"So Today I Met A Famous Painter, And She Was So Amazing!! I Am Attending A Fashion Day Event, And Ive

"So today I met a famous painter, and she was so amazing!! I am attending a fashion day event, and I’ve been able to meet so many new designers. I am so grateful that the work I do allows me to meet so many new people."

Hi! That sounds incredible. I am happy for you that you get this opportunity! What have you learned from meeting all those creative successful people, how do you start conversations and lead them in the right directions?

Thank you so much for the kind words! I think meeting creatives is something you should do even if you are not necessarily in a creative field of work because they are so inspirational! I don't believe the idea that traditional business people are the only ones with ambition. I think it's important to acknowledge how good creatives are at delayed gratification since they will often work for years on their dreams and keep trying to move the needle. I have learned the most from them about building something that lasts from literally nothing but sweat and tears. If you want to hear about discipline and tenacity, talk to designers, artists, and curators because there is a lot to learn from them.

As for starting conversations, I'm a scientist, but at heart, I'm a creative myself and I grew up with a fashion designer sister, so I think being bold and social and knowing how to navigate these conversations comes pretty naturally for me. When I enter these conversations, I always offer them something as a means to connect with them. I own my own lifestyle brand and media company so as I build that, I'm asking questions and trying to network. I go to events, I talk about the work I do a little bit, and my job involves taking pictures of different outfits and accessories, making connections with brands to have in my arsenal down the line, etc. My biggest tip is to go outside, look for and attend events that you find interesting, and try to make the connections at these places. When I talk to designers, I remain receptive and warm, and once they hear I am also in the industry, we hit it off pretty immediately and have productive conversations! Don't be too nervous, and be respectful of what they have to say, and you're more likely to get what you want out of the conversation. It's really not hard when it comes down to it, and you'll find most people are receptive to sharing about their work. I hope this helps!

Use what you have to get what you want.

Paraphrased-> abuse the living heavens out of your privileges and use them to carve the path you want. You are already privileged anyway. Do something with it. Yes ⚠️controversial opinion⚠️ but isn't that why you follow me? Because I say what everyone else is afraid to? In case you forgot we don't do that morality virtue politics thing here. Here, we win. That's it. Winning.

There are very few things that annoy me, people that apologize for who they are simply because it's been demonized by society score pretty high on that list. God gave you a gift and you're apologizing for it because user57873 said you shouldn'thave access to a joy they dont have access to. Ew. When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade. When life gives you honey you don't throw it away because you're addicted to struggle and buy into some dumb moral code, you lick it up. Imagine God just settting a path for you and having to watch you throw it away because you don't want to be that 'privileged kid that has it easy'. Having it easy is everyone's dream don't ever let anyone gaslight you those people demonizing you for existing with an advantage would switch places with you in a second. Imagine apologizing for having it better. Icky icky ickyyy. Very ew of you. Very unthatbitch of you. Embarrassing.

First of all stop apologizing for having it better people don't look at you and think oh my God what a good person we love her they hold that against you for the rest of your life. Morality is a trap. If you apologize for being pretty you can never work with a beauty brand or dress up or have anyone hit on you because hey weren't you apologizing for the thing you're benefitting from? If you apologize for coming from a wealthy background the only path you'll be allowed is mission work because omgwhat a hypocrite! Understand this now- morality, especially public, is a trap. Pull a Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian and be happy. Yes I'm pretty yes I'm hot yes I'm rich yes I take advantage of it go cry about it. That thing you're doing trying to show everyone around you I'm moral- it will trap you. When people say they want equality they're lying what they want is power. Once you show anyone, anyone that you're swayed by opinion and want them to like you, a trap. Either learn to curate a perfect public image of a good person and secretly be a bitch like the British royal house has been doing or pull a Paris Hilton yes you're starving and I bought a 10k bag, what about it?

Lowering yourself to meet people that have let their inferiority complex make them think they are inferior doesn't make them like you it shows them they have a sway over you and darling people don't want happiness or equality or whatever bs they tell you. People want power. If you show them they have any of that over you you're dead dead.

