Not Understanding Something Isn't An Excuse To Be A Bigot, By The Way.

Not understanding something isn't an excuse to be a bigot, by the way.

My grandpa doesn't understand trans people, but he is supportive of me being trans.

I've never really understood nonbinary identies or xenogenders, but it's not going to kill me to call you a person instead of a man or woman. I don't understand otherkinity, but being supportive of your identity won't get me thrown into an active volcano. I don't understand lesboys but I'm not the sexuality police and I'm not going to say your identity isn't real.

Do you understand rocket science?

No? Well, do you constantly tell people that rocket science isn't real, that it shouldn't exist, that it's made up by the woke, etc?

No again? Then don't say that stuff about the identies you don't understand. It's not about you, it's about making other people more comfortable. Because if your identity is different than the norm, you don't always know if a bigot is just mean or if they're going to hurt you physically. Being supportive of identies you don't understand makes it clear that you're not going to harm someone for identifying a certain way.

Orihime Inoue is a turigirl.

Orihime Inoue from Bleach is a turigirl!

I howled with a boy last night, under the stars at college, he said first that he was scared to be loud, but he was simply scared of how people would perceive him being loud, we sat on old adirondack chairs over looking the pond, and I howled at the sky, he looked at me in awe, a woman so loud, not scared of the world, I said that if he howled I would be there too, two tones at once, but before I could even ask if he wanted that, he howled deep and loud into the sky, we did this, together.

Afterward he was full of adrenaline, I was too, we ran around deep at night, streetlights providing the light the shy moon could not.

We sat by the bell tower, on fours, and talked, he kicked a pine cone my way and I picked it up with my teeth, and set it by him. He told me somthing about love, somthing I lost in the chill of the wind.

Sometime were going to church point, to howl again, to see if the dogs on the other side of the river would howl back

Language cannot describe the experience of therianthropy, all it does is muddle it

That night I figured out what its definition was

It’s stories and poetry and love

Run fast, bite hard, bark loud

Peace, love, and gratitude

-Zith Ipeth

i have been trying for like. months to explain how the relationship between butch lesbians and trans men is not something akin to polar opposites and this is all i got. like it's not like this:

it's a venn diagram with a massive overlap in the middle. i'm not saying EVERY butch is a trans guy and EVERY trans guy is a butch dyke , i'm just saying it looks more like this:

these are not "mutually exclusive" terms- they do not mean the same thing, but we can be the same people, an very often are. there is a long history of butches who identify as FTM, trans men, drag kings, genderqueer, genderfluid, transmasculine, male, polygender, and two-spirit lesbians, and so much more. the relationship between lesbianism and queer masculinity is inseparable and the only people telling you that butches and trans men need to violently separate from one another and be at each other's throats are terfs. even if we do not share identities, we share our struggle together as heavily misunderstood and unseen masculine queers.

we stand up for each other when our identities get confused by strangers, and we get misgendered. we stand up for each other when terfs and terfpilled people tell us that transmasculine people and men can't be lesbians, when people say "butches just want to be men", when people say "butches aren't real women", when people call each of us bull dykes and trannies, when people mock the way FTMs walk and talk and look, and when people tell trans men they're "just butch dykes in denial". we stand up for each other and understand each others struggles.

whenever a butch lesbian asserts they're a woman no matter how masc they are, whenever a trans man asserts that they are a man and not a butch, whenever a butch struggles to be seen as both a man and a lesbian, and whenever a trans man returns to the lesbian community while embracing their manhood, we are part of the same community, we share the same struggles, and we owe it to each other to stay strong.

we are not enemies. we are bedfellows, lovers, family, spouses, partners, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, siblings, friends, each others support networks, even if we don't share identities perfectly. whether you are butch and a woman, butch and a man, butch and something else entirely, a male, ftm, genderfluid, polygender, genderqueer, transmasculine, nonbinary, two-spirit or whatever else you may be lesbian, you are part of our family and your experience is worth being heard.

☄️You’re facing a lot right now, and it’s okay to feel like it’s all too much. Life can be unbelievably overwhelming and painful, and it’s understandable that you’re struggling. You matter, and even when life feels heavy, your existence holds immense value. You’re not defined by the tough times; you’re defined by the courage you keep showing in facing them. Keep moving forward, even if it’s just one small step at a time. Even if you have to take a moment to pause. Even if you fall backwards. I believe and care about you☄️

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