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Where's my "bad family is so irreparable and bad that you have to just cut ties entirely and leave" arc?

Like, listen, I like my "family was so lost in trying to be protective that they didn't realuze the damage but when they do they better themselves as people" just as much ad the next person over. They're heartwarming and a nice thought when done well (and not a bullshit apology to a family that was not redeemed). Just awww everything is better, the entire family is crying with you as they watch. So cute and sweet.

But where's my "family is always there no matter what"

"That's what I thought. Where were you?"

"Family always helps eachother no matter"

"You're the sole reason I have low self esteem, depression, and social anxiety."

"Family is everything, you never disrespect Family."

"You made my entire childhood boil down to me trying everything to make you proud yet every second you told me my thoughts and ideas were worthless."

"You never leave the side of family no matter what happens. We always fight together."

"You're the reason I'm being dragged to literal hell because I blindly followed you out of love."

I love exploring family dynamics so much. Family in fiction is extremely huge to me, from healthy to downright toxic, from the parents to the kids, the romance, found family, biological family, makeshift families, whole families, big and small. I love them all.

But not real ones. Those one suck. It's only captivating and beautiful in fiction regardless of the household.

Point is, family is super important to me in stories. It's a form of dynamic between characters, be it growth through bondage or self destruction. A type of "family dynamic" between characters can make it go from mid to fucking fantastic and engaging. But whenever we talk about the funny biological families, the first thought is "how can we fix their issue to make everyone happy?".

Now, of course, that's a very reasonable question. And it can be explored many ways. It's good, it has it's place. I enjoy it full heartedly. Because sometimes things can be fixed. And that important to know, especially with family

But give me my toxic ass family that can't be fixed and the character must either choose to:

A. Be brainwashed by their family due to societal expectations where you must, no matter what, love your family at all costs

Or B. Cut off an entire family you've known from birth who have either literally or metaphorically hit you, beat you down, and leave you sprawled out on the floor weeping because. Those people don't often change. Especially in adulthood. Especially when a child tells them, or their offspring even if their offspring is now an adult

Show me more of that character who learnt to overcome family that won't magically change for them so they have to be the one to learn when to give up, lest they only be hurt, kicked, chastised more. Show me the character who becomes independent and strong via letting go of something they've been taught to never talk back to, to never oppose, to never leave the side of and always obey no matter the situation. Show me a character who has to leave behind simple negativity to finally live happily. A final, desperate measure of just walking away instead of tearing themselves apart more

Because, let's be real, how many toxic families have you known that actually held the capacity to understand, correct their wrong, and suddenly became better people as a whole? I, for one, know none. Is it just my environment? Perhaps. I can only speak from what I know, of course. And what I know is that such a change is too hard for the average person, especially one who has travelled so far down that path. The parents are given the expectation to raise a child and to always be right. To be a role model to them and overall hold power. In doing so, they subconsciously shut down the possibility of the child ever being above them, and equal can be too close to above. Therefore, they push the child down lower than themselves. And this tends to be generational trauma of sorts, a thought process they went through, therefore recreate that can lead to very toxic outcomes. Such as manipulation and general abuse of multiple forms

I know these stories exist, and they have me sobbing every time. I love bittersweet endings. Give me moooooorree. More family dynamics exploring the same or new things in different ways, different growths. No one answer is correct, so let me watch these options be explored moooore

Gimme gimme gimme gimme gimme

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Here's a funny: my biggest regret with Skyrim is blindly downloading "required mods" to make one original/ custom follower (not limited to one ever follower, I got like 5 and I love them all equally <3) work.

Now every time I play, kill a woman, and loot her, she is completely nude. Then I turn off the game, completely forget, rinse and repeat

Worst part is I don't know what mod is causing it still... I've downloaded too many

I tried improving it. it was bothering me. I think it's at least better to look at

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Dimension Rulers au by Fish They're designs are so cute and pretty

Sock deserves the world frfr