Recently My Aunt Passed. She Was The First In My Life To Celebrate Owning Her Beauty And Making Sure

Recently my aunt passed. She was the first in my life to celebrate owning her beauty and making sure she always looked good. Trying to honor her by doing the same. I want to start with my wardrobe! Any tips on recreating a more sophisticated and timeless look?

Building a wardrobe that embodies a sophisticated and timeless look actually doesn’t require a whole lot of pieces if you don’t want it to. Nor does it require a lot of effort when it comes to what pieces to get. It’s a closet full of items that will never go out of style and I’ll always recommend it over being trendy, because being trendy can get unnecessarily expensive.

1. The LBD

Whether or not you’re going for a sophisticated look, every woman should have that one LBD that gets the job done every time. Having more than one is always encouraged but as someone who has more than one, there’s always a favorite. Have one for a night out and a casual one for a trip to the grocery store.

2. Button Downs

Button downs, especially white ones, instantly polish a look. They can be dressed up or down (the beauty of them tbh), but any outfit with a button down will never fail. You can make them glamorous or sexy or professional or casual. They’re classic and won’t ever go out of style.

3. Fitted Skirts

Pretty much any kind of skirt can go with anything, but a fitted skirt (especially high waisted) smooths out the silhouette for a more sleek look. It accentuates the body in a way that isn’t over the top and still remains classy.

4. Silk Skirts

Silk skirts can add something extra to a classic fit. They can also dress up a casual shirt. Like fitted skirts, they also give a sleek and polished look that isn’t as clean cut, but just as timeless and versatile.

5. Suits

If you’re a professional girlie, don’t shy away from pantsuits. They’ll never diminish your femininity and can be just as elegant as any old dress or skirt. The chances of these going out of style are 0 and women in the 90s certainly knew how to wear them in a way that increased their elegance as a woman instead of clashing with it.

6. Slacks

Slacks can be dressed up or down, and also like button downs, they can bring any look together. High waisted ones really accentuate the waist and can give off a seductive look that isn’t too vulgar or incredibly revealing. Just teasing enough while still looking professional.

7. Statement Jewelry

As I mentioned before, having a closet full of trendy pieces can get expensive and excessive. Trends change. They come and go. Not only is it incredibly wasteful if you’re one of those people who gets rid of clothes just as quickly as you buy them, but if you aren’t, you end up with a wardrobe full of things you no longer like nor wear.

Jewelry is no different. Getting elegant staple pieces is something I’ll always encourage. Over the years, I’ve grown out of that phase of buying cute costume jewelry from every store I go to and instead choose to save and purchase something that not only do I wear every day with everything, but that will also last for years. Choose quality over quantity.

For a timeless look, you want balance. Diamond studs with a matching bracelet. Or a staple necklace with a staple ring. That one watch you wear everyday. A string of pearls probably with earrings to match. A simple diamond anklet. You don’t want pieces that are evident clues as to what was trendy and popping when you bought it. You want things that you can whip out 15 years from now that’ll still light up a room. Jewelry can make or break an outfit!

8. ‘Fuck Me’ Heels

At least one nice pair of heels is needed. Whether it’s some classic pointed toed pumps or the more fun looking and versatile strappy heels. You need heels that will sex up an otherwise casual look or top off a more professional one with a flirty flair. They go with anything. They’re reliable. They make you look great and they’ll be here for years to come.

9. A Classic Coat

At least one nice coat needs to be in your closet. Even if you don’t live in a cold environment, you don’t want to be that person going on a trip to New York in December and you’re scrambling to find a decent coat to keep you warm. I’m a sucker for a trench coat because it never fails but pea coats have my heart. There’s something very preppy and timeless about them. They’ve been around for years and aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. Even if (God forbid) your outfit is horrid, just button that sucker up and now you look as put together as the rest.

10. Lingerie

Underneath that classy skirt and teasing white button down are some lace boy shorts and a bra that makes the girls look great. It’s times like these that I miss what Victoria’s Secret used to be. Oh well. I’m a huge lover of lingerie and wearing it makes me feel incredibly sexy. Even if no one else sees it, I know what I look like with it on, and you’d be surprised at what it can do for your confidence. How it can lift your spirits and put a certain sway in your walk that other people notice. When I’m wearing a cute bra and underwear, I feel like it sets the foundation for the rest of my outfit. I feel like those women in the opening montage of The Devil Wears Prada, a woman who has her life together all the way down to her lace thong.

i just discovered you and you are now literally my favorite tumblr blog that talks about femininity!!!! in every post you left NO CRUMBS!! what are no-nos (attitude, looks, etc) that you should avoid at all times to maximize our pretty privilege? Thank u hunny 🌷

Before anyone has a hissy fit that I’m “telling everyone they have to do these things”, keep in mind that the keyword anon used here is MAXIMIZE pretty privilege. Meaning, you don’t have to do these things. But if you want to take it to the next level, here ya go.

