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7 months ago

✰ "desperation is fulfillment in disguise."

Desire is a memory.

You're never desperate for anything, desperation is fulfillment in disguise. You know how good it'd feel to have it because you do. You're mistaking having for wanting. You have it in the 4D.

You want your desired life or reality because you've been there. You want to be beautiful because deep down thats what you know you are.

Desire is a memory. You want it because you have it. Trust the 4D.


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2 years ago

I’m gonna give yall a little bit of Fox advice, and now some of yall know I’m an elderly woman with 80 grandchildren and arthritis in my knees so take what I have to say with a grain of salt.

If you’re upset about something, and you feel like it’s other people’s fault, maybe write your post about it and then sit on it for a night, two nights, a week. Write it all down, and when you come back to it, see if you still feel the same, or if you might change some things. 

We can be especially emotional creatures, especially when we feel like we’ve been slighted or like one of our basic needs is in jeopardy because of someone else. I get it.

And sometimes, we have been wronged by someone else. Sometimes people who do all the right things still get hurt in the crossfire. It isn’t your job to roll over and accept anything, let it not be taken that that’s my stance, but I maintain that sitting on your thoughts for a minute is a good thing, no matter what side you stand on in an argument, situation, disagreement, etc.

When things are happening in real time on the internet, sometimes we feel like we have to react immediately. It’s happening now, therefore I need to respond now. If we don’t respond now, people will think we don’t care, or we don’t have an opinion, or any number of things. But I would argue that really letting those thoughts settle shows that you do care.

Sometimes I get heated about things here on Tumblr too. I feel like I have something to say, so I’ll write a huge post about XYZ, I’ll come at it from different angles, I’ll put my heart and soul into a novel about what I think and why. And then, I save it as a draft.  99% of those drafts don’t get published.

I’m sure you can guess why; it’s because getting all of those thoughts down really shows me how I felt in that moment. In that moment, it was very real, very intense, very reactionary. And after a few days, even if I do feel the same, I probably don’t want to say it the same way, or I don’t feel as strongly as I did, or perhaps my angle has changed completely or I’ve seen someone else say the same thing in a way more compelling way. Tumblr is actively shifting all the time and if you follow enough people, you’ll see every side of an issue, every perspective. It’s healthy to see other sides. It’s healthy to listen to people you don’t agree with because only then do you really understand their perspective. If we only listen to people we do agree with, we often miss some of the more critical nuances in a person’s issue or argument.

I think this new EA policy has pitfalls and drawbacks. Creators we love who have consistently offered early access content within the previous parameters accepted may lose their livelihood. They may have to find a different job or method of making money to make ends meet, they may find less and less time to create, and we may lose those creators off our platform in part or entirely because of it - even if they never say as much, even if they don’t make an angry rant about it, even if we think they did everything right. It had become a business, it had allowed some people to devote their time and energy to creating, just as so many Twitch streamers and Youtubers have stopped working to provide content that they made money off of, and alternately, just as so many streamers and Youtubers have stopped providing content because the demands of working a different or another job overtook their time to create. 

Does this make those creators selfish, or greedy? Are they preying on the community? Do we hate them?

Do we hate them?

Give yourself time to get some perspective on your own thoughts and opinions. It’s okay to consider if what you have to say is truly something you believe, or something someone you really like believes. It’s okay to disagree with people you really like. Calm, open discourse is vital in a community if we expect it to be understanding and tolerant, which we do. Are we having a dialogue about ways to be a better community and better people to one another, or are we fighting without listening?

TL;DR: - it’s okay not to reply to a situation/argument/etc right away - write down your feelings and save them as a draft, and if you feel the same way in a few days, post that shit - take in other perspectives, and evaluate your own based on what you believe is true - while fighting and arguing often feels more exciting, discourse and conversation is actually conducive to a healthier community and allowing people to make mistakes that they learn from instead of getting ostracized and learning nothing

And as always, just the thoughts and opinions of an elderly lady with rollers in her hair and squirrel coasters. Take what’s of value to you and leave the rest!


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8 months ago

August's Ending Was NOT "Justice"

I am astonished and frankly appalled when I see people extolling how August's storyline was concluded, lauding it as the best and most appropriate fate for him, and going on and on about how beautiful the poetic justice of it was.

And then those exact same people pat themselves on the back for being in favor of social justice, talk about how the system must be burned down, and preach about how even though it is hard to destroy institutions it is so important to keep trying.

And they do not see or understand how these two positions conflict with one another.

First, those who believe that August becoming the new Crown Prince is a fitting punishment must also be in favor of the monarchy continuing. They have to be pro-Monarchy because how else can August's "punishment" take effect? And they have to want the monarchy to reign on exactly as-is with no change or advancement because, again, August must face the exact same system that Wille did as his "punishment."

And since they want the monarchy to continue unchanged, they also are in favor of giving an unrepentant sex offender money, power, and influence. They want August to be given more money, power, and influence than Wilhelm because August will now outrank Wille. But that is "punishment" for August apparently.

They want August to be looked up to, admired, and set up as a role model, catered to, bowed down to, extolled as a leader, and have his ego continually stroked. Because that is "punishment" for him. They want August to represent (fictional) Sweden on the world stage. That's his "punishment."

"But it's "punishment" because August will be sad!" they cry! "He has lost Sara and won't be able to do anything he wants! The show told us so", they exclaim!

What the show actually depicted was that what August wants is to have authority, admiration, class privilege, and a system that will coverup his wrongs. Guess what he gets as Crown Prince: Check, all of the above.

August's desires are completely in synch with what the Crown wants *and* August is good at the slick, surface level glad handing and PR required. The Court can with utmost discretion make sure he gets treatment for any addiction or disorders he may have; the military service can offer the structure and chain-or-command he adores; the Palace, which he can control more completely than he ever controlled Hillerska because he is the only option, will be his new home; no more need to make up lies to appease others, Royal PR will do that for him. And now Vincent has a direct line of access to and influence over the Monarchy. But August is the one being "punished" here.

"But he's lost Sara!!!" Sara was right, his feelings for her will pass because they weren't about her, they were about the way she made him feel. There will be lots and lots of women who will be more than happy to make him feel good about himself.

Those who are happy with how August's storyline ended are happy that the cis het rich white male got away with every crime he committed without even being subjected to public shaming or ridicule, or any loss of status and instead was given his heart's desire. Because he may regret it one day. And that is sufficient "punishment" for him. Right.

Guess I was wrong for wanting to see Prince Andrew prosecuted and made to account for his actions. He's been punished enough apparently, is continually being punished in fact, because he is a royal and must resign himself to all the indignities that come with being the 1% of the 1%. Good on King Charles to make sure he is oh so "punished."

August's ending was perfect poetic justice! Just once, it would be nice to get actual justice served on the person that represented classism, racism, sexism, all the "isms" and more. But no, not even in a work of fiction. The rich white man wins again.

Maybe Young Royals is a realistic drama after all.


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