Do Not Attempt To Out-malicious-compliance The Staff At The Malicious Compliance Conference.

Do not attempt to out-malicious-compliance the staff at the malicious compliance conference.

Frankly (AFAB nb masc), it's been my experience that white cisgender queer women (esp lesbians) are the most likely to engage in violent rhetoric against nb people. Whenever folks have come after me claiming that nb folks are "taking up too much space" or that we're "the real problem in queer spaces" (things that people have actually said), it's always been white cis queer women.

And white cis lesbians are the most likely to take that a step further and claim that AFAB nbs and trans men are being "stolen" or other equally hateful rhetoric. Meanwhile, the worst I usually have to deal with from white cis gays is, like, wilful cluelessness about nb stuff.

So yeah. Women are NOT automatically safer for queer folks. Assuming that nb people want to be lumped in with women is dangerous, dysphoric for a lot of AFAB nbs (myself included), and isolating for all the AMAB, masc, and genderfuck nbs that don't conform to the ideal of white, thin, able-bodied, and masc-but-not-too-masc.

I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.

we only use the quietest of potatoes to make our famous “hush browns” 🤫

55,000 words in!

I haven't done NaNoWriMo since I had Cara, because 50,000 words is an impossible amount of words to write in only 30 days while juggling a job and parenting responsibilities. However, yesterday I passed 55,000 words on the novel (it STILL doesn't have a name), with a bit more than 40,000 of those words having been written since October 13th.

It also puts me two thirds of the way through my outline, which is wild. I've written (and then sat on) four novels before this, but this has definitely been the quickest and easiest. No doubt because queer romance is a lot more fun to think about than all the transphobic bullshit out there right now. (Picture is the finished coloring job I did on the sketch I posted previously)

kinda in love with the author of this chicken recipe and her love of garlic. karina if you’re single call me

Fucking THIS. YES.

And. Like. It's so fucking infuriating and invalidating being treated like a spicy flavor of woman.

queer cisgender women love to invite "women and nonbinary individuals" to their events bc they might be down with queer solidarity but they draw the line at trans men or random nonbinary ppl they've decided are too scary and need to be gatekept away from events