Tips For High Heel Beginners

 tips for high heel beginners 👠💋

-don’t start out with super high heels. it’s better to start out a little smaller. they don’t have to be full on kitten heels but try to keep the heel 3 inches or shorter.

-the chunkier/thicker the heel= the easier to walk in

-don’t be scared of platform heels. while they might look intimidating, they’re actually more stable and easier to wear as opposed to your standard heel because a) there’s less incline and your toes are closer to your heel and b) even if they’re high, the heels tend to be chunkier, so you have more support.

-heels aren’t the most comfortable shoes in the world but if your foot hurts as soon as your put them on, don’t buy them.

- when it comes to heels,it’s always better to size up then to size down. when in doubt, opt for a larger size.

- when walking on a flat surface, always remember to walk heel to toe, one foot in front of the other. 

-s l o w d o w n. you might think you can run in heels, but you probably can’t even power walk. take smaller steps and walk a little slower than usual.

-practice. walk around your house in heels for a while to get the hang of it.

-whenever you have the opportunity to sit down, do so.

-avoid walking on grass. if in some case you absolutely have to walk on it, try to focus your weight on your toes; almost like you’re trying to tip toe. your heel should still touch the ground, but lightly.

-avoid walking on cobblestone or any other sidewalk that is uneven or has cracks in it at all costs.

- when going up stairs, tilt sideways a bit. this way you’ll be able to put your entire foot on each stair and you have a less of a chance of tumbling down and busting your ass. also, hold the handrail at all times.

-if you have to stand for a while, switch putting your body weight from one foot to the other. this way you’ll be able to give each foot a break and it’s less painful.

-use cushion and gel insoles, they’ll make your heels a little more comfortable and you’ll be able to wear them for longer periods of time. doesn’t matter what brand, you could even get them at the dollar store; they don’t have to be fancy. 

- never take your heels off and walk barefoot. not only could you step on glass or something sharp but that’s just nasty and very tacky looking. always have a cute pair of sandals or flats on hand in case shit gets real.

-angel

MAGICAL HAIR MASK

ALL HAIR TYPES

This is a magical & economic hair treatment to moisturize, strengthen, smooth, reduce frizz and excess fat in the hair. You will notice results instantly!

If you have curly hair this will help hydrate and keep frizz under control your curls will look more defined after one use. If you have straight hair it will help keep your hair sleek & shiny longer.

I recommend the use of this hair mask at least once a week to maintain you hair at its best! Beautiful strong hair doesn’t come from doing a mask whenever you feel like it. Discipline is key!

INGREDIENTS

3 cups of water

3 tablespoons of cornstarch

2 tablespoons of a conditioner of your choice

2-3 tablespoons of olive oil

OPTIONAL: you can add a teaspoon of any other hair oil you may use perhaps Argan oil or flaxseed oil.

NO COCONUT OIL 

INSTRUCTIONS

Add the 3 cups of water and 3 tablespoons of cornstarch into a pot, cook on low heat and stir until it has thickened up the mixture will look cloudy.

Remove from the heat and add your conditioner stirring it thoroughly, proceed to adding the olive oil and stirring it all together. Place the magical mask into a heat safe container then refrigerate it to let it cool down and thicken up a bit more.

Once you mask is cool to the touch you can divide your dry hair into 3-4 section so you can evenly apply the hydrating mask onto you hair. You should be able to untangle your hair with your fingers while applying the product. If not it is okay to use a brush to detangle.

Wrap your hair up and cover it (this could be with a shower cap or even a plastic bag). You want to leave the mask on for at least 30min depending on your hair type & how dry it is you can leave it on for 45min to 1 hour tops!

Get in the shower and wash your hair as you normally would. You can shampoo before you rinse you hair, then continue with your favorite conditioner. It will instantly feel smooth to the touch.

Style you hair as you normally would, you can leave it natural & add your regular products just don’t saturate your hair because it will leave your hair greasy.

THANK YOU TO MY COLOMBIAN MOTHER & HER ROOTS FOR THIS TIP!

PRETTYPRIVILEGESS

best advice you’d give a girl?

-Hone in on what you love doing right now and don’t stop doing it. Anything like painting, theater, reading, etc. will become grounding activities as you grow older, and you’ll find it imperative to stick to your roots.

-The best thing you can do is live for you. Not for anyone else. Let people guide you but don’t ever let them overrule you. You make yourself, so ensure that the you you’re creating is authentic.

-Don’t wait until you do so and so to feel ready for something else. Keep active plans to get to your goals.

