💖
