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7 Signs You May Be a People Pleaser
Reaching out and practicing the art of selflessness is a great way to self-actualize. In fact, going beyond the ego and self-absorbed tendencies can be a fulfilling and freeing experience that can change your life forever. When you have a strong desire to spread kindness and make others happy, you learn to expand your consciousness. In other words, you become a better person when you create positive changes. But, kindness is often confused with pleasing others. There’s a difference between being kind and being too kind on a regular basis.
On one hand, you can be kind out of the goodness of your heart. But, if you choose to be nice because you’re reluctant to turn down someone’s request for a favor out of fear of being “selfish” or “mean,” then your kindness comes from a place of deep-seated insecurity, rather than a way of self-actualizing. According to family and marriage therapist Darlene Lancer, people pleasing habits are often formed during childhood. If you feel like you always had to accommodate to others, it may have stemmed from your parents’ high expectations, criticisms, and rigid rules. This also applies if you grew up with parents who withheld love from you and practiced unfair and unpredictable ways of disciplining you.
Habits, such as people-pleasing, formed from a difficult past are not your fault, because they were a way of self-protection. But, we hope to shed light on what to recognize, so that we can help you break out of patterns and routines that hold you back. Psych2Go shares with you 7 signs you may be a people pleaser:
1. You’re eager to agree with others, even if that means pretending.
Listening openly to others’ opinions even when you don’t always agree with them is a great communication skill to have. But, if you also find yourself quick to agree with others when you’re actually pretending, then you may be caught in the act of people-pleasing. You can be doing it out of fear of disapproval or a desire to fit in…
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