Its The Saddest Thing In The World When Two People Love Each Other More Than They Have Ever Loved Anything

it’s the saddest thing in the world when two people love each other more than they have ever loved anything else, when they are willing to do anything to stay together, and have built a relationship that makes both of them happier than they’ve ever been

and it still isn’t enough

there’s a misconception that grief only happens when we lose people. this is not true. we can grieve circumstances, relationships, missed opportunities. in fact, sometimes when you find yourself plagued with waves of emotion from sadness to melancholy you may be grieving yourself. the version of yourself that you might have been if things had been different, or if only you had said something, or if someone had stood up for you.

Anne Carson, The Glass Essay (1995)

My favorite quote from The Secret History

my words will go down in history by judy emery