Do not leave the house with your hair less than perfect. You have a brush. You have a comb. You have hot styling tools. You have youtube tutorials. Do your hair and do it right. Hair is so important to women’s looks. So so so important. No one was born knowing how to do their hair perfectly, it takes time and practice. We’re in the middle of a pandemic. I’m sure you can find some time for it.

Ignore “advice” telling you that dieting and exercise is the devil. It’s not. It keeps your body fit and active and healthier, which is more visually appealing to the general public. No matter how much you hate to hear it, the fact of the matter is that most people will respond 10x better to a body that is in shape and at a healthy weight. You can say that it’s not fair or not right or the evil patriarchy at work but when you’re done complaining, the truth will still be that the world prefers fit bodies.

People respect modesty. People are turned on by skin. There is a balance that you can play with. Walk the line and walk it well. Fully covered up but with clothes that fit to show off your curves. Overall modest outfit but with some leg out. Play both sides.

Wear makeup. Doesn’t need much more of an explanation really. Bring out your best features, add some color and vibrancy to your face.

Do not wear loungewear or house clothes outside. Wear REAL CLOTHES when you leave the house. REAAAALLLL CLOOOTTHHHEEESSS. Dresses, skirts, jeans, blouses. Not sweats and hoodies. Dress up for crying out loud. Most people don’t do that these days, so you will definitely get pretty privilege from it. Refine your style and dress up properly every day.

Do not skip your daily grooming. Your beauty routine should include daily bathing, exfoliating, skin care, hair removal, nail care, and dental care. Smooth skin, white teeth, manicured nails, yes ma’am.

Heels are the ultimate pretty privilege shoe. No other shoe will ever have the same impact as heels do. You want to really maximize pretty privilege? Start wearing heels. High heels, low heels, block heels, platform heels, heeled boots, idc. You said you want max PP so there’s your answer.

Avoid cursing in public. A lot of people find it vulgar or crude.

NEVER fight in public. Not verbally, definitely not physically (????), not with your friends, not with your bf, not with customer service. Don’t cop an attitude, don’t use aggressive body language, don’t behave in a vicious manner. Control yourself. Control your emotions. Stay composed.

Don’t smoke. Don’t smoke. Don’t smoke don’t smoke don’t smoke don’t smoke don’t sm

You get one drink and one drink only. Keep your senses sharp. Don’t look sloppy. “Party girl” and “alcoholic” are not words you want attached to you. Stop trying to keep up with the chuggers. Stop trying to out-drink your friends. And definitely stop posting pics of you getting wasted on girls night. Actually, limit how much alcohol you talk about and post pictures of in general.

Real hair, naturally occurring hair colors, makeup that is simple but impactful, non-tattooed skin, and clothing that isn’t too “out there” is what the absolute majority of people respond best to. That’s a fact. It doesn’t mean they don’t respond well to the contrary, it just means they respond BEST to what I said. Remember: the context here was MAXIMIZE pretty privilege.

Don’t let your politics become your main personality trait.

My emergency makeup&care kit, that I use when I am staying the night somewhere spontaneously, or need to redo myself. Listing it below to help out a gal assemble hers;

Tiny brush

Altoid Candy tin containing sarandraps, and q-tips

Nail cutter, nail file.

Tiny tin of headarche medecine, those travel sized ones that fit everywhere!

Mascara, eyeliner pencil, eyelash curler (opt)

Clinique black honey (as lipstick and blusher), or your favourite semi-opaque lipstick. The lipstick being used as blusher was how ladies in the 1950s used to do their blusher, and that ensured it matched perfectly.

Moisturizer, face soap in a travel bottle.

Hair oil (hotel shampoos can be quite harsh for the hair, I use them only at my roots)

2 pairs of silk panties that take very little space. Always a clean panty everyday!

