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Criminal Minds - 6x14 | 7x1 | 7x12 | 11x19

also i wonder what it’s like to not be afraid that you annoy every single person you ever interact with

Aftercare is not a secret BDSM ritual.

Aftercare is paying attention to your partner and their needs after the sex is over, whatever those needs may be, after whatever type of intimacy has just taken place. Your partner will tell you what their needs are after sex, if they volunteer it, or if you ask them. Caring about your partner’s post sex needs and tending to them is something that should happen in all healthy relationships, whether they are based in BDSM, or are vanilla relationships. Aftercare is not a secret BDSM ritual.

Angst fics can help people come to terms with their own grief, begin healing, or give people that good cry that they need.

Smut fics can help people affirm and accept their sexuality. It can help them explore their sexuality in a safe way. They can also just be fun, and having fun is a drastically undervalued way to improve your mental health.

Dark fics can help people face their fears or process their trauma. It can make them feel safer and more secure. It can help them find their courage.

Fluff fics can give people rest and respite and comfort. It can give them hope that soft places exist and that maybe there is one out there for them. It can bring up their mood, which, if they have depression, can be a life saver.

And every fic people write makes someone feel less alone.

Point being, just because a particular thing doesn’t serve you, doesn’t mean it lacks value.

This is not to say that we have to consume all fic uncritically. Of course not. It is just to say that entire “genres” aren’t trash or lacking value just because they don’t serve you.