"Many Neurodivergent And Disabled People Were Tragically Failed By Their Educational System And Their

"Many neurodivergent and disabled people were tragically failed by their educational system and their trauma deserves all sorts of validation" and "Educational system sets up teachers to fail at fulfilling those need and blaming the teachers alone is not a fair judgement of this situation" are two statements that can and should coexist

ⓘ You can Bite your Friends.

Dear Young Adults:

It's actually 100% normal to not feel ready for the world ahead of you.

You spent the first 5 years of life just trying to figure out how to use the meat suit you were forced into. You spent another several years just learning to read, write and do basic maths. High school is not an accurate simulation of how the real world works at all.

You've been cheated out of actual life so far.

So it's okay. It's going to take a few years to fully download the real user manual for adulting. And most of it is handwritten notes in the margins of life.

Don't rush. None of us know, either.

various On Our Backs personals spanning 1986-1990

i dont know who needs to hear this but you do not need to go on a diet. you do not need to lose weight as a new year revolution. you do not need to feel shame for gaining any weight over the holidays and for enjoying yourself and the food. you do not need to tolerate diet talk after setting a boundary and if someone cant respect that then theyre being the asshole. you already have a summer body. you already are hot. theres no moral failure or shame in being fat

the existence of healthy fat people is not the reason fat people should be allowed to exist, and free of bigotry at that. it uses health as a measure of someone's rights, and health is morally neutral. it also very much sidelines fat people whose fatness DOES negatively impact their health. that's a thing that can happen, and it still doesn't mean they have an obligation to lose weight. we must accept and fight for all fat people, whether they're disabled or not.