One silk scrunchie that's also fit for daily wear (protects at night and looks nice for day wear)

Small tin of bronzer and highlighter, to use for eyelids and face in general. If you need to fill your eyebrows, bronzer works in a pinch (it works for me, but if you need darker, you could add an tiny palette that contains your eyebrow shades, and could be used for eyes too)

Small tin of face powder, skip the foundation and layer on top of dried moisturizer. Gives a bit more uniform texture without cluttering your bag

Condoms & 60$ cash in a tin can, always be safe. The money is for quickly exiting with taxi, or if you're in trouble. Never use that money unless you really need it. .

Perfume sampler of your perfume, or your perfume transfered into a travel bottle. The roller bottles are AMAZING for strategically applying it.

Travel sized deodorant, makeup wipes (that also can be used as armpit & privates wipe in a pinch)

All the required makeup brushes.

All those items fit in a Kleenex box-sized bag, and I use them a lot!

Master your basic makeup only using those items and you'll look fabulous with little. Practice practice!

I want to live by myself when I move out of my parent's place but I'm really afraid of money problems? I'm afraid that the only place I can afford will be in the ghetto and it'll all be torn apart and I'll only be allowed to eat one granola bar a week. I'm really stressing out about this. I don't know anything about after school life. I don't know anything about paying bills or how to buy an apartment and it's really scaring me. is there anything you know that can help me?

HI darling,

I’ve actually got a super wonderful masterpost for you to check out:

Home

what the hell is a mortgage?

first apartment essentials checklist

how to care for cacti and succulents

the care and keeping of plants

Getting an apartment

Money

earn rewards by taking polls

how to coupon

what to do when you can’t pay your bills

see if you’re paying too much for your cell phone bill

how to save money

How to Balance a Check Book

How to do Your Own Taxes

Health

how to take care of yourself when you’re sick

things to bring to a doctor’s appointment

how to get free therapy

what to expect from your first gynecologist appointment

how to make a doctor’s appointment

how to pick a health insurance plan

how to avoid a hangover

a list of stress relievers

how to remove a splinter

Emergency

what to do if you get pulled over by a cop

a list of hotlines in a crisis

things to keep in your car in case of an emergency

how to do the heimlich maneuver

Job

time management

create a resume

find the right career

how to pick a major

how to avoid a hangover

how to interview for a job

how to stop procrastinating

How to write cover letters

Travel

ULTIMATE PACKING LIST

Traveling for Cheap

Travel Accessories

The Best Way to Pack a Suitcase

How To Read A Map

How to Apply For A Passport

How to Make A Travel Budget

Better You

read the news

leave your childhood traumas behind

how to quit smoking

how to knit

how to stop biting your nails

how to stop procrastinating

how to stop skipping breakfast

how to stop micromanaging

how to stop avoiding asking for help

how to stop swearing constantly

how to stop being a pushover

learn another language

how to improve your self-esteem

how to sew

learn how to embroider

how to love yourself

100 tips for life

Apartments/Houses/Moving

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure? (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment (The Responsible One)

Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit (The Responsible One)

How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins (The Responsible One)

Education

How to Find a Fucking College (The Sudden Adult)

How to Find Some Fucking Money for College (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School (The Sudden Adult)

Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome) (The Responsible One)

How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a College Major (The Sudden Adult)

Finances

How to Write a Goddamn Check (The Responsible One)

How to Convince Credit Companies You’re Not a Worthless Bag of Shit (The Responsible One)

Debit vs Credit (The Responsible One)

What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost (The Sudden Adult)

Budgeting 101 (The Responsible One)

Important Tax Links to Know (The Responsible One)

How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting

How to Write a Resume Like a Boss (The Responsible One)

How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read (The Responsible One)

How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up (The Responsible One)

10 Sites to Start Your Job Search (The Responsible One)

Life Skills

Staying in Touch with Friends/Family (The Sudden Adult)

Bar Etiquette (The Sudden Adult)

What to Do After a Car Accident (The Sudden Adult)

Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries (The Responsible One)

How to Survive Plane Trips (The Sudden Adult)

How to Make a List of Goals (The Responsible One)

How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment (The Responsible One)

Miscellaneous

What to Expect from the Hell that is Jury Duty (The Responsible One)

Relationships

Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)

How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple  and catastrofries)

Travel & Vehicles

How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle (The Responsible One)

How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch (The Responsible One)