Whatever advantages life has given you, milk them for what they can get you and then some. There's no glory in struggle and God is looking at you wondering wait didn't I give this girl what she needs to get there? Let daddy get you into Harvard okay? 'I want to do it by myself' girl. Let him make that call okay? If you're broke and want to be a doctor but pretty Let influencing and modeling pay for tuition, okay? 'I'm not that type of-' shhhh you're embarrassing. Your ego won't get you through med school okay? Good girl. You feel unsightly but you're wealthy just get plastic surgery okay love? If you know that one person working in Hollywood and you dream of acting please nepotism your way in. Dont- don't morality me. You have an advantage. Wear it out raw. I'm giving you the permission. Don't, God did this for you how could you take it for granted?. Take the advantages life has given you and use them to get the advantages you want.

Use what you have to get what you want.

And in cases of emergency: manipulate, gaslight, girlboss, gatekeep.

BMAC

No I don't think you understand how important #communication skills are.

ladies, EVERYTHING. Every single thing that you get in this planet as long as you exist, comes from someone. Every single thing. If you want things, learn to communicate.

Daniel Priestly in his feature on DOAC said if there's a resource out there that already exists getting it is a matter of communication. I'd like to add, a matter of value, which is to say to get what you want you need to learn to communicate and to leverage value. Why are both important?

You can communicate better than communication experts but with no value to leverage, it's just yapping. No one is lending you their private jet just because you string words together nicely. You must learn to not only bring value but leverage it so you don't blindside and burn networks or get undervalued and be a doormat.

You can bring all the value in the world but if you can not communicate its useless. You could have all the PHDs in this planet but if you do not know to negotiate for a position you will be jobless for the rest of your life OR get exploited. You must learn to communicate.

To be valuable is to be a resource that your target would not only benefit from investing in but would love to and will go above and beyond to. That's simple. You want to be valuable you take responsibility and fill a gap ie be useful. Value is simply usefulness. The people you want, what do THEY want that you can provide. It's that simple. This isn't about value this is about communication. You must learn to communicate openly, effortlessly, effectively and simply. You must learn to talk to people. 'I hate people' what are you, a loser? Shut up and put in the work to learn instead if defaulting to blaming them for your lack of social skills. Kill your social anxiety ASAP. [A therapist or coach will do but if you kennot here's a crash course on *deanxietifying* yourself- anxiety is a result of a pileup of evidence that doing that thing will hurt you. To treat it is literally as simple as hunting for evidence of the opposite- that you can do the thing and either walk out unscathed or be able to deal with the effects of it. That simple. Evidence. Here's my BMAC line me for my expertise] deal with your accent deal with your language barriers deal with your sentence structuring get a voice coach study the language structure get therapy or work with a coach to learn to say what you want to say effectively- communication is the distance between you and the thing you want. You can not overestimate the importance of proper communication. I can not explain enough how your communication skills are directly promotional to the quality of your life. I can not overstate how vital it is to your entire existence to learn not only the verbal but (and , mostly) non verbal part of communication. Take the course. Talk to your idol. Ask for mentorship. Practise practise makes perfect. Communication is the backbone to everything (not forgetting being valuable and learning to leverage it)

If you can not convince Elon Musk to lend you a Rocket you know nothing on communication, learn like an amateur. The level up never stops.

BMAC

Ladies the world is not a therapy office and public vulnerability is a category of stupidity and self sabotage that only people looking to be abused take part in. Basically what I'm saying is do the smart girl thing and keep your trauma and abuse and pain and scars between you, your journal, your therapist and that one anon internet trauma dump buddy that has no idea what you look like and you will never meet. Don't let them in, don't let them see. Ever. If you must, run a blog like #metoo and connect with others under animosity, when it comes to your real life you are a spoiled princess girlie and everyone that has met you couldn't help but kiss the ground you walk on.

Why?

Because human beings are animals, I'll say this until you understand- human beings are not just animals we are a survival species which means we attack each other for personal survival and save energy by going the lowest we can and use the least energy possible to preserve some in cases of emergency (in case you don't know why you're lazy and hate unnecessary work). People are programmed to 1. Attack the weak and 2. Perform at the lowest level acceptable. So what does this mean?

