11TH SYNASTRY CULTURE

11TH SYNASTRY CULTURE 🫂

If you asked me which house in the synastry I would like to have, I would answer 11TH, without hesitation.

11TH is so fun, it's the house of friends, social events, technology, expansion, dreams... Why is it still so underrated?

People are dying to have the 8th and 12th house experiences. Why? I've had it, and I can tell you it's not fun at all.

8TH and 12TH experiences left me with wounds to this day that have not yet healed. I dream about the mf almost every day, it's not healthy and fun. The sexual part may seem like a tempting invitation, but I can assure you it's not worth it.

But anyway...

What I love about this connection is the feeling of companionship, you two never run out of things to talk about, never get bored, and never stop gossiping. Always making fun of each other and picking on each other.

The 11th house is about expansion, Jupiter, masses... So when you share a planet with this person, everything intensifies. You may be complete opposites of each other, but that's what makes it work.

In my opinion, for a relationship to work, the couple has to be friends first. What's the point in sharing your life with someone if it's not to laugh?

You probably met through mutual friends, or at a social event, or even at school. You felt like you could trust him. The type of person who will listen to your bad jokes.

The house here feels a Sagittarian energy, youthful and full of life. The opposite of the 8th house, where you feel angry and anxious. Here you feel free, you feel like you can be yourself around him.

The irony is that he can be completely stupid or even crazy. But you see him as charming, everything he does makes you smile. It's as if you were watching TV on your favorite channel. (Kind of Fiona and Shrek vibes).

I also interpret the 11th as the house of secret passions. Like this: you think you know everyone in your circle of friends, but you discover years later that one of them was secretly in love with you.

It's the house of slow burn, friendzone, friends to lovers... Sometimes it's a little difficult to decipher if a person is really into you or if they just consider you as a friend. This is one of the dangers of this house.

One thing that piss me off about this position, is that sometimes you two are in love with each other, but neither of you makes the first move. Even all your friends knows about you two. Like, get up sis.

If Venus falls in 11TH, there is a great chance of it being love at first sight. You feel comfortable around each other. Venus brings a feeling of acceptance and affection to the house. It's as if the house feels like it can trust her. The person of the house may begin to see the planet as a muse. He may start to speak highly of her to his friends, use her photo as a wallpaper, or even like to stalk her.

The funny thing is that the house is probably very shy in the presence of Venus. It's like he's seeing a goddess, and it kind of makes him nervous. Then he probably started making small gestures, all very subtle. You two will probably start dating out of nowhere. Your friends will not be shocked though.

You will probably realize that you are in love with each other, when out of nowhere you start living together or even having sex after a date with friends.

Mars here is a funny thing. (I speak with property and experience). You two probably like to tease each other in front of others. That type of couple that picks on everything the other says. Makes fun of his clothes or his manner. Just for fun. Others may think you hate each other, but it's just a way to spice things up.

Y'all are probably that type of couple that likes to make each other jealous. You guys likes to pick on superficial things, slap eachother and even swear in public.

But it all adds up to hot and wild sex in the end, so it's worth it.

Sex can be a fun thing here. Yall might use sex toys, showing off in front of others, trying oils and music, you guys might even like threesomes. It all depends on the vibe. more likely to talk and moan during the act.

Sex here is a matter of trust and friendship. You guys like being together because you already know where you like to be touched, you know your tastes and desires. It's a complete recipe. You two are insatiable, full of life and lust.

🧭 8th House: Your Biggest Challenges in Astrology 🧭

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8th House in Astrology rules over everything that is the considered to be the challenging parts of life. It has positive connotations in a way that through these challenges we find our brightest light. The lessons in the 8th house present themselves through our connections with other people, whether its physically, mentally, emotionally or even spiritually. Because through our connection with others we learn about life. 8th house is also connected with debts, other people's resources, being involved in drama, but that's a topic for a different day. Let's see how you can use your 8th house to navigate your challenging lessons, so that the outcome is positive and growth oriented.

See where the ruler of your 8th house falls:

Check 8th House Sign (ex. Libra) -> Sign's Planetary Ruler (ex, Libra is ruled by Venus) -> Which house the ruler falls into (ex, Venus in 4th House)

The signs and their rulers: Don't use Uranus, Neptune and Pluto as rulers of any signs. Firstly it lack proper credits, and second it's just not it (found after 1700s). We rather rely on the Traditional Astrology that has been around for millenias (since about 2nd Century CE). It just makes so much more sense (I'm going to make a long detailed post about this).