Other Blog Features

Apps for Asshats

Harsh Truths & Bitter Reminders

Asks I’ll Probably Need to Refer People to Later

Apartments (or Life Skills) - How Not to Live in Filth (The Sudden Adult)

Finances - Tax Basics (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate (The Responsible One)

Important Documents - How to Get a Replacement ID (The Responsible One)

Health - How to Deal with a Chemical Burn (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - List of Jobs Based on Social Interaction Levels (The Sudden Adult)

Job Hunting - How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting (The Responsible One)

Job Hunting - Questions to Ask in an Interview (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - First-Time Flying Tips (The Sudden Adult)

Life Skills - How to Ask a Good Question (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Reasons to Take a Foreign Language (The Responsible One)

Life Skills - Opening a Bar Tab (The Sudden Adult)

Relationships - Long Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Contact (The Responsible One)

Adult Cheat Sheet:

what to do if your pet gets lost

removing stains from your carpet

how to know if you’re eligible for food stamps

throwing a dinner party

i’m pregnant, now what?

first aid tools to keep in your house

how to keep a clean kitchen

learning how to become independent from your parents

job interview tips

opening your first bank account

what to do if you lose your wallet

tips for cheap furniture

easy ways to cut your spending

selecting the right tires for your car

taking out your first loan

picking out the right credit card

how to get out of parking tickets

how to fix a leaky faucet

get all of your news in one place

getting rid of mice & rats in your house

when to go to the e.r.

buying your first home

how to buy your first stocks

guide to brewing coffee

first apartment essentials checklist

coping with a job you hate

30 books to read before you’re 30

what’s the deal with retirement?

difference between insurances

Once you’ve looked over all those cool links, I have some general advice for you on how you can have some sort of support system going for you:

Reasons to move out of home

You may decide to leave home for many different reasons, including:

wishing to live independently

location difficulties – for example, the need to move closer to university

conflict with your parents

being asked to leave by your parents.

Issues to consider when moving out of home

It’s common to be a little unsure when you make a decision like leaving home. You may choose to move, but find that you face problems you didn’t anticipate, such as:

Unreadiness – you may find you are not quite ready to handle all the responsibilities.

Money worries – bills including rent, utilities like gas and electricity and the cost of groceries may catch you by surprise, especially if you are used to your parents providing for everything. Debt may become an issue.

Flatmate problems – issues such as paying bills on time, sharing housework equally, friends who never pay board, but stay anyway, and lifestyle incompatibilities (such as a non-drug-user flatting with a drug user) may result in hostilities and arguments.

Your parents may be worried

Think about how your parents may be feeling and talk with them if they are worried about you. Most parents want their children to be happy and independent, but they might be concerned about a lot of different things. For example:

They may worry that you are not ready.

They may be sad because they will miss you.

They may think you shouldn’t leave home until you are married or have bought a house.

They may be concerned about the people you have chosen to live with.

Reassure your parents that you will keep in touch and visit regularly. Try to leave on a positive note. Hopefully, they are happy about your plans and support your decision.

Tips for a successful move

Tips include:

Don’t make a rash decision – consider the situation carefully. Are you ready to live independently? Do you make enough money to support yourself? Are you moving out for the right reasons?

Draw up a realistic budget – don’t forget to include ‘hidden’ expenses such as the property’s security deposit or bond (usually four weeks’ rent), connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Communicate – avoid misunderstandings, hostilities and arguments by talking openly and respectfully about your concerns with flatmates and parents. Make sure you’re open to their point of view too – getting along is a two-way street.

Keep in touch – talk to your parents about regular home visits: for example, having Sunday night dinner together every week.

Work out acceptable behaviour – if your parents don’t like your flatmate(s), find out why. It is usually the behaviour rather than the person that causes offence (for example, swearing or smoking). Out of respect for your parents, ask your flatmate(s) to be on their best behaviour when your parents visit and do the same for them.

Ask for help – if things are becoming difficult, don’t be too proud to ask your parents for help. They have a lot of life experience.

If your family home does not provide support

Not everyone who leaves home can return home or ask their parents for help in times of trouble. If you have been thrown out of home or left home to escape abuse or conflict, you may be too young or unprepared to cope.

If you are a fostered child, you will have to leave the state-care system when you turn 18, but you may not be ready to make the sudden transition to independence.

