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Saw this tweet and had to send!

https://twitter.com/dairarchibald/status/1474166007979720710?s=21

oh my god

being alive is to have life telling you ‘ok now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave’ over and over and over until you learn it & then have to learn it again

like dan was willing to let blair go!!! he helped her be with the man he thought she wanted the most at the time despite his feelings for her!!! he never acted like she friendzoned him or he was entitled to anything from her, he was often super selfless with her!!! he wrote louis' wedding vows for him and said nothing while he watched her get married!!! he told her that it wouldn't matter to him who the father of her child was!!! he was who she turned to for support when she miscarried and he never once complained and was there for her in any way she needed!!! he constantly encouraged her to be her own person and loved her when she was!!! he didn't belittle her or deride her or play games with her, all he did was love her and meet her on her level intellectually!!! so tell me why the FUCK i'm supposed to want blair to be with chuck?

In honour of evermore, what are some the best TS dair songs? (Especially some from Dan’s POV)

you definitely came to the right place for this thank you for giving me an excuse to go crazy about my two favourite things

stay beautiful (if you and i are a story / that never gets told / if what you are is a daydream / i'll never get to hold, at least you'll know), white horse (a blair song but i'm gonna find someone someday / who might actually treat me well), state of grace (just. every line. but i never saw you coming, and i’ll never be same + you come around and the armour falls + this is the golden age of something good, and right, and real), begin again (you throw your head back laughing like a little kid / i think it's strange that you think i'm funny cause he never did), you are in love (all of it!!! says “you’re my best friend” and you knew then what it was, he’s in love), ALL of reputation and lover is about Them but - delicate (this song makes me go crazy it’s so s5 them. you must like me for me !!!) DRESS (silence and patience, pining and anticipation + i don’t want you like a best friend) getaway car OBVIOUSLY, call it what you want (one of my favourite underrated dair anthems, the entire second verse! all the drama queens taking swings, all the jokers dressing up as kings, they turn to nothing when i look at him+ and of course i said “you don’t need to save me but will you run away with me?”), new year’s day (please don’t ever become a stranger who’s laugh i could recognize anywhere), i think he knows (16th avenue is in brooklyn. hello) miss americana & the heartbreak prince (5.13 onwards), PAPER RINGS obviously (the VOWS are paper rings!!!) daylight (The Dair Anthem. no explanation needed). folklore is the essential breakup, post-series angst, getting back together album - the 1, exile, cardigan, this is me trying, illicit affairs. invisible string is Their Song. mirrorball is blair but the bridge is SO dan. finally, our new dair anthems: champagne problems, long story short, ivy (literally s5 royal arc...)

top tier dan pov songs: dress, new year’s day, cornelia street (this city screams your name), death by a thousand cuts, PEACE, hoax, the lakes

“fuck you my child is fine” ma’am your child was a pleasure to have in class

I go from being full of sweet positive life to empty and full of despair like every other hour and that’s why I sleep so often and am never quite present in conversation

so i absolutely cannot get the concept of post-series dair somehow finding themselves in a situation where they have to pretend to be married or engaged at some event/gala thing & having to do the whole "tell us the story of how u got together!!!" thing. like them basically reciting their actual history but then they have to add the happy ending and basically verbalize all their "what ifs" w/ intense regretful/wistful eye contact...GODDD WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF

LUCKY FOR YOU i have sort of written this!!

A list of things Blair Waldorf used to believe in but doesn’t anymore: love.

God is made of hunger and I am made of dreams, Katie Maria

loneliness really does advance and strengthen like once it makes a home in you it's so hard to feel like your place is with others and it's so easy to get out of practice at sharing who you are because by that point being on your own is an integral aspect of your existence and there's just no way to explain that to anybody

you gotta learn the difference between people who like you for what you do for them & people who like you for who you are. for your own sake.

i've always wondered, why do you like dan x blair so much? i've only seen a few episodes of gossip girl but everyone i've seen that likes the show seems to really dislike dan and blair as a couple. why about their dynamic appeals to you?

i feel like most people that hate dan and blair are either obsessed with romanticising chuck and blair despite how much he abused her, or they think the last minute retcon of dan being gg makes sense, as if it doesn’t disregard the entire show. but imo, dan/blair has always been the best relationship on the show, and i’ve been rooting for them since late 2009.

dan and blair were everything the other had ever wanted in a relationship, the answer to all the problems they encountered with everyone else. dan was the pure and simple love blair had always wanted, he saw her for who she truly was and loved her anyway (people who claim dan didn’t love blair’s scheming side are wild, he schemed with her MULTIPLE times, he just knew she was better than playing games and hurting others), believed in her when she didn’t believe in herself, matched her intellectually, and saw her as an equal. and blair was dan’s soulmate. to borrow from the vows dan wrote for louis about blair himself: “you, blair waldorf. you have taught me how to live, how to enjoy everything the world has to offer. you have brought out this side of me i never thought existed. before you, i did not truly know how to live. i was expected to be a certain kind of person. but the truth is, that person was someone i didn’t actually like that much…” dan and blair LIKED who they were when they were together, and neither of them had truly liked themselves in a long time before that. they brought out the best in each other, and they could be their real selves together. no needs for lies or facades, because they saw who the other really was, and loved them because of that.

