Not To Be Maya On Side But Please Do Not Call Someone Or Somethingmayan When Talking About Our People,

not to be maya on side but please do not call someone or something “mayan” when talking about our people, culture, etc. “mayan” refers to our language family (a language FAMILY, in which there are plenty of unique languages). we are the maya, not the mayans. i am maya, not mayan. it is the indigenous maya community, not the indigenous mayan community. 

it's always "immortals always lose the ones they love!" and never "this family has had this incredible, powerful, loving figure present through generations of their lineage, all because they are descended from someone the immortal loved long ago" and i think that's a shame!!

Holy SHIT I've just made an incredible tumblr discovery... or does everyone already know it?? Well okay so earlier I made this post, right? And then I made a different post where I linked back to that post, and I've noticed that the URL of the post looks like this:

https://www.tumblr.com/nohoperadio/757634309674893312/spend-some-time-in-the-head-of-a-perfectly-normal

Look at the words at the end of that URL: "spend some time in the head of a perfectly normal"... well that's not how the post goes! That string of words does not appear at any point in the text of the post that URL leads to! The post expressed a similar concept in completely different language! Whoa freaky!!

So I was trying to figure out what the heck this could mean when I realized: that's what the post used to look like as a draft, when I thought of the idea for that post I drafted like a one-sentence rough summary which I then later went back to and edited into the full version (I often do this with ideas for posts), and the little one-sentence note went like that. I guess tumblr assigned those words to the URL when I first created the draft and it just stays like that forever?? That feels fucked up, stuff I delete from a draft shouldn't end up becoming public in this fucky roundabout way, I mean it's hard to think of scenarios where a serious privacy breach would occur from this but it's not impossible and millions of tumblr posts are constantly happening!

I've gone back to some previous posts where I remember doing the summary-draft thing and sure enough, there's posts from months ago where the original long-deleted version of the draft is preserved and publicly visible in the URL. I'm not weird to think this is spooky right?? It's so spooky to me!!! Seriously has this been documented before do people know about this??

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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This is Charles. He wants to go on a journey around tumblr. could you show him around?