Recently My Aunt Passed. She Was The First In My Life To Celebrate Owning Her Beauty And Making Sure

Recently my aunt passed. She was the first in my life to celebrate owning her beauty and making sure she always looked good. Trying to honor her by doing the same. I want to start with my wardrobe! Any tips on recreating a more sophisticated and timeless look?

Building a wardrobe that embodies a sophisticated and timeless look actually doesn’t require a whole lot of pieces if you don’t want it to. Nor does it require a lot of effort when it comes to what pieces to get. It’s a closet full of items that will never go out of style and I’ll always recommend it over being trendy, because being trendy can get unnecessarily expensive.

1. The LBD

Whether or not you’re going for a sophisticated look, every woman should have that one LBD that gets the job done every time. Having more than one is always encouraged but as someone who has more than one, there’s always a favorite. Have one for a night out and a casual one for a trip to the grocery store.

2. Button Downs

Button downs, especially white ones, instantly polish a look. They can be dressed up or down (the beauty of them tbh), but any outfit with a button down will never fail. You can make them glamorous or sexy or professional or casual. They’re classic and won’t ever go out of style.

3. Fitted Skirts

Pretty much any kind of skirt can go with anything, but a fitted skirt (especially high waisted) smooths out the silhouette for a more sleek look. It accentuates the body in a way that isn’t over the top and still remains classy.

4. Silk Skirts

Silk skirts can add something extra to a classic fit. They can also dress up a casual shirt. Like fitted skirts, they also give a sleek and polished look that isn’t as clean cut, but just as timeless and versatile.

5. Suits

If you’re a professional girlie, don’t shy away from pantsuits. They’ll never diminish your femininity and can be just as elegant as any old dress or skirt. The chances of these going out of style are 0 and women in the 90s certainly knew how to wear them in a way that increased their elegance as a woman instead of clashing with it.

6. Slacks

Slacks can be dressed up or down, and also like button downs, they can bring any look together. High waisted ones really accentuate the waist and can give off a seductive look that isn’t too vulgar or incredibly revealing. Just teasing enough while still looking professional.

7. Statement Jewelry

As I mentioned before, having a closet full of trendy pieces can get expensive and excessive. Trends change. They come and go. Not only is it incredibly wasteful if you’re one of those people who gets rid of clothes just as quickly as you buy them, but if you aren’t, you end up with a wardrobe full of things you no longer like nor wear.

Jewelry is no different. Getting elegant staple pieces is something I’ll always encourage. Over the years, I’ve grown out of that phase of buying cute costume jewelry from every store I go to and instead choose to save and purchase something that not only do I wear every day with everything, but that will also last for years. Choose quality over quantity.

For a timeless look, you want balance. Diamond studs with a matching bracelet. Or a staple necklace with a staple ring. That one watch you wear everyday. A string of pearls probably with earrings to match. A simple diamond anklet. You don’t want pieces that are evident clues as to what was trendy and popping when you bought it. You want things that you can whip out 15 years from now that’ll still light up a room. Jewelry can make or break an outfit!

8. ‘Fuck Me’ Heels

At least one nice pair of heels is needed. Whether it’s some classic pointed toed pumps or the more fun looking and versatile strappy heels. You need heels that will sex up an otherwise casual look or top off a more professional one with a flirty flair. They go with anything. They’re reliable. They make you look great and they’ll be here for years to come.

9. A Classic Coat

At least one nice coat needs to be in your closet. Even if you don’t live in a cold environment, you don’t want to be that person going on a trip to New York in December and you’re scrambling to find a decent coat to keep you warm. I’m a sucker for a trench coat because it never fails but pea coats have my heart. There’s something very preppy and timeless about them. They’ve been around for years and aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. Even if (God forbid) your outfit is horrid, just button that sucker up and now you look as put together as the rest.