-Don’t talk to anybody romantically until you know who you are first. People won’t be able to connect with you on that level if you can’t first connect with yourself. Also, don’t bother “holding” anyone down but yourself. People are fickle, you exist until you don’t.

-When we transition from girlhood to womanhood, most of the time we still hide behind “older” people because we see them as more knowledgeable. You have to let that idea go. Adults are just as stupid as kids, except they can legally drink. Don’t be afraid to put your voice out there, even if it opposes seniority.

-Learn how to create and cultivate friends that genuinely care for you. Those people that barely text you or forget about you when events come up are not your friends. Don’t take bullshit from them because you don’t want to be lonely.

-Learn moderation. Partying, drugs, sex, etc. all become more prevalent as you grow older and there’s nobody to tell you to stop but yourself. Don’t become an alcoholic because you didn’t wanna seem like a drag to some drunkhappy friends.

-Don’t wait until later to start building a financial foundation for yourself. Get a good savings account now, adopt a budgeting method, look into investing. Go to seminars and conferences about money even if you’re the youngest person in the room. You will be lightyears ahead of your peers.

-Find value in slightly older friends. They’ll show you what you shouldn’t do and help prepare you for your future. It’s how I know the majority of the things I do.

-Avoid quick gratification. It’ll satiate you for a while but you will still be hungry for something better afterwards.

-Being alone is important. I highly recommend living alone before you get roommates (if that’s financially affordable) because you learn not to base your identity off of other people’s belongings. Our homes become an extension of us. You need to learn how to be independent and how to cultivate your space free of others’ opinion. You need to cook naked in the morning and dance in your living room at night. It is a feeling of freedom that is irreplaceable, and it’ll be one you always remember if someone tries to make you dependent on them. Outside of your living space, go to museums and festivals and operas alone. Have fun. Make new friends. Realize that you shine just fine all on your own. You are not meant to be hidden behind other personalities in your friend group all the time.

-Everything you do, learn how to do it well. And then learn how to turn that well into damn near perfect. Always strive for the best when your work is representing you.

-Deletion ain’t nothing but an action boo. Somebody unimportant is annoying you? Delete! Instagram feed making you too mad? Delete! Friend refuses to do right by you? Delete! Of course you need to develop communication tactics but some people don’t deserve that time and don’t you waste it on them either. Anything you don’t want in your life, you can get rid of. Remember that. You don’t have to stay suffering.

Ways to Instantly Feel Sexier

Whenever I find myself looking to drastically improve my appearance, I like to consider all things possible from head to toe. SO, let’s begin…

HAIR

Regardless of your personal hair ritual, you can always add some spice to it by introducing a hair fragrance. Anointing yourself with oils and perfumes can instantly improve your mood and self-lust. You may have found that you prefer using a certain conditioner because of the fragrance and how good it makes your hair smell. Well, for those moments that you just need a little boost, create your own hair potion for stirring up your senses. Of course, you will naturally radiate an intensely attractive scent—especially around your cycle—but why not increase its potency? Oh, and if you sleep next to someone at night, be mindful of how much you use, but I promise unless they have the most sensitive nose ever, they will love your ‘natural’ aroma.

I like to use anointing oils that I prepare myself, but here are some good hair fragrances:

Dior Miss Dior Parfum Hair Mist, $57

Chanel Coco Mademoiselle Parfum Fresh Hair Mist, $65

Honey Infused Hair Perfume Pocket, $44

FACE

There’s just something about a face that illuminates. Whether or not you use makeup to achieve this look, you want to be sure that you have a great moisturizer and serum that will give you a natural radiant glow. Achieving this kind of glow will not only make you feel and look more attractive, but you will feel great about nourishing your skin. You want to invest in good skincare in general. I use a polypeptide cream on days that I don’t wan to apply makeup, and the difference is incredible. My skin not only looks healthier, but it feels so smooth and soft.

Here are a few of my favorite face moisturizers and serums:

Protini™ Polypeptide Cream, $68

Treatment Softener Enriched, $50

OLEHENRIKSEN Banana Bright™ Vitamin C Serum, $65

TRULY, GLASS SKIN FACIAL SERUM, $28

My favorite hydrating face mask (I honestly have like 10 of these stocked)

DIAMOND WHITE GLOWING MASK, $97

LIPS

This is pretty simple. We all know that putting on a red lip can make you feel like one of the most powerful women alive. But, if that’s not your thing, or if it doesn’t fit the environment, perhaps invest in a great lip tint and lip gloss. Visibly healthy and hydrated lips will enhance your overall look, and will make you feel more confident as you speak.

