What Does It Mean To Be Mspec And Gay/lesbian? Like Does It Mean, Homo-romantic Bi/pan/poly/omni-sexual

what does it mean to be mspec and gay/lesbian? like does it mean, homo-romantic bi/pan/poly/omni-sexual (or vice versa)? or bi/pan/poly/omni-romantic and homo-romantic (or sexual) at the same time? or both? ???

there’s a few meanings!

1) (mspec)romantic + homosexual or homoromantic + (mspec)sexual

2) being attracted to multiple genders, and because of your own gender, you’re gay for all of them

3) being mspec, but highly prioritizing or much more strongly feeling your attraction to the same gender to the point that gay/lesbian fits you a lot of the time

4) using the historical, non-exclusionary definitions of gay and lesbian and thus being gay/lesbian because you’re mlm/wlw/nln

5) having a fluid/flux/flexible orientation (typically in this situation, the person always or almost always feels mlm/wlw/nln attraction and sometimes is attracted to other genders, but it varies)

6) (i’ll use lesbian for this explanation, but it also works for gay) being attracted to women and nonbinary people/certain groups of nonbinary people (such as unaligned enbies or demigirls), and though you consider your attraction to all of them to be lesbian, you also want to acknowledge that you’re attracted to more than one gender

7) i’ve seen this one less, but i have seen some gays/lesbians use mspec gay/lesbian labels because they had a partner come out as trans (as in, they were in a lesbian relationship but the partner came out as a trans man, etc) and though they still identify as gay/lesbian wrt all other situations, they’re still attracted to their partner and recognize that that makes them mspec

and there could be more, but that’s off the top of my head!

How to show emotions

Part IV

How to show bitterness

tightness around their eyes

pinched mouth

sour expression on their face

crossed arms

snorting angrily

turning their eyes upward

shaking their head

How to show hysteria

fast breathing

chest heaving

trembling of their hands

weak knees, giving in

tears flowing down their face uncontrollably

laughing while crying

not being able to stand still

How to show awe

tension leaving their body

shoulders dropping

standing still

opening mouth

slack jaw

not being able to speak correctly

slowed down breathing

wide eyes open

softening their gaze

staring unabashingly

How to show shame

vacant stare

looking down

turning their head away

cannot look at another person

putting their head into their hands

shaking their head

How to show being flustered

blushing

looking down

nervous smile

sharp intake of breath

quickening of breath

blinking rapidly

breaking eye contact

trying to busy their hands

playing with their hair

fidgeting with their fingers

opening mouth without speaking

Part I + Part II + Part III

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it's 2024 and people are still accidentally deleting their ENTIRE tumblr accounts while trying to remove a sideblog, so... a PSA.

do not "delete" the sideblog. you have to change the "members" (admins/mods) of the sideblog to zero.

you can either do this by removing yourself from the list of members, or if you want to be extra safe you can add a burner account (ACCOUNT. NOT SIDEBLOG) as one or the members and THEN remove yourself

or, to be even safer, just set the sideblog to "password protected" - which means that no one can view it.

this website is made out of duct tape and it is very likely that if you try to delete a sideblog, you will delete everything.

good traits gone bad

perfectionism - never being satisfied

honesty - coming off as rude and insensitive

devotion - can turn into obsession

generosity - being taken advantage of

loyalty - can make them blind for character faults in others

being dependable - always depending on them

ambitiousness - coming off as ruthless

optimism - not being realistic

diligence - not able to bend strict rules

protectiveness - being overprotective

cautiousness - never risking anything

being determined - too focussed on one thing

persuasiveness - coming off as manipulative

tidiness - can become an obsession

being realistic - being seen as pessimistic

assertiveness - coming off as bossy

pride - not accepting help from others

innocence - being seen as naive

selflessness - not thinking about themself enough

being forgiving - not holding others accountable

curiosity - asking too much questions

persistence - being seen as annoying

being charming - can seem manipulative

modesty - not reaching for more

confidence - coming off as arrogant

wit/humor - not taking things serious

patience - being left hanging

strategic - coming off as calculated

being caring - being overbearing

tolerance - being expected to tolerate a lot

eagerness - coming off as impatient

being observant - being seen as nosy

independence - not accepting help

being considerate - forgetting about themself

fearlessness - ignoring real danger

politeness - not telling what they really think

reliability - being taken advantage of

empathy - getting overwhelmed with feeling too much for other people

I haven't personally verified this as I'm not at a computer, but multiple people in multiple places are saying the same thing. This is fucking insane. First the endless war on UBlock, then the Chromium changes to shut out some blocker functionalities entirely next year, now this?

Something is deeply rotten in recent Google/YouTube policy. I can't imagine that this is legal - how is this not anticompetitive? Google needs to get mega fucked in the press and the courts sooner rather than later.

And I need to switch to Firefox as soon as I get home.

Stuff kids on tumblr better relearn

1. You are responsible for your own media experience. 

2. There is such a thing as a healthy level of avoidance towards topics that make you feel unwell or even (in a real-life clinical definition of the term) trigger you - but you are the one to actively take care of what you view.

3. Avoiding does not mean policing others.

4. You have no right to tell artists to censor themselves - you may criticize what others do, you may dislike it, that’s fine - but actively asking for censorship when you could easily unfollow or block a person just makes you look incompetent in your use of the internet.

5. Do not give people on tumblr or /any/ website the responsibility for your emotional well-being. Because these people do not even know you so no, you have no right to ask them to take care of you.