10. Lingerie

Underneath that classy skirt and teasing white button down are some lace boy shorts and a bra that makes the girls look great. It’s times like these that I miss what Victoria’s Secret used to be. Oh well. I’m a huge lover of lingerie and wearing it makes me feel incredibly sexy. Even if no one else sees it, I know what I look like with it on, and you’d be surprised at what it can do for your confidence. How it can lift your spirits and put a certain sway in your walk that other people notice. When I’m wearing a cute bra and underwear, I feel like it sets the foundation for the rest of my outfit. I feel like those women in the opening montage of The Devil Wears Prada, a woman who has her life together all the way down to her lace thong.

Can you list some harsh truths that the general population (especially women) need to hear in order to improve? I feel like society likes to sugarcoat everything.

Family is a privilege, not a right. Men being allowed to cum inside is a priviledge and not a right.

Men can never DEMAND to women, they can only ask. If they demand, it's divorce time.

It is okay to marry richer/higher status. Marrying lower is just not a good idea for women. You need to always be upgrading and upgrading. Never settle.

Also, at the same time, be reasonable in your standards. The higher your standards are, the smaller your pool will be and the higher caliber you have to be to distinguish yourself.

For dating hypergamously, practice is KEY. Date date date date date date and GET OUT THERE. Mr Perfect won't be impressed by your low-experience awkard nerd ass.

By gaining dating experience you also learn to recognize yourself the red flags.

The higher the salary the more likelier he's a psychopath. Read up on psychopathy and other Dark Triad traits so you're prepared to counteract. If you're not sure about some man, next. Better be safe and save your skin than be a victim.

Your boyfriend working at MacDonalds or smoking pot is not him being "cool" he's being lame. He drives a rusty noisy corolla? Nah. This ain't cute. Get it together.

If you feel you don't deserve dating high value men, get the fuck off the dating pool, recenter it all on you, take a 1yr break and work on your glowup. Read about buliding self confidence AND WORK IT.

Never have children before marriage. Marriage is the legal protection of women. In case you separate outside of marriage he may be never required to help out financially with alimony. Marriage is protection for women.

Fuck the baby mama culture. See previous point. It just isn't cool, it's lame.

It is okay to prioritize career over men, and career first before founding a family. You MUST be seeking out for yourself FIRST before endangering yourself and putting yourself in a vulnerable position.

If you need to have a baby in order to keep a man, let him go. Bye.

The current dating market is heavily unfavorable towards women, as most men just don't know how to behave nicely. And this ain't our problem to solve in any way. Do not hesitate to be cutthroat. Red flag? Block, delete, forget and NEXT.

Fuck protecting men's feelings. Breakup when you don't wanna be anymore with him, say things honestly. They're already brutally honestamongst themselves, they can handle you being honest and asserting yourself.

Mantrums shouldn't make you comply, in ANY way. You need X, he doesn't wants, don't care, you need X or you gtfo.

You have to take accountability for your own actions on yourself and others, but do not blame yourself for EVERYTHING everyone does. That's what a PickMe does. If you got unhealthy body, this is not the fault of your mama if you're above 20. If you went broke, this is not the fault of everyone else if you went shopping excessively with that nice brand new CC card.

Being fat is not cute. Being skeleton thin is not cute. Get it together and strive towards actual wellbeing. Stop smoking cigarettes nobody might tell you but it makes you stink and gives off a bad impression. Same with excessive alcohol consumption.

Like said in the Teenager post, therapist stuff should stay at the therapist's office or your journal.

Live the lifestyle your salary allows you to live. You shouldn't be buying Prada shit on MacDonald's salary. If you want better stuff, strive to improve your salary. Going broke is just awful and not a nice personality trait.

Refuse to work too much you have zero life outside of work. That's exploitation and not being "hardworking". If you feel you can't ask that, read up about "boundaries". Currently, the market favors heavily employees so you have leverage for better. .

You should strive to be autonomous, you can't expect Mama or Friend to help you out everytime you're stuck. Prepare ahead, think of all possibilities ahead of time and ask for help when you're actually stuck. People get helping fatigue.

Do not just read about dating strategies or beauty stuff. Read up about news, science, culture and so on. Listen to podcasts, videos, read reference books, etc. There's a topic you wanna learn more about? Head to the librairy to get a good foundation.

To become a queen requires work, time involvement, energy, focus. You can't hope to become a queen just by scrolling on Tumblr and doing nothing else. Go workout, read, go out, etc. Have a life.