Aries, Scorpio: Mars

Taurus, Libra: Venus

Gemini, Virgo: Mercury

Cancer: Moon

Leo: Sun

Sagittarius, Pisces: Jupiter

Capricorn, Aquarius: Saturn

If you have your ruler of the 8H in the 1H, all the lessons that you experience lead you back to yourself. It's an extremely self-development oriented aspect. Your challenges and lessons shape the way you view the world. So whenever such lessons strike, seek to understand how it alters the way you understand reality and life itself. These challenges are presented to you so that you can understand no one but yourself, better. You might have a bit of insecurities and self esteem issues, that result from challenging experiences. Seek to nurture yourself in whatever way you feel the most comfortable, and put your beliefs + values first and foremost.

If you have your ruler of the 8H in the 2H, you are here to practice healthy give and take. You experience people meddling in your business all the time. Perhaps you are always stuck with people using your for your resources or material possessions or simply taking more from you than they can ever return, vice versa. Your lesson is to prioritize yourself, but also not be greedy or manipulative with others. Try to not overly attach with material outcomes, and you shall see a much better flow of finances, resources, etc. Seek healthy ways of intermingling with others, of trading and making deals. Don't lessen your personal value for anyone.

If you have your ruler of the 8H in the 3H, your biggest lesson is to express your thoughts and ideas in a better way. If you have your Mercury here *as the ruler, then it means literally speech issues like stammering or even difficultly concentrating. If you have Moon here *as the ruler, then inability to express your emotions into words. Beware of gossip or spreading misinformation, and also consuming information that is unverified or unconfirmed, since you are much more prone to issues with miscommunication. Seek journaling or writing as it can help you regulate all those thoughts in a better way. And don't hold yourself back from speaking up.

If you have your ruler of the 8H in the 4H, you have this sense of privacy that you seek to protect at all costs. The issues you regularly struggle with have to do with being vulnerable and not being able to open up, or opening up too much with anyone. There could be issues with the home and family life, perhaps there are people constantly prying over your personal life or violating your boundaries, or some of your family members being a pain in the butt. There are many ways to tackle these issues, but the best one is too have proper and healthy boundaries, because you are not everyone else's business. Seek close and trusted people to confide in.

If you have your ruler of the 8H in 5H, you might struggle a lot with either being too serious or not being serious at all when it comes to life's pleasures and fun. Striking a balance is the key. People also take advantage of your light-hearted nature, therefore your must have healthy boundaries that allows you to protect your creative and happy space. People can meddle between your kids or your creative endeavors. Your biggest lessons come from you learning how to rely on your creative self expression. Do not be afraid to shine. Your light is very strong and you deserve to feel the best. Seek to explore cool forms of expression and prioritize your inner child.

If you have your ruler of the 8H in 6H, you are meant to prioritize your routines and learn how to be a more grounded/organized/productive person. The thing is you don't need to burn yourself out or push yourself to do tasks/things that simply aren't working out, just for the sake of it. Instead, set systems that actually suit you. Do not make grand resolutions that you actually cannot put to ground. You have a bit of challenge with the material realm, either being too obsessed with perfection or being super disorganized. Some can even have a bit of health issues. Seek balance and create a healthy lifestyle that you actually enjoy living with. Build systems and not routines.

If you have the ruler of your 8H in 7H, most of your challenges and transformative situations in life has to do with others. These could be relationships, partnerships, friendships and family. Through people, you learn and grow. If you have your Venus in the 7H *as the ruler of 8H, you experience very life changing things in regards to romance and building connections with others. If you have Mercury in the 7H *as the ruler of the 8H, you experience difficultly expressing yourself with others. If you have Moon in the 7H *as the ruler of the 8H, you may have attachment issues. So seek healthy forms of communication, expression, etc. Try to learn the healthy patters of being in relationships and don't hold onto people that stall you from moving forward. Easier said than done, but even being aware of yourself helps a ton!

If you have the ruler of your 8H in 8H, you might go through a lot of shitty situations, but you are tough af. This is actually a pretty good aspect because your challenges don't leak to other areas of your life. The only area it affects, ie, the 8H, is about getting involved in other people's lives deeply, psychology and the occult. So you may resort to things like shadow work, alternative healing, etc, to help you transmute all this shadow into light. With this aspect you need to make sure that you don't make 'healing' your entire identity or make your pain your identity, especially if you have a major planetary ruler such as Sun or Moon. You are here to learn about the deeper parts of life, and that is not always dark and shadowy. Sometimes the lessons you learn from other people can be your most motivating teachers in life. So, take it easy. It happens for you, not to you.

