My Friend: Can I Ask You For Relationship Advice?

My friend: can I ask you for relationship advice?

Me: *prepares a wheel of fortune where the only two options are “communicate” and “break up”* yeah sure go ahead

Everyone should know the international sign for Help Me. Let’s make this famous!!

KIKI’S DELIVERY SERVICE (1989)

you are not unloveable just because people have treated you poorly

“People made it taboo for us to speak”, holy shit that’s so right on the money it’s blowing my mind since I’ve never been able to put that frustration into words.

POC need to listen to us. Period. Any excuses or outrage at us for calling them out is unacceptable and TELLING.

If this many Asian people were attacking other communities’ ELDERS and WOMEN to the point that hate crimes increased by 150% and in some places, 1000%,,,,,, if pregnant woc were spit on by Asian men, little boys and girls stabbed, elders KILLED and brain dead at the hands of Asian men......... Imagine the hate. We’ve been and are hated for less, RIGHT the fuck NOW.

Americans would not HESITATE to call this an Asian problem, and most of us would not hesitate to listen and call the shit out. The worst is happening and Asians are not “allowed” to outright call for everyone else to fix and check themselves, like we WOULD and HAVE and ARE for them. Who are we to them but the model minority? That’s the fucking difference. We listen to everyone when they need to be heard and we call our own communities the fuck out and have difficult conversations head on. We’ve accepted our role as the scapegoat so much that we (as in privileged Asians) even scapegoat our own hate crimes.

It’s the cold hard truth that Asian-Americans are way more aware of every other community in this country than Americans as a whole are of us — we are constantly having to prove our Americaness while they sit on generations of anti-Asian hate to unlearn and unpack.

But when we try to get other communities to address their anti-Asian issues, which EVERY SINGLE COMMUNITY is guilty of, we’re being “divisive.” They really “not all...” guilt trip the Asian-American community into silence. Ok, becky.

This passive tone of “hate crimes keep HAPPENING to Asians?!?” completely removes responsibility from Americans who are actively hunting us down, places the burden of responsibility on us while we go in circles and wall on eggshells around Americans. This is an abusive relationship in any other context. This ensures that communities will still harbor hate for us into the next generation. This is the thanks we get for being born here, for immigrating here. For existing. Put this in any other context and you see how outdated and backwards progress for our communities is, and it can’t be because we don’t “speak up” enough. We are speaking up right the fuck now and not enough are willing to listen. And you’ll still see Asian-Americans blaming themselves and taking on more than they need because we are used to it. People made it taboo for us to speak.

Lol whenever hate crimes “happen” to Asian people, I always imagine what if it were the other way around if it were Asian people doing the hate crimes instead. ALL Asian people would have to take the blame or be at fault for even ONE hate crime let alone the thousands that have already been inflicted on our communities.

There have been over 3000 reported racist hate attacks against Asian people across the US and the lack of media coverage is just telling. Not to mention that hate crimes don’t just happen as you said, violent racists are the ones doing them and writers/journalists that do report on the attacks often hide who the attackers are and/or their identities.

In the end, it’s Asian people that get blamed or are at fault for the racist attacks that happen to us. Non-Asians blame us/say we deserve to get attacked and all the brainwashed Asians will side with them and take the blame for the attacks as well, even though it’s happening to their own friends and families. Then the liberal Asians will say “we need to hold hands and sing kumbya” to end racism while the conservative Asians will say we should “shoot first and ask questions later.” But for the rest of us that just want all this shit to stop don’t get heard or are dismissed.

It’s like you said, it’s not that Asian folks don’t speak up enough, it’s that people made it taboo for us to speak up because they don’t wanna hear us. And because nobody wants to hear us, I don’t ever wanna hear any non-Asians trying to call out “racist Asians” when they won’t even call out their own racism against Asian people.

Angry Asian Guy

Anti Asian Racism has always been a thing in the US, it’s not a new fucking development- I’m saying this to all the uneducated ppl in the comments/reblogs.

STOP ASIAN HATE

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