Spiritsglade - A Kite Above A Graveyard Gray

Second batch of Wings of Fire scribbles <3

NO ONE knows how to use thou/thee/thy/thine and i need to see that change if ur going to keep making “talking like a medieval peasant” jokes. /lh

They play the same roles as I/me/my/mine. In modern english, we use “you” for both the subject and the direct object/object of preposition/etc, so it’s difficult to compare “thou” to “you”.

So the trick is this: if you are trying to turn something Olde, first turn every “you” into first-person and then replace it like so:

“I” →  “thou”

“Me” →  “thee”

“My” →  “thy”

“Mine” →  “thine”

Let’s suppose we had the sentences “You have a cow. He gave it to you. It is your cow. The cow is yours”.

We could first imagine it in the first person-

“I have a cow. He gave it to me. It is my cow. The cow is mine”.

And then replace it-

“Thou hast a cow. He gave it to thee. It is thy cow. The cow is thine.”

i have to believe somewhere, someone is trying a taco for the first time. someone is taking their first shower. someone is coming home to a new puppy.

i have to believe that this winter, someone new to snow will pull out a 5 dollar plastic sled and throw themselves down a hill, just to try it.

i think i'm probably lucky to be familiar with sunrises. i live in an area where the lightning bugs dance in their cocktail hours. i take chickadees for granted.

today i saw a tree that had changed to fall colors, and my first reaction was to grimace. i love autumn, but i hate the cold. i don't want it to be winter yet.

but how lucky, to live in a place where the leaves do change color - so bright and vibrant that people make treks from around the world just to look at what i grew-up-with. my mom's friend was a teacher in florida. she used to ask us to mail her an assortment of leaves, just to show her children - to prove to them yes, they really do turn yellow and orange and red.

last year i finally tried pumpkin spice for the first time. someone this year will find a new favorite knitting pattern. someone's favorite band will drop a new album. artists will make things we haven't yet imagined. there will be chalk drawings and magnet poetry and karaoke and recipes and laughing.

it is easy to forget. this was all new to me, once. and when it was - well, it was just all so easy to love.

How to protect yourself during stampede

I do think that we all need to get better about knowing our labor rights and not trusting bosses or employers, not getting caught in those traps where you just feel like it’s “nice” to tell more than you need to. ESPECIALLY in a situation where you’re not even hired yet. This is inspired by the truly astounding number of fellow neurodivergent people I’ve heard say they’ll disclose their diagnosis in job interviews or even in applications/cover letters (and not just in the “diversity reporting” section that hiring managers don’t see). Why!!! You don’t owe them that and all it’ll give you is for them to find another reason not to hire you. You don’t have any idea of how much they know about or what stereotypes they’ve absorbed about autism, ADHD or whatever; it could lead them to decide that you can’t do some skill you actually are very much capable of and maybe even be well above average at, before they’ve even met you. And if they don’t tell you why they passed on you (and why would they?) you can’t sue for disability discrimination.

Accommodations are something that you can discuss after you get the job. Until you’re hired, that’s none of their business. I get that autistic people have a strong desire to be open and honest and authentic and interviewers and job apps play on that with every type of person, but this is a trap. Employers, especially potential employers, don’t know you and they aren’t looking out for your best interests, they’re looking out for their own. You’ve got to be the person looking out for your interests; you’ve got to protect yourself.

And yet every time I say this I get met with “awww I’m sorry” and hug emojis and other suggestions that I feel this way because of some personal bad experience. But I haven’t had those and this has nothing to do with that. It’s just common sense, the same way people point out that if you’re asked if you have reliable transportation you should just say “yes” and not elaborate, as that’s a trap to find out if you have a car. If any “experience” of mine contributed to this it’s just being raised by an employment lawyer who knows firsthand (often from just talking to the employers she was hired to defend) how much you can’t trust an employer.

Seriously, I’ve seen people outright admit that they’d heard from other autistic people that not disclosing got them more job offers and yet they (first person) kept doing it. What are you getting out of this!!!! Stop it!!!!!!!!!