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Let’s talk about playing safely

Now, some of us may have heard this a thousand times, and it may seem like common sense. However, there are subs that are not aware or they are new to the scene.

It does not hurt to have a little refresher either.

As subs, we often want to please our Doms any way possible. We may not tell our doms our limits in fear of not pleasing them. Especially new subs, they are often vulnerable and don’t have their voices completely.

These acronyms are ones you should always keep in mind:

SSC:

Safe, Sane, Consensual

This acronym helps distinguish between a true dominant and submissive relationship and an abusive relationship.

Safe:

Know and set your limits

Protect you emotional and physical safety by discussing negotiations and setting up a safe word

Make sure your partner knows all of your wants and needs and anything else that would be pertinent to the scene

Figure out how your partner is going to take care of you after playtime

Learn how to take care of yourself after playtime

Sane:

Know the difference between fantasy’s and reality

Set obtainable expectations for both partner ex. A submissive learning a book worth’s of rules in a few days is harder than you think. Set a more realistic number.

This also includes punishments. Kneeling for hours on end is cruel and unusual. Especially without a break.

Listen to the red flags. If your gut is saying that something is wrong or bad, maybe you should listen to it.

Consensual:

BDSM is not about FORCING anyone to do anything if they are unwilling.

This covers all activities that might make someone uncomfortable.

All terms of the relationship should be agreed upon before hand

This includes Consensual Non Concent. If the terms were never agreed upon that is unsafe and abusive.

Enforce your rights meaning no one can force rules onto you

If any of these terms have been violated, you may need to leave the relationship for your safety.

There is another acronym that helps explain BDSM in simple terms.

RACK:

Risk Aware Consensual Kink

This acronym appeals to the side of BDSM that may have safety concerns.

Rick Aware

There are physical, emotional, and psychological risks that come with BDSM

While some kinks may not be the safest we still should now the risks.

Burns, cuts, and bruises can come out of a scene. There can also be mental anguish and stress that scene caused.

Both partners need to be aware of these risks

Consensual Kink

As long as all terms and conditions have been met, limits have been set, and we have voiced all of our concerns, both partners should be able to agree to the activities they are about to perform.

Without consent, it is illegal. Play with consent.

Please stay safe out there my loves 💕

Just let me escape.. please

I just want to escape. Escape these feelings. Escape the memories of you that replay in my mind constantly.

I don’t want to feel.

I don’t want to think.

I don’t want remember.

I don’t want to.

How can I escape months worth of feelings? Your touch on my skin? Your hugs? Your kisses? You said you were going to take care of me. But where did you go?

Now, I sit here crying my eyes out because of the hole you left in my chest. Gods, I wish this was a normal heartbreak, but I know it’s not. I was vulnerable and you knew that.

You called me princess and baby. You gave me the rules I craved, even tho I was bratty and broke them to get punished. You picked out clothes for me. You made sure I ate enough. You made sure I drank water. You did everything a caregiver was *supposed to do*, but you didn’t come back.

You left me. You stopped responding to calls, texts, snaps, and dms. You blocked me. I would give anything to understand why.

It’s been days. You have no idea how much I miss you. I just want you back.

My eyes burn and my throat is tight.

My chest hurts.

My face is raw from the tears.

What did I do wrong? Please, I just want to know. I won’t be mad, pinky promise. I just need to know. I would do anything to know.

You said “good night baby” and nothing since. That was the last night I went to sleep without crying.

I sit here currently writing this at 6:30am because I can’t get you out of my head. This is the only place I could release all of my feelings. If I don’t get these thoughts out, they will eat me alive.

Oh gods, I just want to escape.

No more feeling.

No more crying.

No more thinking.

No more me.

Oh gods, please take care of these other Littles hearts. Don’t let them get hurt. Please protect them.

How does one ask for attention without seeming clingy 🤔

Because I really just want copious amounts of attention without being clingy 🥺👉👈

Oh to be a puppy on some gamer boys lap 🥺

I swear to the gods if my gamer bf (or gf or s/o) doesn’t say “big stretch” as I stretch out on their lap, I don’t want it😤

(Not mines)