Can you list some harsh truths that the general population (especially women) need to hear in order to improve? I feel like society likes to sugarcoat everything.

Family is a privilege, not a right. Men being allowed to cum inside is a priviledge and not a right.

Men can never DEMAND to women, they can only ask. If they demand, it's divorce time.

It is okay to marry richer/higher status. Marrying lower is just not a good idea for women. You need to always be upgrading and upgrading. Never settle.

Also, at the same time, be reasonable in your standards. The higher your standards are, the smaller your pool will be and the higher caliber you have to be to distinguish yourself.

For dating hypergamously, practice is KEY. Date date date date date date and GET OUT THERE. Mr Perfect won't be impressed by your low-experience awkard nerd ass.

By gaining dating experience you also learn to recognize yourself the red flags.

The higher the salary the more likelier he's a psychopath. Read up on psychopathy and other Dark Triad traits so you're prepared to counteract. If you're not sure about some man, next. Better be safe and save your skin than be a victim.

Your boyfriend working at MacDonalds or smoking pot is not him being "cool" he's being lame. He drives a rusty noisy corolla? Nah. This ain't cute. Get it together.

If you feel you don't deserve dating high value men, get the fuck off the dating pool, recenter it all on you, take a 1yr break and work on your glowup. Read about buliding self confidence AND WORK IT.

Never have children before marriage. Marriage is the legal protection of women. In case you separate outside of marriage he may be never required to help out financially with alimony. Marriage is protection for women.

Fuck the baby mama culture. See previous point. It just isn't cool, it's lame.

It is okay to prioritize career over men, and career first before founding a family. You MUST be seeking out for yourself FIRST before endangering yourself and putting yourself in a vulnerable position.

If you need to have a baby in order to keep a man, let him go. Bye.

The current dating market is heavily unfavorable towards women, as most men just don't know how to behave nicely. And this ain't our problem to solve in any way. Do not hesitate to be cutthroat. Red flag? Block, delete, forget and NEXT.

Fuck protecting men's feelings. Breakup when you don't wanna be anymore with him, say things honestly. They're already brutally honestamongst themselves, they can handle you being honest and asserting yourself.

Mantrums shouldn't make you comply, in ANY way. You need X, he doesn't wants, don't care, you need X or you gtfo.

You have to take accountability for your own actions on yourself and others, but do not blame yourself for EVERYTHING everyone does. That's what a PickMe does. If you got unhealthy body, this is not the fault of your mama if you're above 20. If you went broke, this is not the fault of everyone else if you went shopping excessively with that nice brand new CC card.

Being fat is not cute. Being skeleton thin is not cute. Get it together and strive towards actual wellbeing. Stop smoking cigarettes nobody might tell you but it makes you stink and gives off a bad impression. Same with excessive alcohol consumption.

Like said in the Teenager post, therapist stuff should stay at the therapist's office or your journal.

Live the lifestyle your salary allows you to live. You shouldn't be buying Prada shit on MacDonald's salary. If you want better stuff, strive to improve your salary. Going broke is just awful and not a nice personality trait.

Refuse to work too much you have zero life outside of work. That's exploitation and not being "hardworking". If you feel you can't ask that, read up about "boundaries". Currently, the market favors heavily employees so you have leverage for better. .

You should strive to be autonomous, you can't expect Mama or Friend to help you out everytime you're stuck. Prepare ahead, think of all possibilities ahead of time and ask for help when you're actually stuck. People get helping fatigue.

Do not just read about dating strategies or beauty stuff. Read up about news, science, culture and so on. Listen to podcasts, videos, read reference books, etc. There's a topic you wanna learn more about? Head to the librairy to get a good foundation.

To become a queen requires work, time involvement, energy, focus. You can't hope to become a queen just by scrolling on Tumblr and doing nothing else. Go workout, read, go out, etc. Have a life.

A little tip for makeup

Ok hear me out, YouTube makeup is not for everyday and most of it doesn't look good in real life

As well as the fact that most beauty influencers use too much of the product which will lead you to use a lot as well which will make you buy more products in the long run

In my spare time I love to watch makeup artists doing makeup for runway models, you'll probably notice they never go full on Vincent van Gogh and paint all over the faces of their models.