People will always look at how everyone else treats you and hit lower. It's that easy. I know you know what i mean. The measure of how you will be treated by someone is how the previous occupant of that position treated you, then try for lower than that to save energy. How people in your past treated you sets the standard of how you will be treated, and this is especially true for m3n. When your next asks, I don't care if your ex was a deadbeat broke but Shrek lookalike that abused you, you say he worshipped the ground you walked on. People are lazy by nature and when they get tired of playing the virtuous, right, after you trauma dumped like a dumb little thing and they went oh my God that was awful let me protect you and treat you well for a while- pray to God they never get mad at you because everything you say can and will be used against you. The second 'that's why you got cheated on' or 'that's why your friends betrayed you' or 'no wonder you got hit' enter the chat you'll understand at the very basic form human beings are just animals that have survived by destroying each other. Only the strong survive, weaklings are chewed used tossed to the side and make comfortable doormats and you know what says weakness? Being hurt. Being used abused etc literally says that person was stronger than me so they overpowered me, I want to know what makes you think it's a smart idea to tell a people biologically programmed to bully its weak 'hey look I was weak enough to be overpowered' . What is wrong with you. Don't let them in. Don't let them see.

When we say you must be vulnerable for your relationships to work, we are talking about your emotions and expectations and needs. Not past. Your friends and partners are not historians or autobiographers. They don't need to know everything. As a matter of fact being 100% open destroys relationships, not the other way around, that's why your femininity guru says to be mysterious.

If you want to connect with people do activities with them, people bond over mutual interests and actions not over mutual experiences. I don't know why they let Hollywood spread this bs but someone that likes you more after knowing your past just has daddy or mommy issues, people are supposed to bond over who you are, now, and mutual values.

When you tell people how you were hurt yes maybe consciously they are thinking poor thing how painful but subconsciously they are thinking what is wrong with this person why would they allow anyone to treat them like that? And subconsciously they set the standard of how to treat you where your abuser set it and they might be nice to you but the microagressions will come. The day they get angry with you either you got lucky and landed a mature person with decency or its over for you, and what will hurt more will be finding out that's what they've been thinking this whole time.

Get a therapist or buy a journal, in public don't let them in. Don't let them see. Your previous nf worshipped you you just had different goals. Your ex best friends were good to you you just happened to outgrow each other. Your previous boss actually gave you bonuses and was very kind it was just time for growth, you're still in contact.

Trust me painting your exes in a good light is protecting you, not them. And never, ever allow anyone to hit lower than the imaginary standard you just set.

BMAC

How do you use your job to meet men?

I try to only meet men through my volunteering job, it’s connected to my actual job but on a lesser level and I’m able to travel and take my time with networking. I don’t date around, I take my time vetting and getting to know people, I don’t hurry things, and I focus on making friends with the girls because they hold the key and know who’s worth spending time getting to know.

establish a niche.

make yourself known.

do your research.

start making connections.

go to events.

Those are the five steps. Find a niche that needs to be filled and establish yourself, make yourself known by taking the time to befriend the women that can and will introduce you to people and make an effort to interact, do your research and make sure you’re not wasting time, start making connections with people other than women, and attend all the events you can.

HOW TO BE UNSUCCESSFUL, POOR, UGLY AND DISSATISFIED

Since everyone is making bps, videos, podcasts etc on how to be successful pretty , rich and satisfied I, a girls girl that believes in equality and truly does believe in helping the minorities I thought someone should make content for the other side. If you don't value me now you never will, it doesn't get more girls girl than this.

Complain. As a feminist I'd like you to know more than women's rights I believe in women's wrongs, you do you queen. It's 2024 we are no longer repressing ourselves to keep society content WE DONT OWE THEM COMFORT complain complain complain complain it's your right you deserve to vent you deserve to speak your truth you deserve to be heard queen. When you see something you dislike when you're inconvenienced look if no one says something, nothing changes. Do it for the girls.

Break your promises to yourself. All the time. You said you'll work out? But you're just not feeling it? No queen don't, be gentle with yourself! It's okay to take off days! Say you'll study but you don't feel like? Its not the end of the world darling? To be poor and unhappy and unsuccessful its important that you don't respect yourself. Look rest in your ☆feminine☆ energy love, the universe gatchu.

