Horsies

horsies

thinking about how my mom spent like 2 years getting downright vicious about the houseless folks who were camping in the woods past her house (to the point of getting a BB rifle that looked like a real fucking gun to threaten them with when they crossed in front of her house??) and justifying it with White Lady Fear a la "what if one of them does something to me! I am but a helpless white woman living all alone!!" and like...

y'all, she terrorized those people. every single time she saw someone outside, she was riling her dog up to bark, waving a gun in their faces (that for all intents & purposes they certainly thought was real), yelling at them, calling the cops (thank god the 2 rural-ass cops didn't actually give a shit), etc.

and she justified it with fears of womanly fragility & inability to defend herself, and I believe how afraid she was! she talked about fearing they would break into her house at night and sexually assault her, and I believe she was legitimately afraid of that. she's been victimized in many of the ways she was afraid of being victimized by them.

the thing is that it doesn't matter how real the fear is.

nothing ever happened, nobody ever tried to threaten her, nobody tried to break in, nobody even approached her. she initiated every single interaction. when she told them not to go through her yard, they did the best they could to respect that without giving up their camping spot; which was on someone else's property, who didn't mind them being there (not to mention one of them is actually indigenous to this specific land!)

she was a thousand times more threatening to those people than they ever were to her, but her fear of them was still real. and that's exactly what made her so dangerous.

I need cis women to internalize this ASAP. your fear is real, and it can and will hurt others. your fear is real, and it is harmful. your fear is real, and your hurt is not deserved, and you still need to grow & heal & prevent it from causing harm.

why is it that people who dont play hollow knight are the funniest about it. friend whos been watching me play sent me this headcanon of theirs

They're so sillies....

Vetted family fundraiser masterpost 2

Version date: June 10th 2024.

Check in regularly on the original post when you see it being reblogged. In all likelihood once its reached you it's already outdated. This post is part of this masterpost series compiling fundraisers for Ghazzah and Sudan. I focus on Ghazzah as I am Palestinian and am more equipped to do verifications as I'm more familiar with my own country and its politics and dialect, but if I know a fundraiser for a Sudanese family is legit I will include it here. Here's a link to the first post of this kind.

Wisam Daoud (106). 7 family members. 15.1k out of 75k USD.

Nadaa's family (107). 3 family members. 0 out if 15k USD. NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Sanaa & Rana Abu Ghaben (108). 25 family members. (1 INJURED, 1 SICK) 145 out of 100k CAD.

Karam Al-Madhoun (109). 5 family members. 145 out of 20k €.

Moad Ahmed (110). 9 family members (1 INJURED, NEEDS TREATMENT). 1.2k out of 20k €.

Firas Salem (111). 4 family members (1 SICK INFANT, NEEDS TREATMENT). 25 out of 20k €.

Tahani Shorbajee (112). 11 family members. (2+ CHILDREN ILL). 510 out of 50k USD.

Mohammed Bardaweel (113). 4 family members (1 CHILD INJURED, NEEDS TREATMENT). 50 out of 37k €.

Aya Tareq (114). 5 family members. 455 out of 10k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Amani Alzatma (115). 6 family members. 18.7k out of 30k €.

Ahmad Shaban (116). 8 family members. 0 out of 510k BP (40k needed for evacuation). NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Moin Hammad (alternatively, pypl) (117). 6+ family members (1 YOUNG INFANT). 4.8k out of 20k. LOW ON FUNDS.

Salah Al Sadi (118). 26+ family members. 61k out of 100k USD. (2 SICK ELDERLY)

Hassan Shbeir (119). 4 family members. 200 out of 50k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Hassan Al-Ashi (120). 7.6k out of 20k USD.

Samah Fares (121). 5 family members (1 CRITICALLY INJURED, NEEDS TREATMENT IMMEDIATELY). 19.6k out of 30k CAD.

Mohammad's family (122). 5+ family members (part of expenses will be used to fund a tuition). 3.2k out of 14k USD.

Mahmoud Nedal (123). 6 family members. 2.1k out of 15k USD. LOW ON FUNDS.

Mahmoud Balousha (124). 25 family members. 1.7k out of 50k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmed Al Ostaz (125). 28 family members (3 NEWBORN INFANTS + 2 RECOVERING MOTHERS). 70 out of 70k €.

Amjad Sido (126). 5+ family members. 80 out of 30k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Omar's family (127). 1+ individuals. 45 out of 50k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Renad Majed Salim (128). 7 family members (3 SICK). 595 out of 25k BP. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmed Al-Zaeem (129). 6+ family members (1 SEVERELY INJURED). 272 out of 50k CAD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Hamza Hilles (130). 6 family members. 161 out of 30k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Taher Abu Aqlain (131). 8 family members. 4.8k out of 36k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Salah Bilaal (132). 28 family members (3 INFANTS IN CRITICAL CONDITION). 4.8k out of 70k €.

