Good Emotional Skills To Know 4 College But Also In General

good emotional skills to know 4 college but also in general

this is stuff that i’ve found helpful and am in the process of working on. they may not be achievable for you without help and may not work for your specific circumstance, but this is a list of suggestions that you might be able to think about. i am also not a mental health professional so please do feel free to contradict me!!

self soothing.  having a toolbox to take care of yourself by yourself. bc sometimes nobody else is available and you just gotta put some lotion on, listen to a tune, and go to bed early. 

checking in. checking in with yourself to see if you’re okay. knowing how to alter your strategies when your strategies aren’t working. knowing when your strategies aren’t working. this is just taking some time every day to reflect on what goals you didn’t meet and why and what you can do to fix that.

there’s nothing you “should” be doing. if you get caught up thinking “i should be doing x” that’s false! stop that! “should” be doing better implies that you have some obligation to do whatever it is that you “should” be doing. you don’t owe anybody except yourself. analyze why you think you should be doing that thing and change that into…. “i want to be doing x because…” or “doing x will make me happier, because…”. overall, more productive and less self-shamey. 

disconnecting from the crowd. eating in a crowded dining hall can be stressful! knowing how to be alone in a crowd and stay calm is helpful

being okay with being alone.  tbh college is kind of… being alone a lot, in my experience. even though you’re surrounded by people, a lot of time is spent alone. making friends is hard. your friends have different schedules. you’re busy. shit sucks. we make the best of it.

knowing yourself. this relates to a lot of what i’ve already said but like. knowing your emotional state and knowing what helps trick the monkey brain is helpful. stop repressing your feelings, friends.

talking to strangers. ordering from a menu! paying library fines. going to office hours. asking for a cashier at the register if there isn’t one. ya this is hard. ya you gotta expose yourself. sometimes i just try playing a persona. like this isn’t me ordering a sandwich. this is a cool me who knows how to talk to people who is ordering a sandwich.

you don’t have to be friends with your roommates. you just have to live together in a way that doesn’t make you two hate each other. ideally, you two will coexist in a way that doesn’t interfere with the other’s daily life.

give and taking. on the topic of roommates, sometimes your roommate can be a shitty person, but sometimes you are the shitty person! give a little but if they’re negatively impacting your life, communicate.

communicating during disagreements. explain what your emotions are instead of blaming them. “i feel hurt when you…” or “i feel frustrated when” or “i feel unappreciated when.” if things get heated, ask if you both can take a ten minute break and then come back. and don’t bring up disagreements when the other party is preoccupied or going somewhere. you can legitimately schedule a discussion.

it’s okay to apologize. learning to swallow your pride gets easier each time.

knowing that people work differently than you. some people are not gonna click with you and it’s gonna seem like they have this whole brain process up there that is totally unlike yours. and yeah! that’s how it is. and that’s chill if they aren’t hurting anyone else. work with them and be flexible!! 

comforting people. you will probably/definitely see someone cry! hell if i know how to comfort people. someone please help. but some things i’ve learned are: 1) different people need different things. different people need different things! 2) people need different things at different times. 3) you can ask them what they want and it won’t be weird. 4) apparently a lot of people like hugs? but ask. and it’s okay to not want a hug. 5) just show that you care in some way if you don’t know what they need. i used to think that if somebody needed to tell me what they needed it was a sign that i just didn’t know them well enough and we weren’t compatible or i wasn’t being a good friend. that’s fake! friendship isn’t based off of fitting naturally in every way and making an effort to be good for them is important.

knowing it’s okay to not be liked by everyone. it’s okay if strangers think you’re dumb because you said something dumb in public. you know you’re not dumb. it’s okay if not everybody you meet likes you. it’s okay if you do something cringey. everybody has their own shit to deal with and you will not shatter their world.  grow and move on!

forgiving yourself. i’m trying this new thing where when i feel embarrassed about something i say. out loud. “i forgive myself.” and then i just try to grow from that and move on without getting caught in a spiral of shame.