If you need support, help is available from a range of community and government organisations. Assistance includes emergency accommodation and food vouchers. If you can’t call your parents or foster parents, call one of the associations below for information, advice and assistance.

Where to get help

Your doctor

Kids Helpline Tel. 1800 55 1800

Lifeline Tel. 13 11 44

Home Ground Services Tel. 1800 048 325

Relationships Australia Tel. 1300 364 277

Centrelink Crisis or Special Help Tel. 13 28 50

Tenants Union of Victoria Tel. (03) 9416 2577

Things to remember

Try to solve any problems before you leave home. Don’t leave because of a fight or other family difficulty if you can possibly avoid it.

Draw up a realistic budget that includes ‘hidden’ expenses, such as bond, connection fees for utilities, and home and contents insurance.

Remember that you can get help from a range of community and government organizations. 

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Keep me updated? xx

Ladies, get your notebooks out because class is back in session today and this is going to be a long one 😈

I’ve been away due to travel and exploring new business ventures, so I apologize for not uploading this sooner. Hopefully, you haven’t been waiting too long for this much needed topic!

I’ve received many questions in the past regarding the topic of “Age & Hypergamy” and I just knew this was an important lesson to cover. There’s a lot involved with this topic including:

- How your age impacts your hypergamous journey  - Advantages - Disadvantages - How to maximize your journey in relation to your age - What to focus on I could go on for days! The point is: your age does influence your journey, and today we’re going to talk about it.

THE BASICS

1. No, You Are Not “Too Old” For Hypergamy. I don’t know why y’all are still listening to these fraudulent male coaches. They are LYING. It doesn’t matter if you’re 21, 31, 41, or 51. You can be hypergamous at any age. In fact, you should be hypergamous at every age. There is no reason for you to “stop” being hypergamous because you are older. Does a dog stop being a dog because it’s older??? Do men stop chasing women when they’re old and have erectile dysfunction? NOPE. 🤦

2. Better Late Than Never. I hear this one a lot: “I’m late to the game” or “I didn’t know about hypergamy when I was younger”. LADIES. Please! It doesn’t matter if you just discovered hypergamy 5 minutes ago: Welcome. It doesn’t matter if I’m the first person to introduce you to hypergamy: Welcome.  Now is the time to learn and achieve your goals and dreams.

The end result is what matters. Some people don’t learn how to swim until adulthood, but at the end of the day at least they learned. Plenty of women were raised by hypergamous mothers but grow up to be the King of Pick Me’s. Timing doesn’t always lead to the expected results. So, better late than never.

3. It’s Not an Equal Playing Field. Your hypergamous journey will not be the same in your 30s as it was in your 20s. I’m not going to lie to you ladies and pretend like regardless of your age your journey and options will be the same. It will not. You must adjust your game according to your age to maximize your success.

This is an important element to possess in  ALL areas of your life. The ability to be flexible and fluid. If you are not adjusting yourself throughout life you will get left behind. The best example I have for this is with makeup. The makeup  I did at 14 years old vs now has evolved tremendously. I cringe at the makeup looks I used to wear in high school. But through exposure and practice, I evolved. You will evolve too, but you must be flexible and open to change.

🌻 LADIES 18-24 🌻 My lovely Debutantes! Young, eager, and optimistic. You’re a breath of fresh air to mundane adulthood, and can easily captivate a room with your dreams and aspirations.

Advantages:

🌻 Time. Ladies, if you are in this age range, you’re in luck because you have started your journey very young and have more time to invest in yourself and social climbing. The older you get the busier life will get, so use this extra time now to be selfish.

You have time to refine yourself. You have time to make mistakes and learn from them. Use this extra time wisely. 

🌻 You Attract Easily. Society and evolution are on your side; an attractive woman in her 20s should be able to attract a broad scope of men. In our society, youth and beauty are both prized. As long as you look put together, you will find attracting men is easy – however, this doesn’t mean that they are good men or affluent. Also, keep in mind that attracting men doesn’t mean they’ll stick around.

Use this to your advantage by having a good roster of men.

🌻 Optimistic. Those who are younger are generally more optimistic about life because life is just beginning for them. If you possess this natural trait, capitalize on it! This is a very attractive trait to possess at any age. Now, I know that nowadays it’s popular for young ladies to be “edgy” and depression is touted around like a desirable personality trait. Ladies, if you struggle with mental illness get help. Do not show it off on Tiktok like it’s a new purse. Get help.