Here is my favorite red and brown lip tint and lip gloss:

Benetint Lip & Cheek Stain, $18

Brownie Batter Lip Gloss Tube, $4

TEETH

Now be honest, do you brush your teeth as often as you should? Are you flossing?? Okay, well I know that flossing doesn’t sound sexy, but it is a necessity. You will feel considerably more confident about yourself when your smile is as radiant as your personality. You’ll want to invest in a teeth cleaning kit and a teeth whitening tool. You want to feel like you just came from the dentist, but without the discomfort. Deep clean your mouth (brush your tongue, floss your teeth, remove plaque, etc). After deep cleaning, apply a whitening tool of your choice. Depending on how white your teeth look now will help you determine the most effective method for you. I like to use hydrogen peroxide, but I also invest in having my teeth whitened professionally, so I don’t need much strength. You may want to look into whitening strips, gels, etc. I’d also like to add that mouthwash is not optional. This way, if you are planning to be around people, you will have no reason to feel self-conscious about your smile, or your breathe (you may also want to keep gum with you). People will want to lean in more as you speak, and you will definitely feel more confident. Now, obviously healthy gums are important for your overall dental hygiene, but it can also influence the way that you are perceived by others. As a woman, the whiter your teeth, the more you are seen as healthy, successful, well-off, attractive and trustworthy.

Here are a few of my favorite teeth whitening and cleaning tools:

Philips Sonicare - DiamondClean Classic Rechargeable Toothbrush, $179.99

Crest 3D Original Whitening Kit, $69.99

Oral Care Dental Scaler,High-Frequency Vibration&Three Modes, Teeth Cleaning Tools Use to Tartar/Plaque/Tooth Stains/Dental Calculus Remover, $23.99

HAND, FEET & NAILS

Soft hands are just pleasant to experience. If you’ve ever shaken the hand of someone with dry and rough skin, you know what I mean. It’s just like with the rest of your body, you want your hands and feet to feel soft and delicate. Invest in a good hand and foot cream. While we’re at it, be sure that this is a part of your moisturizing routine. Care for your skin with intention, love and adoration. As for your nails, invest in a good nail care kit with cuticle oil to give yourself a proper pedicure.

I like to use natural shea butter, coconut butter, coconut oil, etc., but here’s a good hand and foot cream:

Kate Somerville Goat Milk Moisturizing Cream, $50

Also, I love this oil for my natural nails (people always mistake them for acrylic):

The Body Shop Almond Nail & Cuticle Oil, Paraben-Free Hand/Nail Treatment, $12

BODY

We all know that feeling that we have after we’ve just buffed our dead skin away, shaved our legs and moisturized the hell out of our body. That is the feeling that you are trying to create. Invest in a good, hydrating body exfoliant and dry brush. I love Trader Joe’s Lavender Scrub and have purchased almost all of them on the shelves. It leaves your skin extremely soft (softer than you could even imagine) and you have natural glow. Speaking of which, you’ll also want to invest in a lovely body shimmer oil or bronzer to achieve a captivating glow with each move that you make.

Here are a few of my favorite body buffing tools:

Dry Brush With Cellulite Massager, $12.99

Trader Joe's Lavender Salt Scrub, $5.99

SELF-ADORNMENT

Invest in timeless lingerie and start collecting articles that remind just how sexy you are. If you just have a basic color-coordinated bra and panty set, that’s a start. But I want you to invest in a set that accentuates your body in all ways possible. Do your research and figure out what styles will best present your beauty. While you’re at it, start looking into other ways to adorn your body. You can invest in jewels, temporary tattoos, glitter, etc.

Obviously savagex.com, agentprovocateur.com and Dita Von Teese are great places to start! One of my absolutely favorite brands is Honey Birdette

CONFIDENCE

Like Dita said, a women who knows what she likes has confidence in her skin. Confidence is the most beauty and sexy aspect of any woman. As we all know, people are naturally more attracted to confident people. Remind yourself of just how beautiful you are on the inside and let that energy exude from every pore.

✨ HOW TO BECOME A WEALTHY MIDDLE AGED MAN✨

PT.1: Overview to the world of money, financial plans, and how to go about managing your money

Welcome lovelies to (what I hope will be) a helpful series on gaining wealth, and becoming financially literate and independent!

This is starting off at basically the complete beginning but will speed up soon so be patient.

