So Yeah Thats Where Im At - Tumblr Posts
I think I was technically the one who brought up the sex industry first when I was referencing a paper I wrote in undergrad about how pornography influences attitudes of violence towards women. We ended up having a pretty in-depth discussion about society and prostitution and pornography and I would say basically kind of both agreed on all the major points. He mentioned a professor he'd had who had done a lot of research on the topic and that was how he initially came to be somewhat informed about it (but he didn't say any of it in like, an arrogant way, we were just having a respectful discussion). The next day he texted me "so last night you were talking about how society tries to frame porn as empowering for women when it's really the opposite, and I felt we had a relevant prospect at work today" and then he proceeded to tell me about how this new client at his job (something to do with digital advertising) wanted a site that functioned similar to OnlyFans where she could "protest" a certain topic by selling explicit photos of herself... protesting. Then we had a whole discussion about how the idea of nudity being empowering became more and more common over the last 20 years and how everything is sexualized etc. And it was just nice, you know? To have a man engage and listen and agree but in a way that tells you he is just as invested in the issue.
And here is how I know he really means what he says: 2 or 3 dates in, I was feeling overwhelmed and like I could not keep up with work, overtime, friends, laundry, cleaning, cooking, AND a romantic relationship at the moment. So I told him that, and explained that I was probably going to keep picking up shifts at an insane rate and trying to pay off loans and save up for at least the rest of the year. So I asked if we could just be friends instead and just see where life takes us over the next year. And you know what he said?
"Okay, that's fine." And since then, we've hung out several times, and he has completely backed off physically and romantically.
