Here Are Some Facts About The Aspec Community Whereas If You Struggle To Grasp Or Comprehend Them, You

Here are some facts about the aspec community whereas if you struggle to grasp or comprehend them, you probably still have some amatonormativity / allonormativity to unlearn:

Asexual people can have and desire romantic relationships even if sex is off the table for them.

Some asexual people like sexual content in fiction but not in real life.

There's a difference between an aroallo person and a non-committal cishet. No your cheating ex boyfriend who only cares about sex isn't automatically aromantic.

Being aroallo is not synonymous with a high libido.

Queerplatonic relationships can look exactly like an allonormative romantic relationship and not be one because things like kissing etc. aren't inherently romantic.

Asexual people can wear and like clothing that is revealing or commonly regarded as sexual without it meaning that they desire sex.

NOTHING but literal intercourse is inherently sexual. Kissing isn't inherently sexual. Not even french-kissing or making out. Neck kisses aren't inherently sexual. Flirting isn't inherently sexual. Hell, I only found out like two weeks ago that some people, even in the ace community, consider these things to be inherently sexual.

No form of affection is inherently romantic either. Kissing isn't inherently romantic. Hand-holding isn't inherently romantic. Cuddling isn't inherently romantic. Even all of these things in combination aren't automatically indicative of a romantic relationship.

You define whether something is sexual or romantic to YOU. This does not mean it is to everyone else.

Some aspecs just don't want a partner at all

Some aspecs aren't aromantic but don't mind not having a partner either.

A QPR isn't the only other option aside from platonic or romantic relationships. A QPR also isn't romance lite or the aro version of a romantic relationship.

Being demisexual or gray ace doesn't automatically make someone sex-favorable

Frayromantic people feel romantic attraction until they develop a close bond with the person. The romantic attraction fading does NOT necessarily mean they care about that person less or don't desire a committed relationship with them because relationships and attraction isn't hierarchical.

Some people don't want to engage with sexual content at all.

If you read these and you realize these never occurred to you or that you have been assuming some things, that's not a judgement of you. We all have internalized allonormativity and amatonormativity. It just means there's work to do.

Thinking about the Pokemon AU for a bit... It's a shame that it's technically a porcupine, and that it would have had evolved by now, but I can't get the thought of Riddle having (having had?) a Cyndaquil out of my mind. He wouldn't be complete without ONE Fire type, after all.

Completely unrelated, and utterly coincidental, but I don't think you've made Chenya's team in that AU yet, right?

no, no, hold on, you're absolutely right, Riddle should have a Typhlosion. he needs a big firey pokemon that erupts whenever it gets mad but is also very soft and likes being petted! it and Roserade are best friends and they play catch with Togedemaru! it probably keeps accidentally melting Trey's Alcremie and always feels terrible about it! this is perfect

as for Che'nya, I thought about Meowstic for a while...but then I read Delcatty's pokedex entries and, nope, there he was.

Tbh I think a lot of people downplay the stakes Malleus is in that makes him overblot as just surface level loneliness by itself and that's why they think his overblot is unwarranted/annoying compared to the other six. It makes sense he jumps to such drastic measures to avoid facing whatever comes next because whatever it is will last not just a few years but literally a millennium + either way because of multiple systemic reasons he knows he's not just gonna be able to connect with a bunch of new people/explore a bunch of new experiences to make up for it.

Compared to other overblotters, it seems no matter what course of action Malleus will end up in a bad ending since he's a species seemingly among the few left of his kind while also being biologically predisposed to outliving everyone. It's as if he can never have a happy ending as long as he's himself, or that as a king (and symbolic "lord of all villains") his happiness will only come at the cost of others'.

I feel like a lot of people also give him the entire blame of his failures to connect properly with his peers. When even before they knew about his impulsivity or lack of cognitive empathy people were already jumping to conclusions about him. (Said mindsets came about from internalizing the depersonalization he was raised with, he's the sole heir of a country battered by colonization who place very high expectations on him to be a symbol of hope for them again after all)

Assuming the worse because of his powers, the reputation that came from it, and because of (the once again systemic issue) humans and people outside the Briar Valley barely knowing anything about/only having stereotypical rumors to go off the nocturnal fae who closed themselves off to try and stop humans from invading them more💀

So yeah givevn all of this Malleus was a ticking time bomb and even then he was about to just stand down and put his own feelings aside until he became accidentally convinced there was a way that didn't have to exclude him. It's an unfortunate clash of circumstances between different people and that's what TWST is all about. So yeah idk just kinda baffling some people are unironically out there saying things like "Malleus should've just held himself together for one night that's so selfish" when it's kinda made extremely clear by the story there's way more leading to the characters' making choices than that

From an outside point of view as the audience of course there are obvious steps Malleus could take to make the most out of what he has and to not inadvertently be a prick to others, but it pretty obvious why in his shoes it's not really feasible rn lol. Other than these things I could think of at the top of my head, a lot of the things people single him out as especially selfish or unreasonable for are things the other overblotters and characters in general also do lol.

> Like the class dynamics at play? NRC is literally rich boy central many characters express some kind of class privelege

> Not receiving consequences for his actions? This is a staple twst writing flaw for all its stories in general, most overblotters have gotten a slap on the wrist/their actions relatively covered up by the end. And Fellow legit just walks away from an undisclosed time of human trafficking like it was no big deal😭

Ironically Malleus will probably be the first overblotter to not have his actions hidden to only a select circle of people and receive severe repercussions for it because someone like him "should've been above that".

But yeah sometimes I feel like the extent of how some factors in Malleus's background, upbringing and environment determine his way of thinking and why he thinks he needs to do certain things is underestimated by the fandom and only the surface level of what he's doing is focused on which results in some people talking about his character and his flaws in a very dismissive way idk

You use "aces and aros can be in relationships" to justify shipping canonically ace and/or aro characters. I use "aces and aros can be in relationships" to justify headcanoning characters canonically in relationships as ace and/or aro.

We are not the same.

love it when an author accidentally writes the ‘uninterested in anything other than my studies and job’ type of ‘eccentric’ character cuz they always read as aro and/or ace. love it just as much when said character falls in love and absolutely panics cuz it reads as an aspec character discovering they’re actually demi and going ‘this is what alloros go through all the time?! my health can’t handle it!’

Anime ask game!

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1. Favorite anime?

2. Least favorite anime?

3. Last anime you saw?

4. First anime you remember seeing?

5. Is there an anime genre you shy away from?

6. What is your favorite anime genre?

7. Have you watchen The Classics? (ie. Evangelion, Naruto, Dragon Ball, Detective Conan, Pokémon, Bleach, etc.)

8. Do you watch more popular anime (like Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood and Dr. Stone) or more obscure anime (like Magi: The Labyrinth of Magic)? Or is it a mix of the two?

9. Any anime recs?

10. Do you generally watch anime in the original dub or in your language?

11. Anime you wish had gotten a sequel?

12. Anime you wish had NOT gotten a sequel?

13. Anime you wish got more seasons?

14. Anime you wish got less seasons?

15. Favorite opening theme?

16. Favorite ending theme?

17. Have you ever went to an anime convention?

18. Anime pet peeve?

19. Have you ever watched an anime to the end, and then went for the manga to see the rest?

20. Do you generally prefer manga or anime?

21. Do you own or have you ever owned a physical copy of a manga volume?

22. Have you watched anime with someone else?

23. Unpopular anime you wish got more hype?

24. What is, in your opinion, the best anime (that you've watched or in the whole world), be it your favorite or not?

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