What Narcissism Is:

What Narcissism Is:

holding yourself to extremely high standards (if I'm not perfect at it, I'm a failure)

being incredibly sensitive to criticism (becoming suicidal if you think someone thinks you're bad at something)

having a very brittle sense of self-worth that's heavily reliant on what others think of you

What Narcissism is Not:

being uniquely abusive

having no morals

being a bad person

ETA: this is not an exhaustive list of NPD traits! more traits than these are necessary to have NPD! I chose these particular features to emphasize things that aren't often talked about outside of dedicated NPD communities and to highlight the fact that NPD is a disorder based in the internalized fear that you are never good enough.

"As a lesbian..no" "as a trans man.. no-" OMG SHUT UP, YOU CAN'T POLICE PEOPLE'S IDENTIFIES, YOU DON'T WANNA DATE MAN?? DON'T! GODDAMN

sorry to bring politics into this, but 'leftist' online spaces repeatedly calling rightwingers 'sociopaths' because apparently us cluster B havers don't exist in leftist spaces now

"let's not be ableist!", "every mental illness should be respected" and "using slurs, especially ones that based on illnesses is wrong!" people after they call every abusive and evil person they met "narcissist", "psychopath" and "sociopath":😂👍

honestly, me not being able to see my interest in women as 'straight' no matter how man presenting I am, may be a result of my autism. The way I see identity, I am able to see that experiences are too diverse than a cut and dry rule book can convey. to say a lesbian looks one way, and a straight man looks another way, makes no sense to me because there wouldn't be defiance of the so-called 'only way' if there really was no other way. you wouldn't end up with lesbian dudes and straight guys experimenting with men, for example. you can say their experiences are 'really' gay or 'really' straight all you like, but that doesn't erase their actual experiences.

it's also why I'm xenogender; these socially constructed rules make no sense to enforce to me, so gender can be anything, and orientation can look like anything, too. the queer experience has never been simple.

reblogging again because one reblog isn't enough to convey how much I hate Pinterest comment sections for this shit. who made YOU the queer police? shut the fuck up nobody wants to hear your insignificant closeminded whining because guess what, people are still going to have identities you don't want to understand. hope this helped!/nay

"As a lesbian..no" "as a trans man.. no-" OMG SHUT UP, YOU CAN'T POLICE PEOPLE'S IDENTIFIES, YOU DON'T WANNA DATE MAN?? DON'T! GODDAMN

So many people say aspd means someone is emotionless or heartless. I have emotions, just not as much variety as prosocials.

And my actions, i actually do stuff that helps many others, much different reasons then prosocials.

And so many "caring, empathetic" people do not think their actions through so cause so much harm but just view themselves as the ultimate good cause emotions.

Your emotions don't make you good or bad. Just like me missing some doesn't make me good or bad.

Actions, benefit vs detriment.

No more of this toxic positivity, appeal to emotions, appeal to normalcy, thought crime believing, ad hominem using, appeal to motive, appeal to authority used as a general belief.

Fallacies and biases come up, the goal is to minimize them and their impact, not make your identity around them.