Big-sis - Your Aggressively Wholesome Older Sister

I'd like to take a moment to give a little love to kids who grew up with Passive Aggressive Parents/Guardians

A little love to the kids whose parents dumped their problems they had with each other on you instead of confronting each other.

A little love to the kids who felt they had to be the messenger, mediator, and couple's therapist for their parents because they couldn't communicate with each other.

A little love to kids who had to play guessing games to try and figure out what their parents wanted from them.

A little love to the kids who felt very lucky to be in a household where their parents rarely yelled and fought until they realized that there was always tension hanging in the air of unspoken arguments.

A little love to the kids who felt the weight of the tension on their shoulders and were anxious and stressed and sad because of it.

A little love to the kids who winced every time their parents would smile and laugh while talking about their frustrations instead of being straightforward about their feelings.

A little love to the kids who realized who internalized all these traits and saw how it hurt themselves and the people they had relationships with.

A little love to the kids who are slowly trying to work the passivity out of their system, better their confrontation skills, and communicate better because they've seen what it does to people.

You are strong and I send you my love and support.

its ok. 

I can't remember for sure where I heard this, if my therapist told me this or if a Tumblr post did, but I'm gonna pass it along to you guys.

There's this really stupid trick I know for people who worry a lot (I've tried it myself and it weirdly works) Schedule. Your. Worrying. It's worked for me in the past and it's worth a try.

It's so hard when people say "don't worry! :)" because things can just be so scary that you don't know how to not worry. So instead of telling yourself "stop worrying" try "worry later."

I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out. If you schedule out your day, set some time aside, maybe 10, 20 minutes, at some point to just worry; rock on your heels and pace and stew and twiddle your thumbs. Get it all out. Preferably sometime later in the day.

What this does is when you start to panic or worry about things you can't change or control you can stop yourself and say "yeah I'm gonna worry about it... but not for another 2 hours and 28 minutes. I can think of all the horrible things that can go wrong from 7:40 to 8:00pm tonight."

It may sound dumb, but for those of you out there who spend a lot of time panicking and focusing on what makes you anxious, I highly recommend it.

No matter what life brings you,

kick some grass over that shit

and move on.’