they also had the most believable and natural relationship progression on that show. dan and blair went from enemies to friends to lovers and it never felt forced or rushed, it took years of spending time with each other for their relationship to develop naturally. and they ENJOYED spending that time together in the lead up!!! even before they were friends, half of their interactions had them smirking and laughing at each other and trading witty barbs and they looked like they had fun together, even when they refused to admit it. it’s about blair asking dan for seduction tips and quipping “look who finally got a little interesting.” i’m sure it’s a fluke, dan tells her, because they have no idea what the future has in store for them.

and god!!! dan has always been there for blair, since one of the first times they met. the first proper conversation they have is in the fourth episode. they’ve spoken maybe three times by this point, and it’s either been about serena sleeping with nate or blair insulting him and yet!!! he tells her about his mom in an attempt to help blair with her own. they barely know each other and yet he sees a side to her and understands parts of her that some people never do. and he keeps giving her advice over the years!!! i think it’s incredible that so much of what he tells her parallels the development of their relationship later on (“keeping your pride and getting nothing, or taking a risk and maybe, maybe, having everything” / “what if these signs are here for a reason? and ignoring them just makes me a coward?”)

speaking of parallels with dair, the fact that they had them directly parallel when harry met sally and the writer/socialite relationship from breakfast at tiffany’s (blair’s favourite movie.) the writers knew what they were doing and it’s one of the reasons i think they were going for a dair endgame at some point. 

they just wanted each other to be happy!! so many other characters on this show refused to accept others being happy with anyone other than them (namely chuck), but i think dair were the only two who wanted it for each other aside of like, nate, maybe? sure, blair’s originally opposed to dan/serena, but by season four, dan’s happiness is her priority (“i just want you to be happy” / “if you’re that guy with serena, how could she not love you?”) and dan has always wanted that for blair (“i do think you deserve to be with someone who makes you happy” and helping her with chuck and/or louis, depending what she thinks will make her happier.) so many gg relationships are so toxic, but dan & blair were probably the most genuine friendship on the show, especially in this sense. even when they were mad and hurt each other, they never let that resentment build like they were prone to doing with the others.

and that’s the thing! they wanted each other to be happy and they MADE each other happy. dan was so good for blair back before they were just friends that people thought she joined a cult. blair made it clear multiple times that everything was chuck was exhausting and miserable for her, and spending time with dan made her light and happy again - and she returned the favour. 

he wrote a book about her!!! he wrote a book about her and everyone that read it could see that dan loved her from it. three years earlier blair didn’t even KNOW that dan was a writer and then she became the star of dan’s book. and he wrote another man’s vows for her, gave her fiance a speech that made blair felt like he peered into her soul. every other boy wanted to give blair the world, but dan was the only one who ever gave her what she really needed: his heart.

this is the most feel good dan/blair fanfic i have ever written! case in point, the summary: “in which there are things dan loves about blair, and things blair loves about dan. oh, and nate. there is also nate. he’s just there.”

— Silly darling, you don’t know a thing about love. You only know how to drown in kindness that isn’t yours to keep —

Oh, my, god.

Fun story: I asked Josh Safran on twitter if he could share the entirety of Dan’s vows (as some picture of the two pages suddenly emerged on twitter, but the second one was half hidden) to which he answered by tagging Jeanne Leitenberg, one of the Gossip Girl writers asking her if she was the one who wrote them. She did and shared the entirety of Dan’s vows, which you can read right here:

Summary: If Dan was her husband, she wouldn’t ever let him go to seedy clubs alone. Then again, Dan isn’t her husband, and she stops him from staying at seedy clubs anyway.

/ or: guess who wrote some dan/blair nonsense again! 

Jake & Amy + Chandler & Monica - parallels

You guys are talkin’ bout how Taylor Swift’s discography is about dan and Blair but have you heard “my ex’s best friend” by mgk??? That shit hits harddd

you know that s5 finale episode where blair gets back together with chuck even though “dan is my best friend, i feel strong and safe around him”  vs the thing abt chuck making her feel weak and like a little girl ?? and when blair talks to chuck he’s like “i don’t want to be mr blair waldorf” or whatever it is that he says? that was. ugh. big contrast to dan’s whole liking blair for her independence and her whole “no man or magazine should be able to take that away from her” - like?? dan would’ve LOVED to be mr blair waldorf, he legit didn’t want her to feel like she had to be mrs dan humphrey. or whatever.

anyway, i’m bitter, can you tell

Friendly reminder to not punish yourself for creating. 

Y’all, I fucking love Kevin and Madison SO. DAMN. MUCH. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

Me, vibrating: If I Make A Single Mistake I’m Going To Explode

As opposed to that quote about “the horrifying ordeal of being known,” do y’all ever feel so positively UNKNOWN and UNSEEN that it frightens you? Like there’s a self that you feel on the inside, and you believe to be “you,” but it seems like nobody else sees that version of you? And they’re interacting with someone that isn’t you but a projection of their experience of you? What’s more, perhaps nobody will ever know your true essence and you will die without ever being fully realized????? I’m only two beers in honestly

Some old gems from Bangalore