I Hate How Shame Is Such A Common Factive Experience. Why Should We Be Ashamed Of Existing?! We're "weird"?

I hate how shame is such a common factive experience. Why should we be ashamed of existing?! We're "weird"? Good! Fuck normalcy and arbitrary expectations! We make others uncomfortable? Well, that sounds like a them problem, because we're not harming anyone, and one person's discomfort doesn't override another's right to exist as themselves in peace. Besides, it's not like they're gonna get over themselves if they never have to confront their discomfort, so I'm just gonna stay here and you can tell me when you're ready to treat me with respect.

Fuck shame!! I'm proud to be a factive and I'm not gonna be ashamed of who I am!!

i have been trying for like. months to explain how the relationship between butch lesbians and trans men is not something akin to polar opposites and this is all i got. like it's not like this:

it's a venn diagram with a massive overlap in the middle. i'm not saying EVERY butch is a trans guy and EVERY trans guy is a butch dyke , i'm just saying it looks more like this:

these are not "mutually exclusive" terms- they do not mean the same thing, but we can be the same people, an very often are. there is a long history of butches who identify as FTM, trans men, drag kings, genderqueer, genderfluid, transmasculine, male, polygender, and two-spirit lesbians, and so much more. the relationship between lesbianism and queer masculinity is inseparable and the only people telling you that butches and trans men need to violently separate from one another and be at each other's throats are terfs. even if we do not share identities, we share our struggle together as heavily misunderstood and unseen masculine queers.

we stand up for each other when our identities get confused by strangers, and we get misgendered. we stand up for each other when terfs and terfpilled people tell us that transmasculine people and men can't be lesbians, when people say "butches just want to be men", when people say "butches aren't real women", when people call each of us bull dykes and trannies, when people mock the way FTMs walk and talk and look, and when people tell trans men they're "just butch dykes in denial". we stand up for each other and understand each others struggles.

whenever a butch lesbian asserts they're a woman no matter how masc they are, whenever a trans man asserts that they are a man and not a butch, whenever a butch struggles to be seen as both a man and a lesbian, and whenever a trans man returns to the lesbian community while embracing their manhood, we are part of the same community, we share the same struggles, and we owe it to each other to stay strong.

we are not enemies. we are bedfellows, lovers, family, spouses, partners, husbands, wives, brothers, sisters, siblings, friends, each others support networks, even if we don't share identities perfectly. whether you are butch and a woman, butch and a man, butch and something else entirely, a male, ftm, genderfluid, polygender, genderqueer, transmasculine, nonbinary, two-spirit or whatever else you may be lesbian, you are part of our family and your experience is worth being heard.

when referring to myself, i will use first person pronouns. the only time i dont is when im around folks who dont know my 'types. though usually i just avoid talking about my alterhumanity at all around those people

Fictives of specific characters, when referring to your type do you say: I, third person, alternate generally, alternate depending on who you speak to or something else?

I'm assuming you mean fictionkins, since this isn't a plurality blog, but fictives/introjects are welcome to answer as well! ^-^

Hi! Genuine question, how can someone be physically nonhuman without it being a delusion? Asking because I feel less and less human by the day

one way i see a lot, which is where i tend to fall, is "i am nonhuman, and this is my body, so therefore my body is nonhuman"

im sure there are many many other ways but this is the one im most familiar with. sorry i couldnt answer your question past this!

☄️You’re facing a lot right now, and it’s okay to feel like it’s all too much. Life can be unbelievably overwhelming and painful, and it’s understandable that you’re struggling. You matter, and even when life feels heavy, your existence holds immense value. You’re not defined by the tough times; you’re defined by the courage you keep showing in facing them. Keep moving forward, even if it’s just one small step at a time. Even if you have to take a moment to pause. Even if you fall backwards. I believe and care about you☄️

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using heroforge is fun for coming up with gear ideas

i may draw these myself soon..