Deruwan2 - Fuck Post Limit

it doesnt matter what all of the intricacies of your identity are, if lesbian resonates with you, if lesbianism is where you find your home, your a lesbian through and through. you can have the most complex, confusing, or even "contradicting" gender and/or orientation, and youre still just as valid as any other lesbian! you dont need to worry about how others perceive you, or how others try to define words for the whole community, because they dont have an actual say in how you can identify or how anyone can use a word (bc words arent static and dont mean just one thing all the time and everywhere).

all queer labels can be open and fluid! all of them are available to the messy, complex existences so many of us fall into! just because we dont fall into cookie cutter molds that society wants of us, doesnt mean we dont exist, that we have to force ourselves to fit them- we deserve to exist in our own way and be our incredible, unique selves 💖

heres to every lesbian with complex identities, i love you and im here for you! 🌙🌙🌸

being trans is like one long retail shift. I won’t elaborate.

on another note: trans men are not rewarded for being feminine.

I know it can be hard to forget in microcommunities on tumblr, but trans men are Not rewarded by society for being feminine. either their identity as trans men are called into question/suppressed entirely, or they’re (correctly) interpreted as gnc men and treated as such.

I did not have my parents look me in the face and tell me that they were struggling to see me as a man because I chose to wore a skirt one time only to have someone on tumblr dot com imply that the way that I choose to present is somehow the default or Easy way for trans men to exist. I did not question whether I’d be Safe presenting the way that I want to while transitioning because I Know I live in alabama and that being a visibly gnc man could be dangerous only for someone to imply that “uwu softbois” are the socially acceptable version of trans men (which is why they’re justified in mocking them)

People call autistic and other specific groups of disabled people “fae” and use that to justify literally murdering us for hundreds of years, and now they get mad when we reclaim that language and they say we’re disrespecting Fae (like how folks disrespected us by hurting us and saying it’s justified because we’re Fae?) or say we’re disrespecting what is oftentimes our own cultures or the cultures of our own people.

I’m very much not joking on this. If you admonish someone (especially a disabled person) for calling themself fae in some way, even if you think you’re defending your culture or fae themselves, you need to think very critically about the history of fae with disabled people and about your dynamic in that.

This is a real, very long history that still has affects today, and the moment some disabled people have started to reclaim it, some of y’all have turned around and said we have no right to it.