Being an overall pleasant person to be around with makes you naturally charismatic!

Disadvantages:

🌻 Dating for Love. Movies and society sold us this fairytale about “true love” and “living happily ever after”. Well, I’m your Fairy Godsister and I’m here to tell you that if you are dating solely for love, you are dating for nonsense. Date. With. A. Purpose. Love should never be your primary focus when dating. A man should meet your requirements before you “fall in love”, not the other way around. (Honestly, “falling in love” is a scam that’ll distract you from making responsible decisions. Would you buy a house just based on pictures they show you because you “fell in love with it”? Or would you go look at the house in person first, and make sure it’s not falling apart on the inside?)

🌻 “A Good Time”. So this is the tricky part about being on the younger side of this journey. If you’re hoping to get married early to a wealthy, high value man, you will have to present yourself in a manner that doesn’t get you placed in the “fun” category. Some men see your youth as something for a good time, not a long time (marriage). So it’s easy for them to waste your time.

🌻 Naive. Ok, sis. Let’s be real. You don’t know anything at 18. You’re not as smart as you think you are at 21 either. This age group is the most vulnerable due to inexperience and the risk of being scammed/being taken advantage of. The best you can do is start learning now and get smart, quickly. Always put your wants and needs first. Don’t get played. You don’t owe anyone anything. Don’t think sex will keep a man.

🌻 Financially Insecure. Most of you in this age group are probably living with your parents or living with limited income. Nothing is wrong with this, however, be careful because some men may try to control you financially, especially if you depend on them for your bills and living expenses.

🌻 Pressure/Struggle Love. Chances are you’re surrounded with friends who are:

1. Doing struggle love/pick me’s  2. In relationships that are not hypergamous (50/50 relationships) 3. “Having fun” (hoeing around) This pressure may influence you, so you must be careful who you surround yourself with.

What to Focus On:

🌻 Your education! Your career! Make something of yourself.  🌻 Take care of your body. There is no reason you should be out of shape at this age. Being “thicc” has been misused.  🌻 Stacking cash. Trust me, you’ll thank me in the future. Stop wasting your money at Forever 21, Pink, and Bath & Body Works. Invest in quality items, while saving money 

🌻 Building connections. At this age, it’s appropriate to have “mentors”. Use this to your advantage. Reach out to those in the industry you want to work in and request an opportunity to shadow. 🌻 Yourself. Your passions. Your interests. Focus on yourself. 🌻 Discovering your ideal look. You’re growing into your body still, which is the perfect time to experiment and see which looks work for you. 🌻 Addressing your mental health. It is not normal to always be depressed or anxious. Please get your mental health in order sooner rather than later.

🌸 LADIES 25-34  🌸

My darling Mademoiselles. This age group is trouble in all the right ways. Beautiful and dangerous. Wise and vibrant. The ultimate femme fatales.

Advantages

🌸 Marriage Material. This age range is usually the range where most hypergamous women get married. If you don’t believe me, look at socialites (especially those who come from old money) who are married. Most of them tend to marry within this age range. 

( Note: Academics plays a large role in this; the wealthy value education. Although a high value man doesn’t care how much money you make, having an educated background is something they do value. Most women don’t finish their education until the age of  22 – and that’s if they stop at a Bachelors. They tend to get married after this period).

🌸 Freedom.  If you want to date hypergamously, you must be ready to go out with your roster. That means dates and trips. At this age range, you tend to have a lot of freedom because you usually live alone, and have your own source of income to fall back on.

🌸 Appearance There’s a lot of conflicting opinions on when a woman hits her prime. Dusty men talk nonsense about women “hitting a wall” at 30, which is FALSE. I promise you if you maintain your appearance, you will find that you look better in your 30s than you did in your 20s. And you will have more success because you have mastered seduction techniques in addition to your appearance.

I find that this age range tends to have more power because they can combine their refined appearance with their sensuality to get the best outcome.

Disadvantages

🌸 Family Around this age range, some of you probably have a child. Now, how does being a mother work with hypergamy?

First, I want to be very clear with you all: Having children will not stop you from being hypergamous. I know a lot of male “dating gurus” make it seem like being a single mother is a dealbreaker– it’s not. 

