Having Terminology To Describe Yourself And Your Experiences Can Be A Profound Relief After A Lifetime

Having terminology to describe yourself and your experiences can be a profound relief after a lifetime of feeling broken and invisible.

I say this as someone who collects underused labels! I'm an ace bi/demiromantic enby, for crying out loud.

However, there is an infuriatingly common impulse to restrict queer labels to one very SPECIFIC meaning and not allow room for interpretation. Which, as an enby for whom a lot of queer labels don't make sense, is. Just. REAL. FRUSTRATING.

Just now, I forced myself to walk by a post defining biromantic as "attraction to two specific genders", which is NOT what I mean when I say it. I call myself bi because I'm attracted to a group of related genders that definitely excludes A LOT of other genders. To whit, I'm attracted to men, trans mascs, and the occasional stone butch with incredible biceps. There's a lot of wibbly wobbly gender wender in my zone of attraction that defies specificity.

And honestly, as a bi enby, that's one of the reasons I gravitate toward bi as a label. Not everyone means the same thing when they use it, and that's FINE.

I don't want or need another microlabel meaning attraction to men, trans mascs, and the occasional stone butch with incredible biceps. I don't need another word that conveys "attracted to some genders but definitely not all of them". Bi is a perfectly good word with lots of different usages, and that's FINE. We don't need to invent unique words for every single permutation of adult sexuality and gender attraction combos.

Never underestimate the power of spite

I love being a nobody on here because I could make one of those ‘if this gets ‘x’ amount of notes I’ll go and actually work on my original works’ and it wouldn’t get near the goal

My friend is doing a quick survey about cashier's being allowed to use chair's at work. He's intending to present the results to his boss and hopefully convince them to let the cashiers use chairs. I know that people on here are very pro-chairs so I was hoping some of yall might consider filling this out?

It takes less than I minute, I just filled it in myself. You won't need any personal information it's entirely anonymous.

Google Docs

Cashiers Sitting Survey

I'd appreciate it if yall could reblog this! I don't have a large following and not enough people will see this otherwise. Thanks!

I absolutely was not expecting where this ended up.

I've been skimming the ace tag to report bots, since I'm recovering from COVID and needed to Feel Productive and... man. It's really heartbreaking the amount of negativity I'm reading from some ace folks absolutely convinced that they'll never have successful and happy relationships of any variety and. Like.

This aging (42) ace (bi/demiromantic 95% asexual, if you need to me establish my credentials) just wants the younger aces to know that MY LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS TURNED OUT PRETTY GREAT, ACTUALLY. I have a spouse and co-parent who accepts and loves the entire messy package of me, including my copious quantities of mental illness and my ridiculous number of queer letters. I have queer friends that may or may not be QPRs. I'm pretty indifferent the idea of labeling it, I just know that our relationship goes far beyond "just" friendship - they are family. And I'm in a place where I'm able to be as open about my ace identities as I am about the rest of my queerness. Don't fall into the trap of delegitimizing your aceness the way you've been taught! "Partners" don't have to be ROMANTIC to matter. And there are people out there ready and eager to love you for exactly who you are, aceness included.

(Slams the demisexual reblog SO FAST)

I feel like when I tell people I'm demiseuxal they think that I'm more wholesome then the average human but I want to get railed as much as you just I have trauma and trust issues and need deep trust