Hey Followers. Sir Has Been Out Of Town For More Then A Week And Im Super Horny Hehe

Hey followers. Sir has been out of town for more then a week and I’m super horny hehe

Good Boy... very proud of you.

Sir is going to be out of town for the week so he gave me the key so I could unlock and clean my cage and cock. Being locked can be such messy business lol. He let me lock myself at home when I felt I was going to be a naughty boy lol. Made it less then 24hrs then I had to lock it up. Should have been after 5hrs but I made it thru a long tumblr session without jacking but don’t think I could make I thru another one lol.

I fully enjoyed our play last night, such a good Boy.  Workouts are coming along amazingly well.  Very proud of you Boy. Yes, please play safe and know your status - being in control is a very important thing. 

Hi all. Sir has a funny sense of humor as you can see in this pic lol. So close but no hole to plow :p. Play was a great deal of fun. Sir let me out of my cage and I had sooo much fun humping his crotch. Grrrr I so want to be doing that again real soon hehe. My dick was sooo happy. He worked my nips well. Got them nice and sore. Work was difficult with such sore nips lol. We didn’t get to play as ling since I needed to get my HIV/STD tests done. All negative :) remember boys to play safe and get tested often. You are your best healthcare advocates :)

So love getting my Boy to the flying stage - wonder if I can find a similar paddle? hehehe

Sore

As is the case quite often these days, my ass is sore this morning. I recently inherited a few new paddles from a friend of mine and Sir has been trying them out on me. There’s an 18" black one made out of some kind of hard, non-wood material that’s a real bitch to take. Sir likes it because it allows him to hit both my cheeks with a single swing pretty easily, and because of the heft of it in his hand. And, well, he loves to hear me holler and it’s pretty effective at making that happen. I’ve noticed that unlike the leather or wood paddles he usually uses, it doesn’t bruise the surface much; it leaves bruises deeper than that instead.

I’m not complaining. I love having the reminders of our time together every time I sit down.

I went pretty deep down into subspace when he was spanking me last night. It started as a punishment spanking for something I screwed up, so there wasn’t much warm up. The combination of being ashamed of my mistake and the pain I was receiving pushed me down into subspace initially. He finished and left me to stew for a while, whimpering against the wall he had stood me against. When he returned the spanking resumed but was about play. And yes, they feel different - both my headspace and the physicality of it. And then that amazing moment happened when it shifted from “Oh god this hurts so much I really want him to stop hitting me what the fuck am I doing” to “Oh my god that feels so good I don’t ever want him to stop hitting me”. Subspace, majorly. When that line between pain and pleasure becomes so blurred and the endorphins are really flowing, it’s magic.

By the end I was flying. Or falling. It’s hard to tell the difference sometimes.

Hello! Husbear and I only just started exploring bdsm lifestyle. Do you have any advice how I, deeply submissive and exploring that now, can make it comfortable and easy for my partner to show his dominant side? So far our dynamics have been the oposite, and we were both unhappy about it but made do for 8 years. :D Any input appreciated. Have a nice day

This is a really good question. I feel like I understand what induces submissiveness in me, but… what kind of behaviors induce dominance? How can you help your partner take the control you’re offering?

I asked SIR, and he told me that for him asserting power is natural, but he has to know that his boy wants to submit–and I think that’s a key part of any power exchange. It’s hot to play with control taken by force, but in order for the exchange to be safe and–perhaps stable is the right word–the Dom needs to know that control is welcomed, is safe. SIR writes, “that he will love and trust me unconditionally even when I am hurting him - and that he knows it’s part of training and development. In many ways the sub brings out the Dom by his need.”

With that in mind, I think it might be helpful to start by talking with each other and making sure he truly understands your desire–and limits–for submission. It sounds like your partner has a desire to be more assertive but he may need time to learn that it’s really okay to express it with you. We’re acculturated to express power in… very specific ways, and it’s usually taboo to just grab someone by the throat and push them against the wall, licking their–um, sorry. Where were we?

Ah, right. So when your partner knows you need him to take control, and you’ve offered it, I’d look for specific contexts and behaviors that can bring him into that headlong rush of top-space. SIR writes that for him, it’s “You physically below me. On the floor. At my feet. Strict SIR/Master protocol when speaking to me. Showing me you need to be used.”

Some submissive behavior seem widely embedded in Western culture; you can play on and amplify those. Height differential, for instance–try finding ways to look up at him, even if only by a few inches. Lay your head on his chest. Avoiding contact, eyes down, is a common submissive indicator. Allowing him to initiate eye contact and repeatedly breaking downwards is a pretty submissive move. Lip quivering, letting your head sink a little… Play around with your posture and expressions and see what happens. For me as a Dom, there’s nothing cuter than an eager lil puppy smiling up at me, so mileage varies!

Pick a title (Sir, Boss, Master, Daddy…) for your partner that makes you feel most submissive, and that makes him feel most powerful. Greet him on your hands and knees, licking his boots. Give him those longing puppy-dog eyes that say “I’m wholly yours.” Beg him to bite down harder. Thank him every time he exerts control. Don’t feel like you have to follow anybody else’s protocol–it’s OK to mix and match, and choose the things you most enjoy. :)

Adding physical restraints can induce a power differential too. Mitts make you dependent on your Dom for pretty much any human task–which gives them the power to deny you those privileges. Let him talk to you while you’re gagged–it forces you to listen, and gives him freedom to control the conversation.

It might be worthwhile to try D/s as a scene first. Maybe just an evening where you sink into the roles. Use clothing, posture, and language to establish a clear dynamic, enjoy a little impact play or sex or whatever, and then return to your normal roles. Take time to reconnect with each other and reassure one another that you still care and enjoyed the experience. The next day, when emotions have had a chance to settle, talk about specifics–what you found hot, what didn’t go so well. Try something new, repeat.

Having a clear delineation between D/s time and equal time can make it easier to deepen that trust we talked about earlier, and I think that’s key. In the 24x7 relationships I’ve been in, we fluidly switch between heavy protocol, a moderately playful level of dominance, and time as equals where we check in 100% earnestly with one another. Either way, he’s got to know you want it, and you’ve got to find what works for him!

Things don’t change, only the way you look at them.

Carlos Castaneda (via panatmansam)