If you have the ruler of your 8H in the 9H, you are here to literally find the light at the end of the tunnel. If the 8H is about the shadow, 9H is about the light. Your lessons give you a really big opportunity to go towards the brighter side of things. And at the same time these lessons are very much ingrained with becoming more open minded with life, being interested in learning about life on a higher level such as philosophy or self development. On the other hand, these challenges can also be related with foreign travel, other cultures, higher education, global media platforms, philosophy, etc, so make sure you tackle these accordingly. You struggle more with letting go and getting "lucky" in life because you tend to get comfortable in the uncomfortable side of life. Seek to expand beyond your challenges, and resolve painful situations by connecting with your spiritual/religious side.

If you have the ruler of your 8H in the 10H, you biggest challenges steams from your career and public reputation. You tend to be a bit more secretive about your life when out in public, or simply view others as prying on your private life. People might become manipulative with you when it comes to your career and you might be prone to people spreading batshit about you all the time. There are a lot of ways these events can be tackled, but one of the advice is to not let others know information about your work or achievements unless they are someone you trust A LOT. People can use you to gain some type of fame or take credit for things they didn't even do. You publicly go through tough things, whether that 'public' is just relatives or a few friends/acquaintances. People always get to know about your challenges and lessons for some reason. So, be careful of how much you let random people know.

If you have the ruler of your 8H in the 11H, you experience a bit of similar situation as the ones who has their ruler in the 10H, but the difference is, people use your issues to propel themselves forward in some way or the other. For the 10H persons, people only spread rumors about them and talk about their issues. But for you, people use it to their advantage. You might have a bit of challenge with making genuine connections with others, as in networking and socializing (not personal relationships). These people can use you to advance their career, use and exploit your ideas and work to give themselves a boost. And you might also struggle with creating long term plans and holding your visions. So the advice for the manipulative people part is that hold on until you actually know that someone is trustworthy. And even then, don't tell them everything about your plans and your dreams. 11H or not, some people are very quick to take advantage of our dreams.

If you have the ruler of your 8H in 12H, first of all I want to do is give you a big hug! *sending a virtual hug*. The reason I say this is because both these houses have a reputation for bringing a lot of intense and transformative situations in a person's life in a variety of ways, but not everyone is able to instantly identity these toxic patterns and help themselves get out of it. With this placement your biggest challenges have a deeply rooted karmic hint to them. And almost all the time, it requires for you to understand what that karma is and end that cycle so that you can grow. Based on the planetary ruler in the 12H your situation can be the most intense to least intense, but what is asks for you is to identity the subconscious/subliminal patterns that keep you stuck in life, and transmute them into healing. Take it easy, don't make 'healing' your entire identity. Focus on grounding and your well-being, first and foremost.

Thank you for reading! Stay tuned for more Astrology content 🏹✨️!

aries-libra axis🌋

continuing with my series of axis fynamics, if you haven’t read the previous part, you can read it here i’ve already talked about how i see oppositions as two opposite ends of the very same thing, as two sides of one coin, and how they are more about balancing and completing each other rather than opposing forces that are fighting. soooo, today let’s talk about aries-libra axis!

aries-libra line is a true representation of masculine vs feminine, yang and yin, bc basically aries is a martian sign and libra is a venusian one. if you’re into greek mythology, you probably already know about Mars and Venus relationships - they were lovers deeply keen on each other, and even had children, which are Eros, Anteros, Harmonia, as well as Demios and Phobos. stay with me here, bc imo understanding of this axis is closely linked to mythology.

first two brothers rule over love: Eros is the god of passionate love and sexual desire, and Anteros is, on the other hand, the god of rational and required love. second two bros are heavily contrasting with first ones, being the rulers of fear (Phobos) and terror (Demios). and also, there is a sister Harmonia, which (you may have already guessed) is the goddes of harmony and concord. do you notice a pattern here?

Mars (Ares) - the god of cruel war, fighting and everything related to agressive masculine (which also includes motivation and libido) and Venus (Aphrodite) - the goddes of love and beauty, which also was able to change her looks to charm and seduce whoever. and those two completely opposing forces - the undomitable forceful warrior and a magnificent and flexible goddes of beauty gave birth to gods of extremes and a goddes of harmony and balance.

now lets return to zodiacal archetypes: aries is a sign of self. It’s a sign of beginnings, where one usually is full of hotheaded energy, desire and motivation to go-go-go! It represents the head, which is kinda where the masculine energy is ruling over (head over heart). aries itself is so eager to be the pioneer and the leader, that sometimes he suddently realizes that he is, actually, left alone in his own world - whether it’s because he is too far ahead from others, or becaused everybody left his territories that he’s been so protective of. in pursuit of fighting for one’s justice he lost the point he was fighting for.