*disclaimer: while this advice can generally apply to many it will not apply to all. Everyone is in a different situation and should do their own research before they take what ANYONE says as fact or law. This is also coming from the perspective of a young, biracial, first generation female business student following a hypergamous lifestyle and who does sw so some advice may be specific to my like-minded ladies, but for the most part I just love money and want to help others find joy in their wallets as well. I am also operating in the US so things regarding accounts, stocks,and certain laws will vary by your country.Also, this is just a fun thing I wanted to do because talking about leveling up and learning and growing and money are my favorite past times. None of these picture are mine and I am in no way getting rewarded from you going to these links (though I should look into that), they are just actual sources I use for myself.

So without further ado let’s get started!

✨THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND✨

First things first, before you start gaining wealth you need to make sure all of your chakras are aligned (or at least minimally skewed) and that starts with your mindset.

For many hypergamous/ feminine ladies we already know we must acquire an abundant mindset. This is a mindset that allows for the law of attraction to take effect (if your into that stuff) and helps to get you thinking like the rich. 

Getting this down can be a journey in itself but I highly suggest at least starting it while on the journey to financial literacy if you really want to win in this game.

✨MONEY IS A GAME OF STRATEGY AND PLANNING, NOT LUCK✨

Think of the world of money as a video game. There are many levels, there are many realms, there are things you need to collect on the way, and there are many players. It’s not Pacman or Galactica either, this game requires strategy, planning, and a steady head on sturdy shoulders. Do not hurt yourself by diving head first with no intel on the enemy or the obstacles ahead. Things like getting into the stock market and making passive income are not get rich quick schemes or the lottery. We are in this for the long haul! Keep in mind, that while a game, it is completely serious and that money is power. While it can’t buy happiness, it can put you through school and keep food on the table. The more you have of it the more access to resources, people, and potential you have.

I’m going to try and keep this video game theme going throughout the series to organize all of this info because the worst thing about beginning this journey is how overwhelming and disorganized it can seem,, but hopefully this helps to visualize a reasonable plan and outlook.

Here’s a look at the world of money 

You can think of the chart below as an outline of the realms. Within each are levels/worlds to unlock and learn about…For example, in the realm of Financial Psychology lies the abundance vs scarcity mindset lesson. In Accounts,savings,etc. there is the lesson on savings accounts and how to enter the stock market. A simple way to think of this is you start at Financial Psychology and make your way clockwise. However, each one connects and intertwines in various ways, which we will explore in later posts.

For our journey I am going to skip to the Accounts,Savings,etc. realm and assume you have finished Financial Psychology (if you are living a hypergamous lifestyle/leveling up you probably have this part somewhat down). I do highly recommend looking into the below sources if you like anything about psychology and learning why humans do what we do (coming from a psych minor I think all it is fascinating), or if you just need to catch up:  

http://financialpsychologycenter.com/introduction-to-financial-psychology-blog-series/

https://www.investopedia.com/articles/02/112502.asp

✨FINANCIAL PLANS AND STRATEGIES✨

Financial plans are the reason the rich get richer and the poor stay poor. Even though this seems like something incredibly mundane it makes a huge difference! This is where we all will need to really analyze our own situations and lives to tailor our game plans. Think of it as picking your character and weapons based on their strengths and weaknesses. General laws you should follow to guide you should include:

Living below your means (I recommend immediately taking +40% off of your checks/allowances and putting a certain percentage of that in savings and a certain percentage in investments. I know it’s not as glamorous as spending 5k on a handbag whenever you want but my general rule is if I can’t afford to buy something 3x over I can’t afford it)

Always do your own research (never just blindly follow any youtuber/tumblr user’s advice, including this post, please fact check and verify everything you read with at least one other source )

If you have the means to hire a professional advisor or get a financial mentor/friend, I recommend it-Someone who will always be looking to help you and has experiencing dealing with all of the lingo everyday is invaluable when looking for advice or just general how to

Check out more tips in the link below

https://lifehack-solution.com/financial-planning-tips/

Those of us in hypergamy/sw/leveling up may have more volatile income streams compared to someone with a 9-5 who is pretty certain that their job will be there tomorrow or at least get a 2 week notice. Because of this things like how much we keep for emergency funds and how we go about investing are going to be different because we have to manage a different level of risk. But, for now, as a general template follow these steps:

1. Create a budget-What is your fixed income/reliable income each month? What do you spend on necessities every month? could you be spending less in any category? What are your expenses versus your revenues? Get a solid idea of what your financial life looks like on paper. A generally well regarded budget method is linked below. And remember, we are planning on being millionaires not middle class so do as the rich do.

https://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/finance/how-to-build-a-budget/

And if you are a SWer check out this website for tips on business/personal goals and advice: https://www.theorganisedescort.com/

