I Think The Least Talked About Reason Why I Dislike Bakudeku Is Because The Idea That Because Midoriya

I think the least talked about reason why I dislike Bakudeku is because the idea that because Midoriya is a boy, he can’t feel hurt over how Bakugo treats him. Despite Bakugo’s abusive tendencies, and him constantly calling him “weak” and “worthless”, “useless Deku”, and physically abusing him their whole childhood, this is portrayed by fans as being cute, because it’s two boys, and seeing as Izuku is a boy, he can’t possibly be upset, hurting, or suffering in any way, despite the fact that the entire reason why he throws himself into battle, and constantly breaks himself to save others, is because he doesn’t want to be useless or worthless anymore, and how he never truly had friends before U.A. I wonder why he feels that way, I mean it’s not like he was constantly told he was useless, and isolated from his peers every other day from the time he was four by someone he considered his best friend at the time- oh wait…

If the paragraph above doesn’t make this clear enough for you, then let me ask you a simple question: If Midoriya was a girl, and Bakugo was still a boy, and treated female Midoriya like he does in canon, (using his quirk on her, destroying her notebooks, calling her worthless, constantly yelling at her and being angry when she receives praise from others, dragging her out of the dorms to fight after curfew, only wanting to atone now that she isn’t quirkless anymore, as if it was her fault he abused her his whole life, and still has yet to properly apologise and treat her better) would you still ship them? Would you like Bakugo? No you wouldn’t. You’d see Bakugo on the same level as M*neta, or En3@vour, and wouldn’t praise him for being a feminist. Bakudeku would be the one of the most hated ships in the fandom, and so many more people would be stating that “it pushes the narrative that abuse victims must forgive and love their abusers, even when they’ve done nothing to warrant it”, and how it would be romanticising toxic relationships, and how abuse is ok as long as the abuser is conventionally attractive.

So why should it be any different seeing that Izuku is a boy? 

A strong start. 

every time i see the “aromantics are lucky cause they don’t go through heartbreak” i just laugh.

cause when my best friend moved away, when i failed that test i pulled four all-nighters studying for, when my awesome guy friend had to stop hanging out with me because his girlfriend felt jealous, when me or someone else is targeted because of my/their race or orientation or gender, when i realize that COVID won’t be leaving any time soon, when my parents expect me to get married to a man someday and i realize i can’t ever come out to them if i want them to love me, when other people in the aspec community shame me for being alloaro, when i look in the mirror and break down because i don’t feel like i belong in my body, when i don’t know where i’m going in life because i was always told it was supposed to have romance... among so many other things, i feel heartbreak. every. single. day.

but no, heartbreak has to be inherently romantic. because non-romantic pain is somehow inherently weaker or nonexistent. because romantic feelings are the only form of emotion. because losing a friend or a loved one is somehow inherently not as significant as losing a romantic partner, because apparently, aromantic = emotionless.

and honestly? having my struggles invalidated like that is more heartbreaking than ever.

I found these posts on Twitter. I don’t know who said this originally but...

...whoever you are,

YOU ARE MY HERO.

I wish lesbians were as easy to find in real life as they are on tumblr