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i made a little quiz. it has gentle wisdom to take with you. whatever i can give you is yours. love u. take the wisdom & run.

“i hope my parents will accept who i am” is something that seems so gentle in movies but is actually such a violent and repulsive way to feel. even worse maybe is it’s cousin - the knowing that they won’t accept you, that you are a disappointment/a black sheep/a failure. the terrible duality of “i need them to love me” and “i don’t care they’re terrible people” never seems to cease.

so i’ll say this. you were not made in a factory. you are a random assortment of alleles. some of these will be just as they wished: your mother’s eyes, your father’s chin. some of these will be the complete opposite. their failure to love you is not an expression of your own success. it’s simply as far as their heart goes at the moment. i hope one day they overcome it.

but in the meantime, love doesn’t need to come from them. you aren’t a toy. you aren’t a robot built to fulfill expectations. you are just yourself, and living, and they are just two people trying to live through you. and you need to live your own life. “to thine own self be true.” those who look for failure will always find it. and those who look for love will too.

and if all else fails: come to me. i know plenty of others who will accept you.