Trans Anger Is Justified. I Have Been Told My Entire Life That Who I Am Was Less Important Than How People

Trans anger is justified. I have been told my entire life that who I am was less important than how people feel about me and when I came out, I was bombarded with denial. I've been told that I'm predatory simply because I am trans, I've been called names, I've been put under the microscope dozens of times.

If trans anger makes you uncomfortable, know that transphobia has made millions of trans people uncomfortable and unsafe.

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the “softboy” aesthetic isn’t inherently infantilizing, the infantilization comes from how other people treat those who use the aesthetic or apply it to people who don’t. It’s okay to not like the softboy aesthetic, it’s okay to feel uncomfortable with using it, it’s okay to remind people not to apply the term to people (especially trans people) without confirmation that they’re comfortable with it

however, the fact that Every Single Time someone complains about the term it’s “uwu softboi ittle wittle babies that are okay with infantilizing themselves” is actually, infantilizing people who use the softboy aesthetic because you don’t like it. the constant mocking and othering of the term has made it actively uncomfortable for me to use it, which is rather Unfortunate considering I was drawn to the term because it helped me feel confident in presenting the way that I wanted to while easing my social dysphoria. it’s comforting to me, a 5′3 gnc trans masc person, to be told that I’m Allowed to not be traditionally masculine. it’s comforting for my dysphoria to embrace my presentation as not undercutting my identity. it’s then, of course, Very Uncomfortable for people to constantly pick at the term and the people who used it. 

what it comes down to is treating people like they’re infantile because they happen to be feminine, which is particularly gross in trans spaces. I absolutely understand that trans men deserve the space to be unapologetically masculine, everyone Deserves to present and be treated in a way that they feel comfortable, but I Really wish the expression of this didn’t come at the expense of people who aren’t. 

Dude you know the question you asked what do conservatives get out of supernatural? So yesterday I found out that a friend of mine from high school who is a 22yo white cishet right-leaning Roman Catholic dude who is currently serving in the military watched all 15 seasons of supernatural. Apparently he liked the guns and the fighting and he also felt like Sam and Deans’ relationship with each other and with their father reflected a lot of his own experiences growing up with 5 brothers and a military father who was gone more often than not. When he started watching, his fav character was Sam but by the end, that had shifted to Dean although he disliked the fact that Dean was, and this is a direct quote, “such a whore.” I asked him if he liked the ending and he said that it was okay, that Dean’s death was “bullshit” but that the brothers got to enter heaven together and that’s what was most important. I additionally asked him what he thought of Castiel and he said that he thought his character was boring and he disliked it when the show tried to make Cas the center of episodes. He had absolutely no memory of what happened in 15x18 and had to look up the synopsis again to remember that Cas died. **********ADDITIONAL FACTS ABOUT MY FRIEND THAT MAKE ALL OF THIS ABSOLUTELY HYSTERICAL: we met through ballet, one of his other favorite shows is Hannibal, he is an absolutely lethal jujitsu fighter, he has no idea what tumblr is, he works on motorcycles and vintage cars for fun which his dad taught him how to do, and when he was 18, after his gf at the time cheated on him, he decided to give up on women and he dated a gay friend of his for 3 months. Apparently he figured out pretty quickly that he was “definitely straight” but he kept dating/having sex with his friend/boyfriend until they both moved away because “he was a genuinely good dude” and he “didn’t have to catch so it was fine.” Yes he did suck dick. I asked

HELLO????????

My whole queer experience has been ✨denial✨

being trans is like one long retail shift. I won’t elaborate.