A Piece Of Advice To Anyone Whos Been Considering, Avoiding Thinking About, Or Waffling On:

A piece of advice to anyone who’s been considering, avoiding thinking about, or waffling on:

Get the fucking cane.

I am very serious. Get the cane, get the assistive device (I’m going with cane here, because simplicity, but the device you’re thinking about goes here), do it. If you’re thinking “damn, if these Symptoms get much worse, I’m gonna need to get a cane”, you already need the cane. You’ve probably been in a state that would be improved by it for a while.

I get it, though. I had other disabilities, including physical ones, prior to Getting A Cane, and I heard this advice from other people and I thought “okay, but my situation is not that bad, and I’m sure I’ll know when it’s really bad” as I lay awake half the night in pain because of a short little walk that afternoon. It turns out, I am not immune to internalized ableism either, like I’m a person in an ableist society or something.

I thought “this is gonna be a hassle, and they cost money, and people will be weird about it”, and learning to use it did take a minute, thankfully mine was pretty cheap, and yeah, some people are weird but most importantly: fuck ‘em, I did in fact need the cane. I can do a lot more now, and probably could have prevented some damage if I’d gotten it earlier and it looks cool.

Stop putting it off. Stop worrying about unpleasant people being unpleasant. You don’t have to suffer at the highest pain/difficulty/etc to be allowed to get the cane, you’re allowed to get it now. If you only need it sometimes, that’s okay.

Get the fucking cane.

au where kai's gender is just whatever's convenient at the moment (in the hypothetical movie version he comes in with a new gender every scene)

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I honestly gave up half way through, I put too much effort into Kai and then got bored. but yeah...there was an attempt...

Zane: I love you.

Cole: Woah, where's this coming from?

Zane: I realize that with how long we've all been together, not one of us have ever vocalized our appreciation for the others in a way that healthily confirms our emotions.

Zane: So, again, I love you and you all have meant the world to me since we've met and I never want to leave you again for as long as I live.

Jay:

Kai:

Cole:

Zane: ... did I come off too strong?

Kai, crying: No no, you're perfect.

Zane, smiling: You're perfect.

Jay, sobbing: I wasn't ready for this but holy crap.

hello, good afternoon, chronically ill people are wonderful and beautiful and have inherent value regardless of what they can or cannot handle on any given day

Im just realising that I don't know how to write neurotypical emotions...

...like I can't picture a character being happy without picturing them doing happy stims, same with literally any other emotion. How do I make them cope with emotions/situations in a neurotypical way??? How do I make them cope with textures/sounds/smells that I can't??? How do I make them react to things in a NT way???

I want to write fanfic and I need to start writing shit for my english hw but how do I do this shit? Does anyone else get this/does anyone have any tips bc I'm stuck