Im Literally Going To Scream The Next Time I Read Imagine If The Genders Were Reversed Men Can Kill Women

I’m literally going to scream the next time I read “imagine if the genders were reversed” men can kill women with their bare hands and cannot get pregnant. Shut up

I just saw someone saying that radfems are right wingers

Sure we are, a bunch of gender non conforming women, often lesbians, who are pro choice, vote for the left, fight against religion and capitalism and traditional gender roles... how very right wing of us

Why are you agaisnt the rights of nonbinary people? I feel like I have a lot in common with radfems when it comes to experiences, but because my soul isn't female you consider me evil? Or wrong? I literally cannot help the fact that I'm enby. Being genderless isn't even something I fully did myself, it's my experiences with the gods that lead me to where I am. I can't experience gender the same way an ace person cant experience sexual attraction. I know that you understand misogyny and how it hurts people as a system, why don't you understand that it's hurting trans people too? I've had bad experiences with men, I've had gender roles forced upon me, I've been hurt by these systems. The exact people who you attack are victims of the same system as you, when you attack trans people, afab or amab, you're using the language of the patriarchy. I understand how things can be scary when you don't understand them, but I think you'd be happier if you started accepting trans people, mabye you'd even find that you aren't cis.

Okay let’s break this down!

1) “Why are you against the rights of nonbinary people?”

I am not. I am for their rights. I’d actually wager I’ve done more to further their rights in very tangible ways (at least within my state) than most people on Tumblr.

2) “My soul isn’t female.”

I apologize, but this is where we must part as I believe the “soul” having a different sex from the body is impossible and unscientific. I respect your beliefs entirely. I completely understand that you have had experiences with gods (I believe that’s meant to be plural, correct?) as I myself have as well but we (as a society) do not base facts, or more importantly laws, on beliefs. Separation of church and state is important to the liberty and safety of all. All sorts of religions and beliefs and spirituality exist and all must be able to coexist.

3) “I can’t experience gender the way an ace person can’t experience sexuality.”

Again I apologize but this is just untrue. Gender is a set of societal expectations placed on people based on their sex. It is nothing outside of that. I am a butch lesbian, I buck pretty much every societal expectation placed on women, for all intents and purposes I “can’t” experience gender either…and yet I am still a woman.

4) “When you attack trans people you’re using the language of the patriarchy.”

This is a critique that’s very important to me so I’d like specific examples so I may be able to properly address this. We all use language of the patriarchy without knowing it so I’d like to be called out when I do so I may fix my errors. However I do not feel I have attacked any transgender people. Remember, women talking about their experiences with misogyny is not an attack.

5) On the final note, I understand being trans. I identified as transgender for ten years. That is a decade. I have read countless and countless manuscripts on what transgenderism means, on genderfluidity across different world cultures, on the difference between sex and gender. I have been studying gender in an academic setting for two years now to get my degree. I have a different opinion than you. That does not mean I am uneducated. I am HIGHLY educated on this topic. I have identified as both a transgender man as well as nonbinary at different points in my past. Assuming I don’t understand these things and saying I myself “may not be cis” comes across as very callous of my past experiences as both a transgender person and a detrans person.

Finally I would like to say, I appreciate this response as it is very measured, not insulting, and something I am quite capable of responding to.

I respond to all good faith disputes. I am taking this as good faith and assuming the parts that are mildly disrespectful are because you simply aren’t particularly acquainted with me or my beliefs (which would be understandable). If anyone in response to this devolves into insults, I will not be responding.

the entire argument of men being oppressed under patriarchy due to them being expected to be strong and assertive is so easily debunked when you realize that they’re not expected to be that way, they’re just automatically assumed to be. women under patriarchy are forced into proving their submission and sensuality through subscribing to the lifestyle meanwhile even the most meek men are simply assumed to be smarter and better as leaders simply due to their sex. masculine stereotypes are not oppression, they’re privilege.

EXACTLY!

Hot take pretty privilege only exists for men. Conventionally beautiful women face all the misogyny of being female just as much as every other woman and honestly sometimes even more. The desperation men have to humble beautiful women puts them in so much danger it’s insane.

Men with blue eyes (they don’t even have to be extremely attractive, go on YouTube you’ll see) have the entire world in their hand.