Do it tomorrow. Like why start now? Losing weight? You can start next Monday. Why pressure yourself like that? Start tomorrow. There's tomorrow. You can always start on Monday, or next month? The fairies of losing weight are busy today they'll be available Monday I promise. Monday magic. There's an angel that helps people on Monday and they aren't available today. Next year next month next week now why tf would you start now? What are you? A performer? Girl ew.

Ask advice from people that aren't qualified or aren't where you want to be. You wanted to invest? Your mom said you shouldn't? She's right. You know she's an expert you should listen to her. Yes she's poor yes she's a pessimis but so? Just because the financial experts breaking bank say you should doesn't mean you should. Who's the expert, them or your mom? Them, right? Good. For your best shot at being poor and broke and a loser, ignore them.

Assume the world is fair and owes you fair. You know the thing about being a feminine woman in her ☆divine feminine☆ you deserve a soft life. Life should be fair. We should ALL be equal isn't that the whole point of feminism. Ew capitalism EAT THE RICH we are all beautiful all sizes are beautiful YOU DONT HAVE TO CHANGE A THING THE WORLD SHOULD CHANGE ITS HEART. We are all equal. Hierarchy? Social classes? Privileges? 🗑 🚮 . We are all equal and the world should be fair, ACT LIKE IT.

Make promises you won't keep. This one works all the time. Promise your mom better grades and don't deliver promise your boss you'll have it done then don't yes queen position yourself as unreliable and trash your reputation, internally and externally. What do I always say? YOU DONT OWE THEM NOTHING. Besides, it's not your fault. Look at all your excuses. If it was your fault would you have all these very valid excuses? You're just a person. You could've just not made promises or risen to the occasion to keep them but hunnnniii how will you be poor and lonely if you don't.

Consume a lot of content. Why work when you could provide yourself the mental masturbation that is information? We all know learning through information how to do something feels exactly the same as doing it and if you're really kinky like that, say you'll do it before you do it. Reblog every single post read all the books watch all the videos max the pleasure queen. It makes perfect sense to learn through information consumption thats 100% valid don't let nobody tell you nothing. If you can get the exact same feeling from reading about it as doing it, isn't it easier just .... reading. Be feminine!

Half ass it. Do your best then leave it at that. Look the best you can do is your best, right? So what if it's not the quality that's needed? It's your best. Yes the market has a standard value it accepts but if it's higher than your best what can you do? It was your best. So what if your boss doesn't care he's toxic. He has no right to demand for value, you did your best. Instead of being better to rise to the occasion or outsourcing , make a tiktok video about how toxic work culture and school culture is. People have NO RIGHT to demand for standard value, you did your best queen. Blast them on the main. WE ARE NOT SUPPORTING TOXICITY IN 2024.

Have dumb friends. Very few ways to be poor and unsuccessful and ugly are better than this, this might just be the main character of this list. Keep friends that aren't contributing to your success drag the heavy weight because you've been friends for 20 years!!! They deserve friends too!! Friendships should be based on longevity and sympathy they need friends too?? We should be ☆kind☆ to each other and using people? Only having friends that contribute to your level up? How cruel is that? Materialistic? Conceited? Don't do that. Have dumb friends that spend all their time explaining how being rich is bad masculinity is bad you should be a liberal always social politics friends that support you no matter what, that's the most important thing a friend can do, support you NO MATTER WHAT. Hype your mediocrity because *you're doing your best* . Nothing will keep you poor as this. This is the big boy of this list.

Stay as far away from discomfort and hardship as you can. Ladies please embrace ☆femininity☆ do you not want to bag a Billionaire? The second it gets uncomfortable, as a method of self love, right ? Run. Workplace gets hard? Retire. Your neighbors don't like you? Move. Your classes are hard? Drop them. Your business isn't working? Close it. Your relationships aren't working out? Dump them as soon as they no longer serve your comfort. The second it makes you uncomfortable, RUN.

You can say whatever you want about me, but you can never say I'm not for the girls. I ☆serve☆ the masses.

BMAC