However, certain  aspects of being a mother may bring disadvantages to your journey including: - Limitations; if you are a single mom that has children under the age of 13, chances are your opportunities to freestyle are limited unless you have a reliable caretaker. You cannot travel freely, or leave your child whenever you please to go out and about.  - Baby daddy drama: Some exes may stir up trouble if they discover you’re out dating. And not just dating any kind of men– men that are better than them. - Difficulty receiving: being a single mother is hard. And naturally, you may have developed a tough exterior to protect yourself and your child. You might also struggle with accepting help from others and this may show up in your relationships. -Mothering; ladies! Mother your child(ren), NOT the men on your roster.

🌸 Pressure

This is the age range where it seems like everyone around you is settling down. You’ll see friends and acquaintances getting married, having children, establishing wonderful careers… And you may feel the pressure to “catch up” and do the same and settle.

Ladies, when I first started my journey I made the decision for myself: hypergamy, or nothing. I wasn’t going to settle in ANY area of my life, just because those around me were. You live your life on your own time and do not let this pressure influence you.

🌸 Living Life Aimlessly.

Does this sound like you: You finished high school, and then scurried off to college. Why? No clue, that’s what everyone else is doing and you were told you needed college for a decent job. Then you study something for a career that you hope you’ll enjoy. Some of you don’t even know what career you wanted, but you still go to college and get the degree. Great. Next, you have a job, and you’re out in the real world.

Now what? Maybe you want to travel. Possibly get married. Perhaps one day start a business. Maybe buy a house. Lots of ideas and hopes, but no plans. This is a common pattern that I’ve noticed in women after they finish college and start working. They have zero direction. They just live life day by day like they’re playing a game of Monopoly and hope they land on a good property and don’t end up on the “Go to Jail” space.

What to Focus On:

🌸 Make. A. Plan. Just like you planned to go to college to get a degree and a job, plan the next phase of your life. You don’t have to stick to it 100%, it can change as you progress through life. But you need some sort of path that you desire. Otherwise, you’re just guessing your way through life. 🌸 Maintaining your appearance (weight, skincare, hair care, etc.). There are no excuses, ladies! Don’t let yourself go because you’re busy, or you had children. 🌸 Stability; aim for financial, emotional, and social stability. Surround yourself with like-minded friends. Ensure you are not scrambling each month to pay bills. Focus on security and stability. 🌸 Not getting distracted by “good” d*ck/being roommates with a man. Ain’t no d*ck good enough to accept a mediocre life.   🌸 Being active within your community; this is the easiest way to social climb. And at this age, you have the benefit of connecting with those younger and older than you.

🌹 LADIES 35+ 🌹 Finally, my radiant, delicate, and seductive Mademoiselles. No other group possesses the power you hold. Class, elegance, and a tantalizing aura.

Disclaimer: Now, I’ve mentioned on my blog before that I don’t speak on topics I don’t have knowledge or experience in. For any ladies reading this part, this will just be based on my observations of older women in my life who entered hypergamous relationships later in adulthood. I am not in this age range, so I cannot speak from my own experience.

Advantages:

🌹 Boundaries & Standards: If you are afraid to establish boundaries with a man, you prize him. If you have no standards, you are low value. Chances are, men will walk all over you and try to get away with as much as possible.

Women 35+ tend to not tolerate nonsense and know exactly what they want because they have lived life. When done correctly, establishing boundaries and setting your standards can drive a man crazy about you. Men love the unattainable.

🌹 Network: Your network is one of your best weapons. Being introduced to the right person (“a friend of a friend”). Being invited to the right place/event. All these can change your life in a moment. Around this age range, you should be established in your career, with your friend group/circle, and your community. This is the time to really connect with your circles because I promise you, there will always be opportunities there.

🌹 Understanding. It has become popular for these male “dating coaches” to attack single motherhood.  Well, guess what? For every single mother, there’s a father. For every divorced woman, there’s a divorced man. This is the truth men try to erase: men have “baggage” and they are still out in the streets pining after women! They act as if these men don’t exist, and all men are virgin saints as if women reproduce on their own🙄 Ridiculous.

There are many affluent men out there who are divorced. Many have children. And they do not mind if you do. Really. They don’t. A quality man realizes that a woman who is 40 years old is most likely not some virgin nun. 

🌹Feminine Beauties. Ok, I’m gonna be straight up: the average 35+ year old woman probably looks more feminine than the average 21 year old woman currently. Don’t come at me, ladies, this is what I have noticed in women older than me.  Just look around (at least in the US). The media is brainwashing young girls and confusing hypersexuality with feminine appearance. Dresses from Fashion Nova do not give the impression of class and elegance. A lot of makeup gurus are teaching makeup looks that do not enhance beauty. 

