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It Might Just Be Because Im Sleep Deprived From Jetlag Rn But This R/relationship_advice Post Is Making

 My boyfriend (18m) drew me (18f), and I made a joke about it. Now he feels terrible and won’t calm down—how do I fix this?

So, I [18F] asked my boyfriend [18M] to draw me a while back, and recently he decided to give it a shot. We’ve been dating for 7 months. He’s not super confident in drawing people and used a dry erase board for it. When he showed me the sketch, I immediately noticed it highlighted a couple of things I’m insecure about—like my shoulders and stomach. But instead of being upset, I found it kind of funny and joked about how he managed to capture all my insecurities perfectly. I wasn’t serious, just trying to be playful.

Well, he didn’t take it the way I expected. He started apologizing over and over, saying he didn’t mean to upset me and that he thought those parts of the drawing looked nice. I reassured him that I wasn’t offended at all, but he seemed really shaken by it.

Later, he started panicking, telling me he’d been worrying all day and blaming himself for some nightmares I had (which honestly had nothing to do with the drawing—it was just my mental state). I’ve tried to explain that I was just joking and that it wasn’t a big deal, but he still feels awful.

How can I make him feel better and understand that I wasn’t actually hurt? I don’t want him to carry this guilt over something that was meant to be lighthearted. Any advice on how to approach this?

Here’s the drawing - https://imgur.com/gallery/drawing-6vU0UyL

it might just be because im sleep deprived from jetlag rn but this r/relationship_advice post is making me cry actual tears of laughter. i read the post at first and was like yeah pretty standard whatever but im nosey so i clicked on the drawing op linked and i was not mentally prepared for it. putting it under a read more so you can get the same experience as i did

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