You Use "aces And Aros Can Be In Relationships" To Justify Shipping Canonically Ace And/or Aro Characters.

You use "aces and aros can be in relationships" to justify shipping canonically ace and/or aro characters. I use "aces and aros can be in relationships" to justify headcanoning characters canonically in relationships as ace and/or aro.

We are not the same.

i don't even remember how i got into jeweler richard but damn. it's now one of my favorite pieces of media ever.

it's just so,, refreshing & comfy to read. every volume is like sitting in a warm patch of sunlight & learning about all these wonderful, new things (which may sometimes not be so wonderful, after all) as a child. like, every volume is chock-full of random trivia, it's so silly and endearing. i also love how Real these books get while still being so respectful & understanding. opened my eyes to so many things. everything from the queer experience to shitty fathers (an understatement) to beauty—man.

seigi & richard have such a lovely relationship, it's such a treat to read how their relationship progresses from strangers -> employer & employee -> friends(???) -> friends -> partners

i've only read up until the 8th volume, but idt I'll mind (that much) if they aren't explicitly stated to be romantically involved because the nature of their relationship is already so obviously queer, you'd honestly have to purposefully obtuse to not see it. whether they end up platonic (???), queer-platonic, or romantic (no matter how hesitant it may be), i'm glad that a series like this exists & that i got to read it. as someone who slowly came to terms with my own queerness, jeweler richard holds a special place in my heart. i can't wait to read the next volumes :)

I love this freakishly weird guy so fucking much.

Ive heard Saiki K was pretty good. Never really got into it myself, only know it by proxy (obsessed friends) but they showed me his rep and it seems alright (am Aroace myself lol). Thats the only one I can really think of off the top of my head tho.

Thank you for the rec! I have seen Saiki K before and have read the manga for it, too. Kusuo Saiki is one of my top favorite characters!! There are compilations on YouTube of him being an absolute aroace icon, I highly recommend watching them. I’m not sure if I’m aro too, but I do definitely know know I’m ace, and I relate to Saiki’s character a lot.

Here are some facts about the aspec community whereas if you struggle to grasp or comprehend them, you probably still have some amatonormativity / allonormativity to unlearn:

Asexual people can have and desire romantic relationships even if sex is off the table for them.

Some asexual people like sexual content in fiction but not in real life.

There's a difference between an aroallo person and a non-committal cishet. No your cheating ex boyfriend who only cares about sex isn't automatically aromantic.

Being aroallo is not synonymous with a high libido.

Queerplatonic relationships can look exactly like an allonormative romantic relationship and not be one because things like kissing etc. aren't inherently romantic.

Asexual people can wear and like clothing that is revealing or commonly regarded as sexual without it meaning that they desire sex.

NOTHING but literal intercourse is inherently sexual. Kissing isn't inherently sexual. Not even french-kissing or making out. Neck kisses aren't inherently sexual. Flirting isn't inherently sexual. Hell, I only found out like two weeks ago that some people, even in the ace community, consider these things to be inherently sexual.

No form of affection is inherently romantic either. Kissing isn't inherently romantic. Hand-holding isn't inherently romantic. Cuddling isn't inherently romantic. Even all of these things in combination aren't automatically indicative of a romantic relationship.

You define whether something is sexual or romantic to YOU. This does not mean it is to everyone else.

Some aspecs just don't want a partner at all

Some aspecs aren't aromantic but don't mind not having a partner either.

A QPR isn't the only other option aside from platonic or romantic relationships. A QPR also isn't romance lite or the aro version of a romantic relationship.

Being demisexual or gray ace doesn't automatically make someone sex-favorable

Frayromantic people feel romantic attraction until they develop a close bond with the person. The romantic attraction fading does NOT necessarily mean they care about that person less or don't desire a committed relationship with them because relationships and attraction isn't hierarchical.

Some people don't want to engage with sexual content at all.

If you read these and you realize these never occurred to you or that you have been assuming some things, that's not a judgement of you. We all have internalized allonormativity and amatonormativity. It just means there's work to do.