Mohammed Mansour (133). 17 family members. 4.1k out of 150k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Abdallah Ameen (134). 3+ family members (1 NEWBORN). 1k out of 5k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Mohammed Thalatheeni (135). 4 family members (1 SERIOUS HEAD INJURY, NEEDS IMMEDIATE EVACUATION). 3.7k out of 20k €.

Marah Salim (136). 5 family members (ALL CHRONICALLY ILL WITH FLAREUPS). 735 out of 55k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Fatin Abu Hamda (137). 5 family members (1 DISABLED, AMPUTEE). 95 out of 18k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Husam Thaher (138). 5+ family members. 15 out of 27.5k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Anonymous individual (139). 4+ family members (2 CHRONICALLY ILL CHILDREN). 25 out of 50k USD.

Sharif family (140). 23 family members. 4k out of 150k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Shymaa's family (141). 5 family members (1 INFANT WITH BIRTH DEFECT, NEEDS TREATMENT). 1.6k out of 50k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Mahmoud Mousa (142). 6 family members. 121 out of 10k €. EXTRMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Nedal's family (143). 9 family members. 10 out of 33k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Fadi Ayyad (144). 8 family members. 360 out of 35k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Mohamed Hamad (145). 9 family members (1 CHRONICALLY ILL, NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT AND EVACUATION, 1 INJURED CHILD NEEDS TREATMENT). 1.9k out of 50k BP. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Tahseen Tawfiq (146). 6 family members. 3k out of 60k BP. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmed Shaaban (147). 1 survivor (entire family has been martyred). 2.1k out of 20k €.

Basel Abu Ghaben (148). 5 family members. 0 out of 105k $. NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Mahmoud Abu Hamam (149). 1 individual. 2.7k out of 10k CAD. LOW ON FUNDS.

Iman Eyad (150). 7 family members. 386 out of 60k BP. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Mahmoud Khalaf (151). 8 family members. 260 out of 30k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Bassam Shaqoura (152). 6 family members (5 ORPHANS, 1 WIDOWER). 80 out of 35k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Nasser Shoshaa (153). 6 family members. 0 out of 120k € (30k needed to evacuate). NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Rania 'Ibra' (154). 7 family members (1 CRITICAL CHRONIC ILLNESS). 0 out of 35K BP. NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Sujoud's children (155). 8 family members (3 ORPHANS SEPARATED FROM THEIR MOTHER). 0 out of 45k $. NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Asmaa Bahloul (CW: PHOTO OF THE BODY OF A SHAHEED (KILLED BY OCCUPATION) IN THE LINK) (156). 4 family members (3 ORPHANS, 1 WIDOW). 0 out of 20k €. NO FUNDS AT ALL.

Abeer Ibrahim (CW: PHOTO OF THE BODY OF A SHAHEED IN THE LINK) (157). 8 family members (7 ORPHANS, 1 OF THEM SEVERE CHRONIC ILLNESS). 350 out of 70k CAD.

Mohamed Rafiq Abdo (158). 7 family members. 4k out of 100k CAD (22.5k CAD needed for evacuation). LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmed Abu Ghali (159). 10+ family members (1 CANCER PATIENT, NEEDS TREATMENT) 1.5k out of 40k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Dina Maliha (160). 7 family members. 6.2k out of 32k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmed Abu Shammala (161). 8 family members. 0 out of 100k € (40k needed for evacuation). NO FUNDS AT ALL!!

Islam Dahleez (162). 5 family members. 3.2k out of 20k USD. LOW ON FUNDS.

Maha Ibrahim (163). 4 family members (1 CHRONICALLY ILL CHILD, NEEDS IMMEDIATE EVACUATION). 78 out of 100.7k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Tawfik Waleef (164). 5 family members. 11.8k out of 40k USD. (25k needed for evacuation).

Elaf Babiker (165). 6 family members. 15.1k out of 17k USD. NEARLY COMPLETE.

Mohammed Alhabeel (166). 7 family members (3 CHILDREN SUFFERING FROM MALNUTRITION, 2 ELDERLY WITH CHRONIC ILLNESSES) 772 out of 50k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Ahmad Waleed (167). 4+ family members (1 SICK, NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT). 865 out of 10k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Alaa Shamaly (168). 3+ family members. 21k out of 70k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Amani Hasan (169). 5 family members. 4k out of 17.3k CAD. LOW ON FUNDS.

Mahmoud Hilles (170). 5 family members. 1 SICK, NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT. 11.5k out of 15k €. NEARLY COMPLETE.

