Women Who Have An NT Personality Type Tend To Have Prominent Lilith,Pluto,Uranus,Mercury In Their Chart

Women who have an NT personality type tend to have prominent lilith,Pluto,Uranus,Mercury in their chart

Aftercare (in kink/bdsm)

What is aftercare?

Aftercare is what happens after any kind of play or sex (even vanilla!). Aftercare is not just a bdsm term, everyone should have aftercare. Aftercare is for everyone, subs and doms. It’s the act of taking care of your partner after a scene or sex in general. It can be physical or vocal, but is meant to support & soothe emotional and mental needs.

Why is aftercare important?

Aftercare is not only important but necessary after play. As a dom, aftercare is my favorite part of the dynamic. But, I have learned that a lot of subs don’t realize doms need aftercare too! Aftercare is reassurance for both parties. At the end of this post, there’s a list of aftercare ideas. To further explain, aftercare serves as a reminder that each party enjoyed the play that just happened and neither are harmed or uncomfortable! Both parties need to feel like they did good and that both people feel safe. This is not the time to have an in depth conversation about what just happened, though. Keep the conversation light but with your partners well-being in mind. This goes for online play too. Clean each other up (or if you’re like me— take the time to clean up your sweet baby and praise tf out of them). subs— tell your dom you enjoyed the play, you’re okay, or just a simple thank you. If you’re non-verbal during this: this next part will help!

How do I establish aftercare?

Not everyone enjoys the same kind of aftercare. Physical aftercare like kissing, applying lotion, cuddles, is sometimes very over stimulating for some people.

Verbal aftercare like reassurance, asking questions, asking a sub to speak directly after play can also people overwhelming for people who go non-verbal during and after play.

So how do you know what someone prefers? Talk to your partner! Even if it’s a one-off kind of thing, a FWB, a kink dynamic, or a romantic relationship discuss before hand what your partner prefers.

You can do this by starting a sentence with: “After play/sex I need _____” or “I feel better when you do _____ after play.” (There are many other ways to do this as well!)

What if I don’t like aftercare?

Again, there are many types of aftercare! you don’t like physical touch or conversation afterwards? hey! that’s okay! Aftercare should always include hydration of some kind and maybe a snack! There are so many different forms aftercare.

The necessities:

make sure both parties feel comfortable, safe, and supported

hydrate!! water or gatorade are both excellent choices (water is good for you & Gatorade replenishes electrolytes)

cleaning (leave the room a mess, but if your partner prefers their body to be clean then this can be done.)

communication of some kind

for harder scenes (ex. pain play, impact play, rope play, etc.) please check your partner for any signs of physical harm. have a first aid kit ready.

do your research, know your stuff. don’t participate in play you don’t fully understand or feel fully comfortable doing. have a complete understanding of aftercare and what the scenes you do will require afterwards.

never leave your partner alone after play

Aftercare ideas

There are far more than I am listing, these are here to generate further ideas! Again, aftercare is different for everyone so these may not be for you!

In-person:

showering with your partner

taking a bath or running a bath for your partner

applying lotion (good for impact play!)

putting a blanket or clean clothes in a dryer so afterwards you or your partner feels warm and safe

watching a comfort movie/show

taking a nap

cuddles, kisses, playing with their hair

praise, praise, and more praise

have snacks ready

hydrate!! this is SO important!

ask questions about what just happened (keep it light because subspace/domspace)

color, read

hold your partner

listen to music together

Online:

reaffirming/reassuring language in the conversation

watch a movie together (there’s apps for this like discord or you can start it at the same time)

video or phone call (even if you’re just staring at each other in silence)

have your partner get water and a snack before hand so it’s ready for them

praise, praise, and more praise!!

light conversation

play an online game together

have your partner have warm clothes or a warm blanket ready before hand

clean up supplies ready before hand

reassurance is so important for both parties when you’re long distance or participating in online play

you can be sexually dominant and still be deeply tender. being a dom does not mean you aren’t a soft and loving human being

Sometimes a girl just needs to dissapear for awhile just to Think

Which astrology system do u think is the most accurate for your birth chart?

Mine is whole signs it makes the most sense to me

Astrology observations

Taurus placements like to accessorize their necks

Having air in the 4th house can have an emotionally distant relationship with family members

It’s not just an Aquarius placement thing to ghost people and then reappear it’s also a Pisces placement thing

Scorpio placements/Pluto dominates tend prefer having a darker hair color like black or dark brown especially if they are blonde

Jupiter in the 1st can make someone look tall even if they’re short



Pluto/Saturn dominate people tend have dark features even if they have blonde hair and blue eyes

Libra placements and Pisces placements get along pretty well it’s because they both value peace so it’s not hostile when they are around each other

Aquarius women and men When it’s comes to sex like to be the dominant one or a switch that leans towards being dominant

People who have fire in the 2nd house tend have a voice that stands out or has something very noticeable about there voice like it can be deeper or louder than usually

Fire placements love being challenged they need to be challenged they get bored really easily if they don’t it’s one of the ways they like to grow

Good luck trying to change a person with a fixed mars to change their Mind during an argument once they made up their decision that’s it

Scorpio risings look good in pink