I Know This PSA Gets Posted A Lot But Please, Don't Assume Someone Who Apologizes A Lot Is Trying To

I know this PSA gets posted a lot but please, don't assume someone who apologizes a lot is trying to manipulate you.

Some do that, yeah, of course. But also there's people like me, where, after leaving my abusive home for the first time, I compulsively apologized for years, and still do do that when I'm very stressed or anxious. I'm not talking just "says sorry a bit too much" I am talking, I literally apologized to the fucking wall I walked into once, and another time I apologized to the waiter at a restaurant who told me they were out of the food I wanted to order. I'm not trying to manipulate anyone I am just really struggling to work through the idea that "something bad/weird happened" = "I did something wrong" = "I am about to get told I'm a worthless piece of shit who fucks up everything." Please be patient!

If someone's excessive apologizing does bother you (because trust me, I do get it), it might help to turn it into a question! Instead of "stop apologizing," "are you anxious? Do you need to talk?" can help a lot!

I realised I had never posted this Astarion on Tumblr! I drew this after hearing his story about the most terrible punishment inflicted by Cazador 😭

More normal things

Had someone look me straight in the eye and call me a “real life omega boy” because I’m a man who can get pregnant, when I was talking with people about abortions and mentioning that trans men are so often blatantly excluded from this convo as a man who wants to carry his own child one day. I felt so gross and fetishised. She was acting like it was so funny and was super weird about it . imagine having that much brain rot.

This man was made for me