knowing what you need vs what you want and what is better at the time. what you need: a shower. what you want: to not do that. solution: take a shower! or maybe what you actually need is to go to sleep? but guess what. you probably know what is good for you. the hard part is actually doing it.

realize that building habits is less work than discipline. emotional effort is expended every time you have to make yourself do something. just make it part of your routine and you’ll just think it’s normal to do all the good things! like, for example, i’m trying to make it a habit to eat structured meals instead of a “eat when i’m hungry” thing because i know that makes me skip meals, which is bad!

you won’t be able to do everything. forgive yourself for that. write down  things that are top priority and focus on them. everything else is not important right now and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for not being able to do them.

your health is important. i’m not saying health will solve all your problems. it won’t! but health will cause a lot of your problems to go away. because let’s face it. not sleeping causes a lot of problems. 

it’s okay to ask for help. we say this a lot but it’s hard to internalize it. here’s a thought: there’s so much shame and hesitation about asking for help so by doing that you’re actually being proactive (which is respectable) and mature, and therefore… not weak or stupid. ask for help even before you need it! most people love to help others. and especially take advantage of people who are OFFERING help. for example: counselors at school or TAs. it’s literally their job. they want to do it. and if you don’t want to talk to anybody in real life, my inbox is always open.

Any ideas for efficient breaks between study sessions?

I’m a pro at this;

For a 5 minutes breaks;

Clean your desk. This is very important because you would want to have a clean space when you want to return to studying. It’ll also help you focus more.

Grab a healthy snack. Carrots and nuts are my favorite snacks tbh. 

refill your bottle of water.

Solve a rubix cube (if you know how to solve it)

Check your email or messages, but make sure you don’t spend more than 5 minutes. Just reply to the important ones.

Make yourself a cup of tea or coffee.

For 10-15 minutes breaks;

Prepare some oatmeal! I love oatmeal and I always have some during my break. It’s very nutritious and it wakes you up frankly.

Have a shower. Sometimes when I’m sleepy, I just take a short shower, usually moderately cold, maybe even warm, and change into fresh clothes. That boosts my level of concentration AND makes me feel amazing.

Tidy your room. This is a nice way to control the mess and it sets you in a better mood, knowing that everything is in place and neat. 

Call a friend! You sometimes need to chat with someone that makes you feel happy.

Watch a youtube video (preferably motivational). This is what I do most of the time. It really gives me a boost of motivation and kind of reminds me why I’m doing what I’m doing. Why I shouldn’t stop.

Exercise; some yoga sequences, crunches, squats, ANYTHING REALLY! Maybe practice your splits or bridge. I don’t know, just MOVE your body. I frankly dance. I just place some music and start to choreograph to it. Or I also practice my kicks for karate (trying to get them higher than usual). Just do any kind of exercise that moves your body.

For 20-40 minutes breaks;

POWER NAP YAASSS. If you feel too tired, just sleep. Tell someone to wake you up in 20 minutes or so. but don’t exceed the 40 minutes or else you would wake up tired rather than energized. Tbh, a 20 minutes power nap is the best option.

Read a chapter from your favorite book. Just one chapter yeah?

Prepare lunch, or dinner. I honestly just go heat up my food and eat it, or maybe actually prepare some (noodles bruh). and then I watch something while I’m eating, like a part of that musical I’ve been wanting to watch (Heathers is what I’m currently watching).

Prepare next week’s spread. I tend to do that during the weekends.

Skincare! Since I have rosacea (it sucks), I use this time to wash my face, apply a face mask, then wash my face AGAIN then put some serum to regenerate the skin. Not only is this good for my skin, but it also makes me more relaxed.

Go outside! go to the library, the coffee shop, the grocery store, the park. ANYTHING. You need fresh air. 

For 1-2 hours break; 

THIS IS THE MOST YOU CAN GET.

Watch a movie. Preferably something that doesn’t have sequels. 

Watch an episode or two from your favorite show. if the episode is for 1 hour or more (Sherlock or GOT) you probably should watch one episode.

Go out. Have lunch with a friend, or by yourself (quality time aye)

Go shopping!