Women who are 35+ tend to succeed more at an overall “feminine” appearance because they grew up in a different time that emphasized a more “classical” standard of beauty. They also know what suits their bodies well, and usually are more confident overall.

Disadvantages

🌹 Roster Age. You must be more diligent regarding your roster’s age. Try to keep the men on your roster 10+ years older than you (avoid men close in age as you).

Men automatically invest more and step up when presented with challenges. Age is a challenge. Having an older roster will be very beneficial. Do not shy away from men in their 50s or 60s either.

🌹 Mindset The biggest obstacle for this age group may end up being yourself. Just from the messages I have received from you all, I can see some of you truly believe being over the age of 35/having children/being divorced will hinder you on this journey.

This is all FALSE. There are so many women that I have witnessed throughout my life marry hypergamously in their 40s AND 50s. Do you think 51 years old Lauren Sanchez thought for a moment that she wasn’t good enough for Jeff Bezos?  Stop listening to men who tell you men don’t want to be with you. Stop listening to bitter women who tell you you’re too old. Stop listening to your inner thoughts that keep tearing you down. Hypergamy doesn’t stop with your age!

🌹 Comfort Zone.  Humans are creatures of habit, and the older we get the more comfortable we will get with our lives (jobs, home, friends, routine). After all, we want security. We find comfort in what we know is safe.

Avoid this tendency. It can be hard to do, especially if you have children and a demanding job, but still try your best. Escaping this will be advantageous for your journey.

🌹 Family. See above section.

What to Focus On:  🌹 Maintaining your appearance and staying healthy/active. 🌹 Getting out of your bubble. Do not stay in your comfort zone. 🌹 Having an active roster. You can’t marry hypergamously without dating hypergamously!

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Almost all of these tips can be applied at any age. Take what resonates with you, and stay focused on your journey. The biggest takeaway I hope you get from this is that regardless of your age, you can and will succeed.  ❤️

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A little tip for makeup

Ok hear me out, YouTube makeup is not for everyday and most of it doesn't look good in real life

As well as the fact that most beauty influencers use too much of the product which will lead you to use a lot as well which will make you buy more products in the long run

In my spare time I love to watch makeup artists doing makeup for runway models, you'll probably notice they never go full on Vincent van Gogh and paint all over the faces of their models.

They use small brushes and cover what's necessary with foundation and concealer. There is use of powders to finish the look and make it look uniform and soft.

My sister and I have a little joke we always say

" Never trust an influencer with a discount code "

Because at times they will use different products or too much of a product and lie to your face as to them they are worrying about how many of you use their code so they earn their keep.

In general, YouTube makeup is a big industry which depends on your desire to consume "the next big thing" and basically to sum up my point, they don't have your best interest in mind.

So now, where do we move on from that.

It's better to save up and buy good quality makeup brushes as those along with a good technique can make a drug store product look amazing on you.

As a person who has been doing art since they were a kid I can definitely say that 'the type of brush you use matters' is a phrase that is not limited to the painting world.

Sit with yourself and look at your face and go from there, find your own blush area, find your own look !

My makeup routine

On a normal day I moisturise my skin and apply a pressed powder. If I want to conceal any spots I use very small amounts of the Juvias Place stick foundation and concealer and go in with a contour stick lightly around my face.

I use a brown lip liner and go with a nude pink lipstick and blend it in on my lips till it looks almost natural.

I use a dip brow pomade to fill in my non existent eyebrows (😔) and I comb them with a clear mascara but remember I don't change my eyebrow shape or go overboard with it because the goal is natural but slightly enhanced.

The only thing unnatural about my makeup is my eyeliner, I have big upturned eyes so I tightline my eyes with a black pencil eyeliner and make a wing with liquid eyeliner and to finish the look I put on some black mascara to my lashes and use a blush stick around my eye-cheek area.

In all these I use small soft brushes I have collected from around the world

When I'm done I almost literally baptise myself in setting spray 😂.

That's it!

Keep in mind my makeup routine is for me, I'm pretty small in frame with a big head and big eyes so I go with the natural doll look, I'll link a video for makeup for the kibbe body types

I'm still figuring out the world of fake lashes but I'm yet to find success with my eye shape 😂

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