and on the opposite side of the spectrum there’re libras - the most others oriented sign. i’ve already pointed out how Aphrodite could shift her appearance to appeal the most beautiful to every eye there is on her way. libras (on the contrast with another venusian sign taurus) have kind of inhereted this ability and now are one of the most flexible and socially adaptible signs of the zodiac. libras sense for justuce, on the contrary with aries, is others oriented, up to the point that libras could come to realize that there’s no such thing as their own self, their territory, bc of how eager they were to keep the world in balance. in pursuit of balancing the world out they sacrificed their own selves.

and when those two are put together - that’s where the magic happens. aries shows libras how it is to be unapologetically themselves and how to fight for what they believe in, while libras open aries’s minds to the surrounding world and to other’s points of view. and all of the sudden aries are not fighting alone - now they have their own people and global purpose, while libras develop the sense of self. together those two bring real harmony and balance, and i think it’s beautiful💗

daily reminder that i hate 12th synastry

he keeps showing up in my dreams even though I think I'm over him

12TH SYNASTRY CULTURE 🛸 {PART 2}

12TH in synastry, is making love mentally. It's stimulating the darkest places in the partner's mind. You don't need to be near each other to know that something has happened.

It's mystical, it's like you're exploring the dark and cold universe alone. It's like you have a mental and spiritual connection, you bring out the best in the person in the house.

There might also be a bit of disillusionment there. Especially if Neptune and Venus fall there. You give the person of the house the role of muse. You write songs, poems and poetry about her. You put her in the lead role, which ends up putting the expectations very high on her. That never ends well.

You two are like a psychedelic dream, it's an explosion of colors and feelings. It's a very strong connection that can end up leading to hatred. So be aware of the signs, give space and time for the two of you.

If you two recently broke up, you're probably having trouble getting over the person. She appears in your dreams as a ghost. I've been there.

It's karmic, the two of you probably met in a past life. That doesn't mean you're soul mates destined to be together. Most likely you came into this life to resolve issues from the past, and let go. There's better things coming your way, believe me.

Venus-Pluto Aspects in Synastry

(In this post Venus may sometimes be referred to as she and Pluto as he, this is nothing to do with actual gender it’s simply the masculine and feminine energies that the Planets represent and constantly saying Pluto-Venus got quite redundant.)

Venus Conjunct Pluto 

The Pluto persons hidden desires and fears are awakened by the Venus person. The Pluto’s obsession for the Venus person is intense and often hidden. The Venus senses something deep and powerful lurking within the Pluto person, they are both fascinated and scared of the intensity of the Pluto. Often Venus doesn’t realize that Pluto has set his eyes on her, his desires are primal and passionate, he might watch her like he wants to tear her apart. She is light and carefree, able to chanel the energy of the Sign the conjunction is occupied by in an easy going and charming way, he wants to possess her perhaps even destroy her. A lot of the time these two don’t even come together. Pluto doesn’t want to lose his power, and power games between these two are popular, so he never makes the move. I noticed that Pluto is the one who usually has the upper hand in the relationship. If Venus is fascinated with the depth and passion of the Pluto person and makes her interest known, Pluto will often feel like he already did all that he had to do, he got her. Making the move would mean giving her the upper hand, now one might be rejected and lose the power. The relationship is often extremely passionate, the two cannot get enough of one another, they seem to always be together, obsession is very common in this configuration and Pluto is often very jealous of who Venus is giving their attentions to. Sometimes I find that Pluto can be quite mean to Venus, this is something they do to protect themselves they want to seem like Venus means nothing to them and therefore has no power to hurt them. Pluto is terrified of being hurt or rejected by the Venus person. Sex here can be healing to both parties, Pluto is a great lover that brings a lot of passion and heat into the bedroom, their touch is something Venus can become addicted to. These two love being in close proximity to one another, they seem to always be touching. Pluto loves to touch Venus and Venus melts to that touch. In general sex is quite amazing for the two of them, they are very compatible in this area and once that boundary is crossed sex becomes very important and quite constant. Sometimes Venus may sense something dark beneath the Pluto person and might just choose to stay away, they feel a destruction coming on and if they aren’t the type to like having their world shaken up then they best stay away. This relationship is very transformative, Venus shows Pluto the lighter aspects of life, and Pluto is able to bring Venus below the shallows and into the depths of love. These two tend to always remember one another, even if it was a short relationship, or maybe it never even became anything solid, these two will remember one another forty years down the line because something deep within them was transformed or brough to consciousness during the union. There is often an end to something in both peoples lives that leads to a rebirth. This might denote a secret love affair, a lot of the time other people around the couple have no idea that the two are involved romantically. 

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