2. Set goals-Just like any plan it’s good to have in mind what exactly you are doing all of this for. Do you want to save up 5k in 6 months or be a millionaire by 30? Write them all down and put as much detail and context around them as possible. One technique I like to use to write my goals follows - (What you want to accomplish)(when you want to accomplish it)(how you want to accomplish it)(why you want to accomplish it)(and where you will be/what you will do when you accomplish it)

3.Plan for taxes/manage debt- I don’t have much experience in taxes or in debt management but learning about these topics is one of my personal goals and I plan to do a deep dive into this soon, so once I get comfortable in this topic I’ll make a separate post, but you do need to make sure you account for your taxes and focus on paying off your debt. If you have any loans or notes your second goal should be to pay them off as quickly as possible (first goal is step number 4). The less interest you have to pay the better. I have also attached sources for managing/lowering taxes but look it up and there are millions of articles to read and learn from:

https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/articles/legal-secrets-to-reducing-your-taxes

https://bettermoneyhabits.bankofamerica.com/en/taxes-income

https://www.smartaboutmoney.org/Topics/Insurance-and-Taxes/Tips-for-Filing-Taxes/What-You-Need-to-Do-Your-Own-Taxes

4.Emergency Fund-This should be everyone’s first goal they want to achieve.How much you budget into this will depend on your lifestyle and job. Generally, the riskier your income stream is or the higher the chance of surprise expenses popping up, the more money you should put up in an emergency fund/savings account that you DO NOT TOUCH UNLESS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. This fund should be able to last you at least 3-4 months if you ever lost your job/allowance/broke your leg/whale dumps you/or what have you. Take your budget and times the amount you pay for necessities by however many months you feel suitable (again I recommend 3+ for everyone). That should be your minimum emergency fund goal. Below is a source that takes you through creating one.

https://www.consumerfinance.gov/start-small-save-up/start-saving/an-essential-guide-to-building-an-emergency-fund/

5. Start your retirement fund NOW- look, social security in the US is honestly just a joke at this point and the retirement age increases every year. Do you really want to be 75 and still working? H*LL NO. If you want me to I can make a separate post on this but I’m linking a source which will essentially take you through each step. This is no joke and I do not want to see any of you having to labor into your 70s so please start now!

https://www.investopedia.com/articles/personal-finance/051613/how-start-saving-retirement.asp

6.INVEST- Here comes the fun part! Now that you have an understanding of your money and all of the back work is done and settled, now is the time to generate wealth by giving it away lol. Investing includes stocks, bonds, ETFs, index funds, art, real estate, start ups,crypto, if you’re into coin collecting or have a stamp collection. There are lots of ways in which to invest, but to put it simply, it is where you put X amount of money in and hope that more than X amount of money returns. It is also a form of passive income which is money that requires little to no effort to gain. For example, if someone invested $1000 in Am*zon in 1997 it would now be worth over 1.5mil today and all they did was give away their money because they believed that Am*zon would do good in the future.

https://www.cnbc.com/2018/08/31/if-you-put-1000-dollars-in-amazon-in-1997-heres-how-much-youd-have-now.html

✨IN CLOSING ✨

Drink up lads we are on the way to financial freedom and millions!

Seriously though, I know a lot of this was very elementary but I wanted to make sure we started this off on the right foot. I would have hated it if someone with 15k in student loans decided to put 5k into stocks instead of paying their debts. This was just a brief overview of all of the basics which you should have down and I recommend looking through each of the sources. People of wealth have these things ingrained in them as soon as they escape the womb, money is their first language which is why it seems so easy for them. Those of us not born wealthy are learning from scratch. We have to catch up and make ourselves fluent before we can really blend in. 

VOCAB TO KNOW/RESEARCH:

Hypergamy

Abundant mindset

Financial Psychology

Financial Planning

Risk

Budget

Fixed income

Expenses

Revenues

Taxes

Debt Management

Emergency Fund

Retirement Fund

Social Security

Investments

Stocks

Bonds

ETFs

Index Funds

Real Estate

Cryptocurrency

Passive Income

In part 2 we will get into the different types of investments (stocks, real estate, crypto…) and how you should manage your savings and funds to maximize your benefits! Let me know any specific questions related to types of investments or accounts you guys have so I can integrate them in. ALSO, if in these posts I ever give bad advice,F something up, or am just generally ignorant PLEASE call me out! Remember that just like you I am a young woman figuring everything out and while I am confident when talking about money I am by no means a genius (only in spurts) so any chance to learn I appreciate. I hope you all learned something new today and as always…

With Love,

O

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