Write. I have a two hours break every Saturday and Sunday to write.

Clean up your closet. You probably have many shirts and pants that don’t fit you anymore, so why not give them to someone that actually needs them?

This is what I can think of at the moment. Hope they’re useful!

And remember to actually be productive for you to take a break yeah?

Grow Up - Glo Up Tags Masterpost

The tags have been available on the blog site for a while, but I decided to put them in a post that you lovelies can save for future references as well. Enjoy💋 

Bathroom ~ Cleaning and bath time fun

Beauty ~ Skincare, makeup, you get the gist

Bedroom ~ Organization, decorating, and possible relationship advice

Carpe Diem ~ How to get yoself together and become a better person

Cleaning ~ Overall organizations and cleaning tips

Education ~ Your brain is your biggest asset, so feed it

Earth ~ Zero waste, and other things regarding the planet we depend on but treat poorly

Finance ~ Money, and how to get more, and keep what you have for longer

Fitness ~ Get off the bed and keep your body and mind fit

Food ~ Any recipes or food related content

Garden ~ Plants, gardening, and how to develop a green thumb

Glo Up ~ Inspirational glo up pictures and stories

Grounding Box ~ Hobbies and knickknacks to ground yourself with when responsibilities overwhelm you

Health ~ I just want y'all alive and well

Home ~ How to turn your house into a home

Kitchen ~ Y'know that place in the house where you’re supposed to cook and store food?

Languages ~ Learning languages is always fun and good for you

Luxury ~ The finer, more selfish, things in life, because I’m selfish

Mod Musings ~ Just me rambling into the abyss and sharing snippets of my life with strangers on the internet

Mod Stuff ~ Any updates or information I want to tell you guys regarding this blog

Moving ~ We can’t all live in our parents’ basements forever

Parenting ~ Can you believe some of us are responsible for little humans?

Pets ~ They’re basically millennial kids, anyways

Relationships ~ Platonic and romantic

Resources ~ External resources that may be beneficial to you

Reproductive Health ~ Your body, sex, and how to do it right

Safety ~ Stay safe, slay safe

Socialize ~ We all have to talk to other humans at some point

Style ~ Clothes, fashion, just put something on, please

Tech~ Tumblr-related stuff and other technology and internet stuff

Travel ~ The world is your oyster so explore it

Vegan ~ Any recipes or food advice that applies to the vegans as well

Work ~ Unfortunately, capitalism makes the world go round

Writing ~ For the little souls with lots of stories to tell

big subject masterpost!!