They use small brushes and cover what's necessary with foundation and concealer. There is use of powders to finish the look and make it look uniform and soft.

My sister and I have a little joke we always say

" Never trust an influencer with a discount code "

Because at times they will use different products or too much of a product and lie to your face as to them they are worrying about how many of you use their code so they earn their keep.

In general, YouTube makeup is a big industry which depends on your desire to consume "the next big thing" and basically to sum up my point, they don't have your best interest in mind.

So now, where do we move on from that.

It's better to save up and buy good quality makeup brushes as those along with a good technique can make a drug store product look amazing on you.

As a person who has been doing art since they were a kid I can definitely say that 'the type of brush you use matters' is a phrase that is not limited to the painting world.

Sit with yourself and look at your face and go from there, find your own blush area, find your own look !

My makeup routine

On a normal day I moisturise my skin and apply a pressed powder. If I want to conceal any spots I use very small amounts of the Juvias Place stick foundation and concealer and go in with a contour stick lightly around my face.

I use a brown lip liner and go with a nude pink lipstick and blend it in on my lips till it looks almost natural.

I use a dip brow pomade to fill in my non existent eyebrows (😔) and I comb them with a clear mascara but remember I don't change my eyebrow shape or go overboard with it because the goal is natural but slightly enhanced.

The only thing unnatural about my makeup is my eyeliner, I have big upturned eyes so I tightline my eyes with a black pencil eyeliner and make a wing with liquid eyeliner and to finish the look I put on some black mascara to my lashes and use a blush stick around my eye-cheek area.

In all these I use small soft brushes I have collected from around the world

When I'm done I almost literally baptise myself in setting spray 😂.

That's it!

Keep in mind my makeup routine is for me, I'm pretty small in frame with a big head and big eyes so I go with the natural doll look, I'll link a video for makeup for the kibbe body types

I'm still figuring out the world of fake lashes but I'm yet to find success with my eye shape 😂

Here are some videos are like

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Spare skincare tips 👀 been working on myself and just got done finding the right hair routine and skincare is next and so scary! I wash my face with facial wipes and that's it (plus lotion after showers 😌) sos 😭

Yesss we love the self improvement!! Congrats on finding your hair care routine babes! ❤️ So I can’t tell you the proper skin care products to use since everyone’s skin is different! But, I can give you some general tips:

1. WASH YOUR FACE BEFORE BEDTIME!! Get rid of all the excess dirt, oils and debris from throughout the day so you can wake up refreshed.

2. Use sulfate free cleansers. Lather on the products with your fingertips. Avoid using a face towel because that can be a bit too rough for sensitive skin.

3. AVOID TOUCHING YOUR FACE!!! You may get the urge to touch your face, but this is more damaging than beneficial! Dirt and bacteria get in your pores when you do this, causing sometimes clogging and major breakouts.

4. EXFOLIATE, but don’t over exfoliate. Your skin NEEDS dead cells removed in order to flourish and glow and thrive. But, don’t over exfoliate daily to the point of causing irritation or skin tone differences.

5. Toner! This is essential for skin hydration and moisturizing.

6. Minimize oil based products. Once again, this can cause clogging and breakouts if over used on acne prone skin!

7. SUNSCREEN!!! This is VITAL. Even as a person of colour. ESPECIALLY as a person of colour. Your skin needs SPF-30! Lack of SPF may cause sun damage and other health concerns.

8. Eat healthy. Your diet alters every change inward and outward on your body. A poor diet may contribute to breakouts and clogged pores. Put that chocolate away and eat your fruits and veggies!!! Your skin will thank you for this.

9. EXERCISE. At least 30 minutes of daily exercise will help with beauty and skincare benefits that money can’t compare to. Daily exercise aids in proper blood flow and increases circulation by keeping oxygen flowing into your bloodstream. Live longer, live better!

10. CONSISTENCY. If you are not consistent with anything you do, don’t expect the results you desire. Stay on top of the game and the rest will follow suit.

