Waited Until The Dust Has Settled To Say This, But I Think One Of The Biggest Disconnects This Fandom

Waited until the dust has settled to say this, but I think one of the biggest disconnects this fandom is experiencing is the difference between joke and intention. Saying you want kill Tommy with hammers, or that he should be shot is not a direct threat to a human being. This is the hyperbole website. Violent humor is a staple of this place. Saying you want your hot friend who just posted a selfie to punch you in the face doesn't really mean you want them to punch you in the face. It's just a violent joke. Fine, whatever.

But the attitude and vitriol behind some of y'all's "jokes" is the thing that changes your "humor" from an innocent little haha to something that's become actively hostile and uncomfortable toward gay/queer men in this fandom. Are you going to actively harm Tommy? No. Obviously. You can't because he's not real. But the gay/queer men in this fandom are, in fact, real. They are real, and they're witnessing an honestly unprecedented level of hatred toward an openly, obviously, unapologetically gay/queer character. That's the problem. Because your jokes stop feeling like "jokes" when the hatred (and fundamental and intentional willingness to misunderstand his humor, intentions, etc) behind the jokes is very... real and honestly disturbing. And if you can't see the problem with that, I'm sorry to say it, but you are the problem. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Are You Getting Queerbaited Or Are You Being Misled By Your Internet Echo Chamber

what do you mean “bobby only said tommy is good for buck because he hasn’t talked to him yet” bobby knew tommy before buck even became a firefighter and was tommy’s boss. chimney, hen bobby all hung out at a bar with tommy. please rewatch the show before you spout some dumbass shit like that. im begging you.

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I don’t want to be like “it’s homophobia” but genuinely people do not seem to see Gay Men as People who have unique experiences and personalities shaped by their gayness AND their masculinity.

Tommy is closed off and defensive in that scene because Gerrard basically called him a fairy to his face and now he’s being ambushed with a serious conversation. This is a natural way to react when you’re a gay man because (and I shouldn’t have to explain this) when you’re a gay man and a homophobe is near you, you get uncomfortable and have to retreat into a shell that will keep you safe. This is the reason so many gay men are “sassy” because having an acerbic tongue is often the only defense mechanism for a visibly feminine man. For more masculine men like Tommy, that defensive shell is going to look a lot like retreating hard into masculinity. So a gay man clamming up and getting snippy when faced with homophobia is pretty damn understandable.

Source: I’m a gay man and my main defense mechanisms are silencing myself or using dry humor to deflect.

the bucktommy fandom is so hilarious because we love tommy and buck together obviously but we're also like "would you like some saltommy? how about josh and eddie? sure, buddie is cool too! let's discuss buddietommy. maybe chimney and tommy could've been a thing? should all of buck's ex-girlfriends pair up? can lou ferrigno jr crush me with his thighs?"