ENGLISH & ESSAYS - lit, lang, essays

ap lit

english literature masterpost

english literature tips

ap literature reading list

literature masterpost

ap lang

how to study for the ap lang exam

ap language and composition

another ap lang mp 

essays

a guide to outlining essays

academic writing resources

writing last minute essays ​

SOCIAL SCIENCES - hug, gov, econ, ush, euro, world

ap hug

ap human geography

another ap hug masterpost

ap hug masterpost

tackling ap human geography

ap gov

how to do well in ap gov

ap govt and politics resources

ap gov and politics

ap gov resources

youtube ap gov review

ap econ

ap macro econ sheets

how to survive ap economics

lets get economical

ap ush

how to procrastinate for the apush exam

apush resources

ap us history masterpost

another apush masterpost

all the topics u need to know for apush 

ap world

ap world history

ap world masterpost

how to study ap world history

one more world masterpost

ap euro

ap euro masterpost

ap euro crunch time

european history masterpost

ap euro tips

SCIENCES - comp sci, psych, chem, physics

computer science

pltw masterpost

coding masterpost

typing masterpost

coding online

learn to code

how to study for computer science

psychology

ap psychology: a masterpost

teach urself psychology n neuroscience

more psychology

ap psych resources

masterpost of psych notes

ap psychology

chemistry

how to organic chemistry ​

science resources

another org chem masterpost

ap chemistry

high school chemistry cheat sheet 

chemistry resource masterpost

ap chemistry masterpost 

chemistry resources 

physics

physics links

studying for ap physics

ap physics 1

ap physics c

physics resoures and links

MATHEMATICS - algebra, precalc, calculus, general

algebra

algebra 2

algebra masterpost

precalc

precalculus review

resources for precalc

precalculus masterpost

calculus

how to study calculus ​

mega calculus masterpost

ap calculus formula sheets

general

how to study math

complete math masterpost ​

NON ENGLISH LANGUAGES - specifics, general

specific

spanish resources masterpost

spanish resources

swedish resources masterpost

italian learning

learning turkish masterpost

beginning with japanese

japanese masterpost

german learning tools

romanian masterpost

learn hebrew in 200 words

learning latin

french masterpost

a french masterpost

chinese masterpost

learn korean  

general

languages dictionary masterpost

how to learn languages

languages masterpost

what to do after duolingo

how to learn a language knowing the basics

MASTERPOSTS OF MASTERPOSTS

masterpost of everything

studyblr resources

the really big studying masterpost

masterpost of masterposts

study masterlists

the imperfect guide on ap classes

ap cram packets

MISCELLANEOUS - art, printables, apps, organizing

art

mini art guide

paper recommendations

how to survive ap studio art

fifty ways to improve ur artwork

helpful (art related) websites

useful art masterpost

printables

printables masterpost

another masterpost

how to make a printable

apps / websites

websites u didnt kno

study apps n websites

organization

cleaning out binders

time management stuff 

how to be more organized

time management

My Notes Masterpost

Hey guys! It’s finally that time of year, the time where I post all of my notes from the semester! (I’m actually posting all of my notes from the last three years) Feel free to use and distribute these notes as you please, but please do not repost on Tumblr without giving credit!

High School Notes

Algebra II- These are by far my largest files to date. Both PDFs are a mixture of my own notes and notes that my teacher gave me. 

Physics- I don’t have a whole ton of these notes, but they include key ideas, as well as step-by-step instructions for 1-D and 2-D motion problems.

AP Human Geography- This folder includes chapter outlines, worksheets, articles, and practice tests.

AP World History- FIFTY PAGES WORTH OF APWH NOTES! These are the notes that got me through the exam!

AP Psychology- Chapter outlines + two projects I did. I don’t have a whole lot of notes on this subject because I mostly used a workbook.

Introduction to Digital Technology- These notes are helpful for anyone taking a computer science class, but these do focus fairly heavily on web design.

Digital Design/Web Design- These are from second and third year web design classes, focusing on HTML/CSS.

Sociology- All vocab from a textbook written in the 90s.

Spanish II- I’m gonna be honest here and say I did very poorly in Spanish, but I did at least take a decent number of notes.

College Notes

ENGL1101- These are all Blackboard handouts from my professor. 

ENGL1102- These are all vocabulary terms for all things literature.

HIST2111- EXTREMELY HELPFUL FOR APUSH. This folder is literally hundreds of pages of American History notes from my college lectures.

American Government- Every single vocabulary term from my American Government textbook. These notes were written with Mildliners so I apologize for the light-colored text.

That’s all I have for now! As always, feel free to contact me if you have any questions/technical problems with these notes. Remember that what I did may not work for you, but I hope these notes will at the very least help you out come exam time! Good luck and happy studying!

New Year’s resolution ideas for students

Finish all your schoolwork by 11 pm each day

Limit yourself to one cup of coffee a day

Get at least a B in all of your classes (or set goals for individual classes)

Stretch for 10 minutes before bed

Read a book each month for leisure

Get at least 7 hours of sleep every night

Spend less than two hours on social media a day (or some other time limit, depending on where you are now!)

Journal every day

Leave for class 5 minutes earlier than you need to

Listen to podcasts or watch documentaries instead of binging Netflix or watching YouTube

Get at least 1 hour of exercise a week

Only spend money on things you really need (not just things you want)

Finish papers at least a day in advance

Spend 30 minutes a day on self care

Wake up an hour earlier than you currently do every day

What are some of your resolutions (if you have any)? x