Okay This But AlsoRELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN TWO "OPPOSITE GENDER" PEOPLE ARE NOT FUCKING STRAIGHT IF ONE

okay this but also RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN TWO "OPPOSITE GENDER" PEOPLE ARE NOT FUCKING STRAIGHT IF ONE OR BOTH OF THEM ARE BI IT'S NOT A FUCKING LIGHTSWITCH OKAY

It's not like *flips switch* I'm dating a dude so I'm straight *flips switch* dating a woman, so now I'm gay Also, the level of fuckin ERASURE I get when people see my AFAB enby ass with my cis husband and daughter and go "look at that good family of straights" Like HOW FUCKING DARE YOU I am BI and also NOT A FUCKING WOMAN My husband is ALSO BI And my daughter is PRESUMED QUEER UNTIL PROVEN GUILTY

if you say any queer identity is not part of the lgbtq+ community, including but not limited to people with neopronouns, bi people who just happen to be in a straight relationship, and anyone on the ace or aro spectrum, i curse you with the gayest tapeworm you've ever seen

Never underestimate the power of spite

I love being a nobody on here because I could make one of those ‘if this gets ‘x’ amount of notes I’ll go and actually work on my original works’ and it wouldn’t get near the goal

I made an Angel Generator last night! I'm currently working on a better one (and an eventual demon generator tbh) but I thought it'd be fun to share the old version! And also that I'd get a kick out of seeing peoples' interpretations of their angels.

It assigns a body type, size and what its skin is made out of, among other things. Also (somewhat) custom palettes! I picked every fucking shade myself and painstakingly pasted their hexcodes into this thang. Enjoy!

The Internet seemed to really like the previews I posted of NYC bullying Spider-Man, so here is that episode in its entirety. Enjoy!

if you are a trans man or masc, masculine nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid or other gender non conforming identity, masc gay, a bear, a butch, stud, or boi, or other masculine queer person and don't feel welcome in any queer spaces, you're not alone.

the communities both irl and online have become EXTREMELY hostile toward mascs and men to the point of straight up excluding us and changing their wording to justify their violent exclusion. from renaming nonbinary spaces to "femme & them" and "she+" spaces, to telling men & mascs that they would "Scare" the women and "nonbinary" folks just by being there, as if masculinity and manhood are inherently traumatizing to be around.

masculine and male nonbinary folks have it so hard- most nonbinary spaces are almost definitely women's spaces who also conflate womanhood with nonbinaryhood, and often times just view nonbinary people as confused women. we are not inherently traumatizing to be around: masc enbies need places to go. we are still nonbinary and still trans and still queer for fucks' sake

nonbinary has never and will never mean femme or woman-adjacent inherently. nonbinary means what it means: people who don't or refuse to adhere to the gender binary, regardless of what side it is. masculinity is included in this, femininity is not the only way to be nonbinary.

masc queers do not have to bend over backwards to try to be more feminine and thus "less threatening" in order to have places to go. that's dysphoric and just inaccurate to a lot of queer folks' identity and presentation. it blows my mind because it makes no sense, anyway, even within the gay community, hypermasculinity has been present and even sought after by some people who find it very attractive, twunks, hunks, bears... but between the periods in queer history people started viewing masc gay leathermen and kinksters as the ones who were responsible for spreading AIDS and thus removing them from pride parades,

AND the lesbian separatism moment picking up to remove butches & male & masc lesbians from lesbian spaces identity, paving the way for modern rdical femniism, we've only entered a downhill landslide of hating men and mascs and ultimately trying to erase us from the queer community entirely.

the queer community is not the "women & femmes community". the queer experience is broad and vast, it includes a wide variety of masculine and male experiences, as well as genderfluid, multigender, completely ungendered and other gendered experiences. the lesbian, trans, bisexual, nonbinary, gay and general queer communities aren't the "safe place to hide from men & mascs community" like estranged rdfems and terfpilled trans folk like to tell you they are.

this is the QUEER community and it includes ALL forms of queerness, masc, femme, butch, male, neutral, bigender, neutral, and all. he/shes and he/hims and he/theys and he/its and so on are just as much of a part of this communities as she/hers and they/thems. you can't cast a blanket of "inherently abusive" over all men and mascs and one of "inherently abused/incapable of being abusive" over all women and femmes because that just traps you in a fantasy land that doesn't exist AND it prevents mascs and men from getting the help, resources and community they NEED.

men & mascs are hurt and abused by women & femmes every day and we refuse to speak about them because we live under a white cisheteronormal patriarchy and have complaints about how that functions. the complaints are legitimate but assuming that all men and mascs are oppressing all women and femmes and that women can never be oppressive is a false as hell narrative that actively damages people.

enough is enough. this mindset is hurting people. it's leaving masc and male queers to be estranged, harmed and even dead. i care about you if you're being affected by this mentality and these behaviors. you deserve community, safety, and a sense of belonging, you do belong, even if we struggle to form our own spaces due to unjust hatred. we will do our best to band together and keep each other safe. we must

I've been skimming the ace tag to report bots, since I'm recovering from COVID and needed to Feel Productive and... man. It's really heartbreaking the amount of negativity I'm reading from some ace folks absolutely convinced that they'll never have successful and happy relationships of any variety and. Like.

This aging (42) ace (bi/demiromantic 95% asexual, if you need to me establish my credentials) just wants the younger aces to know that MY LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS TURNED OUT PRETTY GREAT, ACTUALLY. I have a spouse and co-parent who accepts and loves the entire messy package of me, including my copious quantities of mental illness and my ridiculous number of queer letters. I have queer friends that may or may not be QPRs. I'm pretty indifferent the idea of labeling it, I just know that our relationship goes far beyond "just" friendship - they are family. And I'm in a place where I'm able to be as open about my ace identities as I am about the rest of my queerness. Don't fall into the trap of delegitimizing your aceness the way you've been taught! "Partners" don't have to be ROMANTIC to matter. And there are people out there ready and eager to love you for exactly who you are, aceness included.