11. Last but not least….WATER, WATER, WATER!!! You need it. I need it. We all need it. Dehydration is one of the main causes for dull and unlively skin. If your body is dehydrated, your skin will be too! Try to flush out your system daily by drinking half of your body weight and detoxing with herbal tea often. Avoid caffeinated and sugary drinks. Your skin will LOVE you.

Queen Of Perfume

Choosing your own perfume

This is obviously a highly private choice, so I would recommend to try and try and try perfumes at the shop. Try them, go every week at the perfume shop to try two perfumes, one on each wirst. Keep on trying until you find a perfume that makes you never want to find another one. It just clicks, you just KNOW it it's the right one.

Smell the test perfumes 5 min after spray, 15 minutes, 1 hours then 4 hours.

Do NOT wear any other perfume if you test new ones, as it may layer and give you the wrong impression

Some perfumes might smell AMAZING on the paper tester, but smell awful on you. That's very much possible, perfume's aroma is highly dependent on the body chemistry

Some perfumes fit better a season sadly, so be prepared to the possibility your perfume might fit you a few months out the year.

Once you've chosen your perfume, the price might be highly expensive but keep in mind you're creating your signature brand. The brain has a strong association to smells and one will remember you dearly if they smell your perfume again. Again, you use so little at a time.

Do not diss the cheaper perfumes! Again, with body chemistry, it influences how the perfume will smell on you and a okayish perfume on the paper might smell SUBLIME on you. My own perfume cost 40$ but it smells incredible on me and I always get compliments on it.

The trend those times is single smell perfumes, those that only have one aroma in it. Personnally I find those really curious but they're not my favourite but I still encourage you to try them out. Your body might make those perfumes exquisite.

ASK for samplers!! The shop ladies probably have a million of samplers. Went to a shop, they had 3 drawers FULL of samplers. A treasure for experiment!

If a perfume gives you headarche or nausea or plainly you dislike it, it's not a good one. Shalimar smelt AMAZING on the paper sampler but on me it smelt like cigarettes so much I had to wash it off.

To find similar perfumes to one you did like, check out the .. It gives the notes, the perfume family, reviews etc...

Wearing perfume

Go at tiny amounts at a time. Always. You don't want to be THAT person that smells so much perfume it stinks. Add on more if needed. It is hard to remove but easy to add.

Always ALWAYS use soaps, shampoos and creams that are very low smell, have a similar perfume family as your perfume (let's say I wear a summery coconut-ish monoi perfume, I wouldn't be buying stuff that has fresh laundry smell, per example.). Personally I don't want to do any faux pas, and I go for smell-free hygiene stuff so my perfume isn't challenged or wronged.

DO NOT SPRAY ON CLOTHES. Always on skin. Some perfumes stay permanently on fabric so it's important to be careful.

Exfoliate your skin, make sure your basic body hygiene is up to point. Scrub out the armpits then add Deo almost asap after the shower. Scrub your feets, intimates, rinse it thoroughly. Pat dry your skin. You want a nice foundation for a perfume masterpiece.

If you're about to have sex, spray a minuscule amount at the areas he might put his nose on. Lower belly, nape of neck, etc. Do not put ANY where he might lick. Some perfumes taste AWFUL.

Spread some Vaseline on the areas you're about to spray, so it lasts all day.

DO NOT DO THE PERFUME CLOUD N'WALK, it wastes a stupid amount of perfume. Instead just spray on the wirsts then dab on the neck. That way, less waste and the perfume won't dissipate so fast.

Body mists go away SO fast so you have to reapply a few times a day. Perfumes only once a day. Some are so strong it still persists for two or three days on skin.

Do not hesitate to ask feedback from family, friends and partners. They're your best allies for choosing the right perfume.

Men's favourite scents are vanilla, fruity/sugary scents, lily of the valley. But again, if you LOVE one perfume and most ppl say it's amazing and it doesn't contains those scents, don't dismiss just because of that.

Confidence is the best buddy to perfume. A uncomfortable gal makes a perfume smell meh, but on a QUEEN a perfume might smell incredible... Keep your head high and carry on.