Some Things It Is A-OK To Say To Your Doctor:

Some things it is A-OK to say to your doctor:

No

Wait

Stop 

(These are full sentences! You do not need to say any more) 

I am not comfortable. 

I am not comfortable, I would like… 

you to wait a moment.

another person in the room. 

everyone else out of the room. 

a doctor/nurse of my same gender to preform this test/procedure. 

the person who came with me to this appointment in the room. 

you to explain everything before you begin. 

you to tell me what you are doing as you go. 

to do this another day. 

I want to get a second opinion before we proceed.

I don’t understand, please repeat that. 

I don’t understand, please explain more simply. 

Please say that slower/spell that, I want to do some research myself.

I would like to talk to [someone in my life, ie my parents to SO] before making this decision. 

No, I do not need to talk to [anyone] before making this decision, I am confidant on my own and am ready to proceed. 

What are the side effects of this medication/procedure? What are the potential complications? 

Why are you recommending/prescribing this specific thing? 

What other treatment options are there? Why are you choosing this?

Would your treatment plan be different if I were a man/woman older/younger had kids, etc? Why are you choosing this one then?

IS there anything I should know about this treatment you have not yet told me?  

I understand you say not to, but If I choose to do X, against medical advice, what risks am I running? (ie taking recreational drugs while on medication)

How much will this cost? 

Are there any less expensive options/tests we can run first? 

Is there a generic of this medication you can prescribe instead?

I think you are not understanding me, I said…

You are not listening to me, please let me finish describing my symptoms. 

You are not understanding how much pain I am in, let me clarify… 

I do not think it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc, what else could it potentially be? 

I think by assuming it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc you are ignoring some symptoms. Please listen again and let’s discuss what else it could be. 

Please write in my chart that you are not testing for X and why not. 

I am in enough pain/this is detrimental enough to my life that non-treatment is not an option. If you can not treat this/figure out what is wrong, to whom can you refer me?

Please write (or help me write) a summary of what we did today so I don’t forget 

What are our next steps? 

If [what you are recommending] is ineffective, what would my next steps be? What other doctor should I talk to? 

What is the best way to contact you if I have additional questions or issues? 

Remember, a doctor is a person YOU pay because they know a lot about bodies in general, to help you figure out whats best for YOUR body. It is still your body, not theirs! They know about medicine but you are the expert in your body. Don’t let them act like they own you. Don’t leave if you’ve still got questions, don’t stay if you’re uncomfortable, and feel free to insist on ANY information you want. 

u know as long as we are on the subject of holocaust remembrance day... everyone go read that smithsonian mag article on anne frank again 🙃

i never blog about taz grad because it truly is a losing game no matter what you do. if I want to criticize it, either for minor story things (like how fitzroy losing his magic should have been a cool arc since he originally blamed his magic for his failure and now he wants it back but instead of grappling that he just rolls twice for self confidence and does hard drugs in the woods) or for major “this podcast is made by four cishet white guys and it shows” problem things (rainer’s introduction being incredibly performative allyship, the entire centaur arc has some wildly uncomfortable white savior overtones, teacher takes students into woods to do hard drugs and it’s played as a joke) you’ll get creeps who personally blame travis for everything wrong with mbmbam and taz jumping up to agree with you and drowning out your points with just vicious travis hate. you then get the people who are annoyed by those people jumping down your throat to be like “OH TRAV HAS ADHD AND NPD HE’S TRYING YOU’RE SO TOXIC.” and. neither of you see the fucking point.

at the same time, if you want to talk about things you like in grad (like the characters or them destroying capitalism as a cool plot point or Cool Gary the best npc) or just in general that you’re sick of people dunking on it by decrying every minor DM problem as the biggest problem in the world or just making fun of travis’s adhd, you’ll get people going “UGH CLASSIC NO BUMMERS FANDOM IGNORING ALL THE PROBLEMS OF THE MCELROYS” and there’s just… no… winning…

I know this should be old news, but I somehow still sometimes find myself utterly dumbfounded by how Far from Christian teachings so many alleged Christians can get.

My friend has to get her insurance through a Christian insurance group and when she signed up she had to agree that if she gets pregnant out of wedlock, she’ll be booted and lose all benefits she’s paid for. She had to agree to these terms to receive her healthcare.

These people.....They’re so far from their own god that they imagine themselves casting out a single pregnant person and think “that’s what the Bible would want. That’s what Jesus taught.”

Like I said. I’m dumbfounded. They don’t realize that Jesus would be horrified?? That he would take in an abandoned pregnant person in and protect them??? That that’s his entire thing???

A saying my mom always used growing up when people acted this way comes to mind, which is, “they lack imagination.”

They really can’t even for a moment think the way Jesus is supposed to have. It’s astounding.

There is no love! There is no love.

I'm not at all an editor but I was gripped with the need to make this

a while ago i made a post that was like “i really like mag but it’s also painfully obvious that it was written by a white man” and i said i wouldn’t elaborate, but you know what I WILL elaborate! it’s not a media i enjoy if i don’t make a long ramble about the racism of the source material at least once so here we go

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