Wafaa Alnhal (171). 15 family members. 1 NEWBORN. 10k out of 35k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Karam Rafiq Al-Nabih (172). 2 family members. 1 SICK, NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT. 5.2k € out of 20k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Iyad Sobhe (173). 10 family members. 2 ELDERLY AND SICK, NEED IMMEDIATE EVACUATION. 7.9k out of 60k BP. LOW ON FUNDS.

Abdallah Alanqar (174). 6 family members. 1 NEWBORN, 1 RECOVERING POST-PARTUM. 10.5k out of 38k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Amal Ashour (175). 3 family members. 28 out of 30k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Mohammed Hilles (176). 6 family members. 11.4k out of 20k €.

Baha Elhosary (177). 4 family members. 15.6k out of 30k €.

Khalil & Amal AND Abdelsalam & Nahla (178). 12 family members. 2k out of 80k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Haifa Aziz / Issam Aziz (179). 1 individual. ELDERLY, SICK, AND DIABETIC, NEEDS IMMEDIATE EVACUATION AND TREATMENT. 8.1k out of 9k €. NEARLY COMPLETE.

Yazan Ashraf Abu Safiya (180). 7 family members. 1 ELDERLY AND SICK, NEEDS TREATMENT. 1.6k out of 50k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Abd al Aziz Aziz (181). 6 family members. 2 FAMILY MEMBERS MARTYRED, THE REST SURVIVED AIR STRIKE. 1 CHILD WITH BRAIN TUMOUR, NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT. 350 out of 15k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Nada Saftawi (182). 4 family members. 4k out of 16k €. LOW ON FUNDS.

Ibrahim Al Sharif (183). 3 family members. 10.8k out of 20k USD.

Ihab Al-Masaraei (184). 15+ family members. 1 ELDERLY, CHRONICALLY ILL AND DIABETIC. NEEDS IMMEDIATE TREATMENT WITH INSULIN. 724 out of 35k USD. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Mohammed & Israa Habib (185). 6+ family members. ALL STRUGGLING WITH MALNUTRITION. 2k out of 25k €. EXTREMELY LOW ON FUNDS.

Hussam Hijazi (186). 15+ family members. 0 out of 75k €. NO FUNDS AT ALL!!

"Mainstream gender" as a system of oppression.

Imagine mainstream gender as a line. On one end of the line is "man," and on the other end is "woman" – this is the gender binary. The connecting line itself is representative, loosely, of "non-binary" gender. (I think this image is suitable, and if others disagree, I think that's more representative of how arbitrarily the binary is defined, rather than this image of it.)

This gender spectrum, dubbed "mainstream gender" because it's what the institutions of society use, only applies to certain groups – the group that controls it, really. White people.

Black people cannot access mainstream gender because they are barred from it via hyper-masculinization that borders on animalization. Black men are viewed as hyper-aggressive and predatory. To the white masses, the concept of "soft" Black masculinity is as real as the transatlantic slave trade (i.e., vague notions of it existing, but no personal experience with the implications, so it floats in the periphery until it's brought up again by a Black person). Black women, regardless of how much they lean into "traditional" femininity, will never be viewed as feminine. Black women will always be viewed as loud, aggressive and "man-ish," the latter contributing to transphobia that impacts both black trans women and black cis women.

By contrast, East Asians are hyper-feminized. East Asian men are stereotyped as soft and small and are portrayed as having little sexual appeal (and those who are viewed as sexually desirable are seen as exceptions to the mainstream; sexy despite their femininity). East Asian women are equally unable to escape femininity and are hyper-feminized to the point of infantilisation, both of which contribute to hyper-sexualization and fetishization. The hyper-femininization of East Asian people also lends itself to transphobia targeted at East Asian trans men (recall: the 2016/17 obsession with smol bois).

But not only is mainstream gender a tool of white supremacy, it also (obviously) is inherent to patriarchy (or, patriarchy is inherent to mainstream gender).

The binary is defined and propagated by men. So while all gender rules are arbitrary and constantly changing, "man" is always strictly defined, and the relief of "man" becomes "woman." This is evident both in masculinity being viewed as "gender neutral," as well as the sense of authority men feel over women's gender, commenting on makeup, how women dress, etc. As a result, the gender "woman" is inherently centered around "man."

In de-centering men, lesbians lack the rules to adhere to mainstream gender. That is why lesbianism is often described as a gender experience because lesbians operate on a new gender spectrum, specific to lesbians.

However, different from race, sexuality is not a visible barrier, and it can take work to exit from mainstream gender. Terf "lesbians" are not lesbians because they cling to the relief of "man" to define their gender; they're gay women. Similarly, white lesbians who prioritize their whiteness will continue to exist within mainstream gender. This also explains why white non-binary people are "like that." While they do not adhere to the binary of "man" and "woman," in participating in the system of whiteness, they remain within the confines of mainstream gender.